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I guess this only applies to those who are now living full time, or at least enough time to have to use the bathroom while out and about. Have you ever gone into a bathroom and had a fellow girl actually approach you and ask if you had a pad or something? I guess it wouldn't have to be in just a bathroom, but has another girl ever asked you for something like this?

I ask because I read this article on Girl Code and how its an unwritten code that girls develope as soon as they menstruate. It basically involves helping a girl out no matter what.

It hasn't happened to me, but I know my spouse has given her mini pad to others in the restroom, once while I was in there too.  It never hurts to keep a safety pad hidden in one of the pockets of your purse.

That's good to know...never thought of that "event" before, but yeah nearly every woman under the age of 45ish must deal with Aunt Flo...

Hmm... Haven't. Though since the third time when I was told by a man I had the wrong bathroom, I'm always at the women's if there's no unisex bathroom... assuming it's not too full (or so full I wouldn't be noticed). In which case I avoid the bathroom altogether.

Honestly, not having socially transitionned yet and having zero self-confidence, I've been pretty much fleeing enough to make such an occurrence pretty much a miracle.

Here's an interesting twist...
Would you ask another girl in the bathroom for a pad or liner? Maybe youre having light vaginal discharge or maybe you just want to try this. Would you do it? I think I would...

I'd have better luck in the women's room asking, "Pardon me, but do you have any Grey Poupon?" Before the  :police: showed up. I would be so far out of my element kind of like being in the women's intimates department looking at bras for women with double D's when I just barely make a B... ;D

I can't recall ever having this happen in my decades of ladies' room use. I have been asked to pass toilet paper under the stall though. Perhaps female friends may ask (don't know; never really had any), but I think it's pretty rare among strangers. A woman would probably only ask this if she had an 'accident'. That doesn't mean it might not be nice to carry around just for the hell of it in case. I would stick to pads instead of tampons though. Sometimes women use 'light flow' pads or panty liners when they're not menstruating for discharge. It would seem less odd for a woman who doesn't menstruate to have in her purse. Hmm Wonder if post-op women experience discharge?

In my wife's case it was someone from work (at the college) that asked for a pad (the machine was empty).

Nope... but I don't use public restrooms often. I may have gone in the womens room like 3 times in my whole life. But even if I did I wouldn't carry one and would probably say "No, sorry!" .. that's it, that's all I have lol.

Never been asked this in my 3 months of full time would be useful though just to have one in my purse just for a special scenario like this. I wish I could get the red tide once a month I tell my girlfriends that and they are always like no you don't I'm like YES I do. Lol

I don't... eff that lol!

I do wish I could get pregnant though :(

Quote from: Serena Lynn on March 12, 2013, 11:07:32 AM
Never been asked this in my 3 months of full time would be useful though just to have one in my purse just for a special scenario like this. I wish I could get the red tide once a month I tell my girlfriends that and they are always like no you don't I'm like YES I do. Lol

That's one of the biggest sources of resentment cis women have about trans women besides invading their domain, that you don't have to go through what they have to endure every month.

Quote from: Alainaluvsu on March 12, 2013, 11:10:41 AM
I don't... eff that lol!

I do wish I could get pregnant though :(

You gotta have the red tide to get preggos! :)

I'd so love to have a baby. When my ex wife had my daughter that's all I could think about when she was in labor. That should be me! :(

I've never had any woman I know who complained because I don't go through Shark Week. 

Quote from: Sarah Louise on March 12, 2013, 11:28:32 AM
I've never had any woman I know who complained because I don't go through Shark Week.

I have beginning with my wife and all her friends, they all know I'm easy to discuss such things with which somehow gives them a pass on being able to rant to me about it. count yourself lucky.

Quote from: Shantel on March 12, 2013, 11:15:37 AM
That's one of the biggest sources of resentment cis women have about trans women besides invading their domain, that you don't have to go through what they have to endure every month.

Yes, those lucky trans girls. All they have have to deal with is electrolysis, laser, GRS, and augmentation surgery. Oh, and FFS. Yep, we don't suffer nearly enough.

Quote from: Alainaluvsu on March 12, 2013, 11:10:41 AM
I don't... eff that lol!

I do wish I could get pregnant though :(

Agreed

My lovely spouse likes to tease me about not having that wonderful monthly experience as well :)

All I know is I love how much cleaner and nice smelling the ladies restroom is.  Seriously though the most interaction I have gotten is washing my hands next to someone.

