General Discussions => General discussions => ARGHHH! => Topic started by: Lesley_Roberta on March 27, 2013, 06:24:32 PM Return to Full Version
Title: Life is already full enough, I don't need to go looking for more!!!
Post by: Lesley_Roberta on March 27, 2013, 06:24:32 PM
Post by: Lesley_Roberta on March 27, 2013, 06:24:32 PM
ARRRRGGHHHHH!!
So ya, life has gotten plenty of levels of intense, what with trying to figure out a constantly changing landscape.
I don't have more room on my plate to juggle the problems of others right now..... sorry.
Grrrr my son has a buddy of his from school and he's atypically teen messed up no direction and no idea what he is doing. Add to that his mother is worthless, step dad just a different flavour of worthless and his real dad is not in the area and the lad doesn't like the idea of living where his dad lives even though his dad could cut him a lot of slack in the process.
Well the lad is old enough to be an adult eh, that's what 19 pushing 20 means.
He's always sniffing around expecting to use me as a free safe harbour place to sleep and place to eat. Hey if I could afford it, I'd be ok, but in my world, every penny counts. I've already given the lad 120%.
But he just won't get it together it seems and I am not in a position to make him, I am not his parent.
Most days I have trouble keeping MY ->-bleeped-<- squared away right.
I'm trying to be supportive, without carrying him and trying to sound like a friend, without coddling him in the process.
Man I hate lame excuse parents, I so want to bitch slap his mother into tomorrow.
So ya, life has gotten plenty of levels of intense, what with trying to figure out a constantly changing landscape.
I don't have more room on my plate to juggle the problems of others right now..... sorry.
Grrrr my son has a buddy of his from school and he's atypically teen messed up no direction and no idea what he is doing. Add to that his mother is worthless, step dad just a different flavour of worthless and his real dad is not in the area and the lad doesn't like the idea of living where his dad lives even though his dad could cut him a lot of slack in the process.
Well the lad is old enough to be an adult eh, that's what 19 pushing 20 means.
He's always sniffing around expecting to use me as a free safe harbour place to sleep and place to eat. Hey if I could afford it, I'd be ok, but in my world, every penny counts. I've already given the lad 120%.
But he just won't get it together it seems and I am not in a position to make him, I am not his parent.
Most days I have trouble keeping MY ->-bleeped-<- squared away right.
I'm trying to be supportive, without carrying him and trying to sound like a friend, without coddling him in the process.
Man I hate lame excuse parents, I so want to bitch slap his mother into tomorrow.
Title: Re: Life is already full enough, I don't need to go looking for more!!!
Post by: spacial on March 27, 2013, 06:56:39 PM
Post by: spacial on March 27, 2013, 06:56:39 PM
Know how you feel, but as you know, that won't work at all. Self centred people like that are looking for reactions so they can wine about how their lives are so crappy.
If I were in your shoes, I'd give the guy loads of encouragement, making it clear that life is loaded with problems, that it gets better over time, provided you stick to solvency, honesty and good time keeping.
It sounds like some old guy lecture like that, but you know what I mean.
When I look at my own life I think my biggest mistakes were following others leads. That's not a regret, it's something I try to give to younger people as appropriate. Those that look like they are doing so well, invariably have huge debts and live in castles built upon sand.
Now here's me lecturing you. Sorry. I just know the situation you're in. The temptation is to wipe his nose and take him in. Bad move as you know. He just doesn't need that now. He does need to know he's on the right path, which is the one he chooses for himself.
If I were in your shoes, I'd give the guy loads of encouragement, making it clear that life is loaded with problems, that it gets better over time, provided you stick to solvency, honesty and good time keeping.
It sounds like some old guy lecture like that, but you know what I mean.
When I look at my own life I think my biggest mistakes were following others leads. That's not a regret, it's something I try to give to younger people as appropriate. Those that look like they are doing so well, invariably have huge debts and live in castles built upon sand.
Now here's me lecturing you. Sorry. I just know the situation you're in. The temptation is to wipe his nose and take him in. Bad move as you know. He just doesn't need that now. He does need to know he's on the right path, which is the one he chooses for himself.