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Title: Full time Wednesday
Post by: RosieD on March 10, 2013, 01:24:54 AM
Post by: RosieD on March 10, 2013, 01:24:54 AM
So Wednesday (or to be entirely accurate 17:30 GMT on Tuesday-when I leave work) I won't have to pretend male anymore. The gender specialist insisted on it, the company I work for are very supportive of it and I am looking forwards to it.
The last bit of the above is what would have surprised me up until about 3 months ago. I thought it would be absolutely impossible until I had some HRT at least to stop me from being so glaringly, obviously male but, as has been noted on here lots of times, that turned out to be a problem with my thinking rather than a problem. I think the first prod in the right direction was when I caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror and thought "pretty lady" rather than "ugh, look at that nose, those shoulders and the tiny lips".
So, if you're struggling towards being ready, then I advise you to relax and just keep pointing in the right direction. Do buy the top that makes you look lovely, do try out that colour that you swear you will get away with and do not believe that you must do 'x' first.
Love,
R
The last bit of the above is what would have surprised me up until about 3 months ago. I thought it would be absolutely impossible until I had some HRT at least to stop me from being so glaringly, obviously male but, as has been noted on here lots of times, that turned out to be a problem with my thinking rather than a problem. I think the first prod in the right direction was when I caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror and thought "pretty lady" rather than "ugh, look at that nose, those shoulders and the tiny lips".
So, if you're struggling towards being ready, then I advise you to relax and just keep pointing in the right direction. Do buy the top that makes you look lovely, do try out that colour that you swear you will get away with and do not believe that you must do 'x' first.
Love,
R
Title: Re: Full time Wednesday
Post by: sam79 on March 10, 2013, 01:38:58 AM
Post by: sam79 on March 10, 2013, 01:38:58 AM
A good therapist is worth their weight in gold!
Congratulations, and I'm sure it will come completely naturally.
Congratulations, and I'm sure it will come completely naturally.
Title: Re: Full time Wednesday
Post by: Beth Andrea on March 23, 2013, 07:19:53 PM
Post by: Beth Andrea on March 23, 2013, 07:19:53 PM
Congrats! C'mon in, the water's fine!
Title: Re: Full time Wednesday
Post by: Rita on March 30, 2013, 09:36:58 AM
Post by: Rita on March 30, 2013, 09:36:58 AM
Gotta start somewhere ;D
Learn that the fear is all in your mind, and confidence trumps looks when passing. Of course there a re physical aspects to that confidence and you will probably fail more than once, old habits are hard to unlearn.
Learn that the fear is all in your mind, and confidence trumps looks when passing. Of course there a re physical aspects to that confidence and you will probably fail more than once, old habits are hard to unlearn.