While its not my thing to have tampons on me, it might be good to carry some in case they ask :3 that way you dont have to speak in case yo don't feel comfy.

I get nervous around other woman because its ingrained in me that im going to jail for using it.

Quote from: Rita on March 12, 2013, 12:42:07 PM
All I know is I love how much cleaner and nice smelling the ladies restroom is. 

Clearly you've never been to the restrooms at my work...

Quote from: suzifrommd on March 12, 2013, 11:51:48 AM
Yes, those lucky trans girls. All they have have to deal with is electrolysis, laser, GRS, and augmentation surgery. Oh, and FFS. Yep, we don't suffer nearly enough.

Whenever I hear that "Trans girls have it better because they don't get periods", I think of a rapist blaming a victim for dressing too provocatively.

Oh, and you forgot the stress of trying to find trans friendly medical care, and feeling like you have to "prove yourself" as trans just so you can have a fulfilling life (by getting srs, hormones, etc.).

Quote from: suzifrommd on March 12, 2013, 11:51:48 AM
Yes, those lucky trans girls. All they have have to deal with is electrolysis, laser, GRS, and augmentation surgery. Oh, and FFS. Yep, we don't suffer nearly enough.

Yeah, so we should have periods too?

Quote from: Shantel on March 12, 2013, 11:15:37 AM
That's one of the biggest sources of resentment cis women have about trans women besides invading their domain, that you don't have to go through what they have to endure every month.

Yes I've heard that and my response would be: "You don't have gender dysphoria which is a 1000x more of a pain in the butt, so drink a nice tall glass of shut up!"

Just to chime in as someone socialized female, it's not weird as a girl to not have menstrual products on you. There's nothing "suspect" or not-passing about not having tampons or pads on your person at all times. But of course, there's no problem with having them either. :)

Quote from: Hippolover25 on March 12, 2013, 10:02:32 AM
Here's an interesting twist...
Would you ask another girl in the bathroom for a pad or liner? Maybe youre having light vaginal discharge or maybe you just want to try this. Would you do it? I think I would...

Of course I would. If you're caught off-guard by a period you didn't expect, your only other options are to bleed all around all day, to run home in a panic or to stuff your pants with toilet paper, awkwardly, assuming you're not wearing a skirt.

...Though after that I would SURE carry some with me ALL the time. Lesson learned, eh.

Ive had this happen, not in the toilets but with a coworker riding home in my car. Really its a rather private subject not something discussed...

So anyway she asks if I had something she might use,  a pad. I happened to have another friend's stash in my car...they're huge nappy-like pads, I mean pillows...actually I call them parachutes...poor soul.

Anyway I says "Yea check the glove box, but I dunno if theyre gonna be what you really want."

"Oh I'm sure they'll do." she says  **glove box opens**  ** gasping noise  then she spouts
"Oh my God you could do a bloody murder on this and no one would ever know!!"

:icon_weirdface::icon_weirdface:

Quote from: MaidofOrleans on March 12, 2013, 04:01:07 PM
Yes I've heard that and my response would be: "You don't have gender dysphoria which is a 1000x more of a pain in the butt, so drink a nice tall glass of shut up!"

Fo realz. Plus you don't have to worry about the dreaded coming out to a guy that's been hitting on you for the past 20 minutes. I'll take bleeding for 1/4 of my life from the age of 13-50 over being born with a penis any day of the week :P

Quote from: suzifrommd on March 12, 2013, 11:51:48 AM

Quote from: Shantel on March 12, 2013, 11:15:37 AM
That's one of the biggest sources of resentment cis women have about trans women besides invading their domain, that you don't have to go through what they have to endure every month.

Yes, those lucky trans girls. All they have have to deal with is electrolysis, laser, GRS, and augmentation surgery. Oh, and FFS. Yep, we don't suffer nearly enough.

Besides, I hear immediately following GRS is the mother of all periods...

Quote from: Not-so Fat Admin on March 21, 2013, 01:41:40 AM
Yes, those lucky trans girls. All they have have to deal with is electrolysis, laser, GRS, and augmentation surgery. Oh, and FFS. Yep, we don't suffer nearly enough.


Besides, I hear immediately following GRS is the mother of all periods...

It is indeed, so much so in my case I needed a blood transfusion. And yes, even now I get discharge, but not in the form of blood.