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Title: Came out to my mother yesterday.
Post by: Shodan on March 03, 2013, 09:49:50 PM
Post by: Shodan on March 03, 2013, 09:49:50 PM
So I came out to my mother yesterday. My parents live about 90 miles away from us, which is about the perfect spot for them. Close enough that if we want to see each other we can, but far enough away that it's sort of inconvenient for random visits. Don't get me wrong. I love my parents, but they sometimes drive me nuts. Up until that point, the only other person who I've come out to in my family is my wife (who told her mother and stepfather (which is okay because she asked for permission first and granted it)). The conversation... did not go as expected. It went something like this:
ME: Mom.... I'm.... I'm... (add about another two or three minutes of trying to work up the courage to spit it out.) I'm transsexual.
MOM: COOL!
;D
I was literally struck speechless. I mean, I knew out of all my family she'd be the most accepting. But to be so, I don't know, excited about it threw me for a loop. We had a good talk about it for an hour afterwards, where I expressed my concern about coming out to my father and my son. My mom gave me some great insight to him, and it makes me hopeful that he'll be more accepting of me than I thought. She also mentioned that she's always wanted a daughter, and is happy that she's finally getting one after all these years.
Even though I'm Athiest, I think it's pretty safe to say that I'm truly blessed to have two loving and supporting women in my life to help me through this journey. With the way things are falling into place, and with each step I take being validated, I'm becoming more confident that I'm doing the right thing. Of course there's a part of me that's waiting for the other shoe to drop, but that's the old me thinking, and I'm glad to say that I'm beginning to hear his voice less and less.
ME: Mom.... I'm.... I'm... (add about another two or three minutes of trying to work up the courage to spit it out.) I'm transsexual.
MOM: COOL!
;D
I was literally struck speechless. I mean, I knew out of all my family she'd be the most accepting. But to be so, I don't know, excited about it threw me for a loop. We had a good talk about it for an hour afterwards, where I expressed my concern about coming out to my father and my son. My mom gave me some great insight to him, and it makes me hopeful that he'll be more accepting of me than I thought. She also mentioned that she's always wanted a daughter, and is happy that she's finally getting one after all these years.
Even though I'm Athiest, I think it's pretty safe to say that I'm truly blessed to have two loving and supporting women in my life to help me through this journey. With the way things are falling into place, and with each step I take being validated, I'm becoming more confident that I'm doing the right thing. Of course there's a part of me that's waiting for the other shoe to drop, but that's the old me thinking, and I'm glad to say that I'm beginning to hear his voice less and less.
Title: Re: Came out to my mother yesterday.
Post by: justmeinoz on March 04, 2013, 03:58:15 AM
Post by: justmeinoz on March 04, 2013, 03:58:15 AM
Your mother is TOTALLY AWESOME. Please give her a hug from me, a parent myself.
Karen.
Karen.
Title: Came out to my mother yesterday.
Post by: Ellieka on March 04, 2013, 04:05:52 AM
Post by: Ellieka on March 04, 2013, 04:05:52 AM
Can I borrow your mom? ;)
Such an awesome coming out story! I'm really happy for you :)
Such an awesome coming out story! I'm really happy for you :)
Title: Re: Came out to my mother yesterday.
Post by: Shodan on March 04, 2013, 04:58:24 PM
Post by: Shodan on March 04, 2013, 04:58:24 PM
Quote from: The Original Cami on March 04, 2013, 04:05:52 AM
Can I borrow your mom? ;)
Such an awesome coming out story! I'm really happy for you :)
To be honest, I think my mom would like to be mom for all of you if she could. But there's only so much of her to go around.
Title: Re: Came out to my mother yesterday.
Post by: transience on March 21, 2013, 04:15:20 PM
Post by: transience on March 21, 2013, 04:15:20 PM
First, Congratulations! and glad to hear your mom is so supporting!
Funny enough, my coming out to my mom was very similar..I live with her though so there was the added stress. Was very stressed working up the courage to come out to her, could barely eat or sleep for like a week before finally breaking down to her.
And then she was like "That's fine I love you no matter what, you're my child." I was very relieved..and then she said "What's a transexual?" which of course made me panic again lol. so cute and naive. but eventually after explaining she was still ok with it.
To be honest I was a bit surprised, She didn't question it or doubt it or anything like that and that threw me off more then anything. I was even trying to prod it from her.."really? no questions? nothing?" lol.
Funny enough, my coming out to my mom was very similar..I live with her though so there was the added stress. Was very stressed working up the courage to come out to her, could barely eat or sleep for like a week before finally breaking down to her.
And then she was like "That's fine I love you no matter what, you're my child." I was very relieved..and then she said "What's a transexual?" which of course made me panic again lol. so cute and naive. but eventually after explaining she was still ok with it.
To be honest I was a bit surprised, She didn't question it or doubt it or anything like that and that threw me off more then anything. I was even trying to prod it from her.."really? no questions? nothing?" lol.
Title: Re: Came out to my mother yesterday.
Post by: Anna++ on March 21, 2013, 04:18:32 PM
Post by: Anna++ on March 21, 2013, 04:18:32 PM
Congratulations on the supportive response! :) I'm jealous.