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Title: Marriage is doomed
Post by: sylvannus on April 21, 2013, 06:26:14 PM
Post by: sylvannus on April 21, 2013, 06:26:14 PM
Although after a legal identity change, any marriage will break up in China, I have never expected it to come so fast. I still have years to go before that final step.
However, last night my wife told me she is going to sue me on court because I did not clearly state my GID before our marriage. I was taken by astonishment. She used to be supportive and understanding! I do not know what has happened. She mentioned it was a suggestion from a lawyer that this would save her some loss due to my transition.
However, last night my wife told me she is going to sue me on court because I did not clearly state my GID before our marriage. I was taken by astonishment. She used to be supportive and understanding! I do not know what has happened. She mentioned it was a suggestion from a lawyer that this would save her some loss due to my transition.
Title: Re: Marriage is doomed
Post by: spacial on April 21, 2013, 06:39:21 PM
Post by: spacial on April 21, 2013, 06:39:21 PM
So sorry to hear of your problems sylvannus.
I hope you will tell us of any new developments as and when.
I hope you will tell us of any new developments as and when.
Title: Re: Marriage is doomed
Post by: Kade1985 on April 21, 2013, 06:44:24 PM
Post by: Kade1985 on April 21, 2013, 06:44:24 PM
damn that sucks =/
I wish I knew what to say. I mean my usual approach would just be insulting the injury I'm sure is present. I hope this thing doesn't get too far out of hand, and that it gets better for you.
I wish I knew what to say. I mean my usual approach would just be insulting the injury I'm sure is present. I hope this thing doesn't get too far out of hand, and that it gets better for you.
Title: Re: Marriage is doomed
Post by: Beth Andrea on April 21, 2013, 06:50:58 PM
Post by: Beth Andrea on April 21, 2013, 06:50:58 PM
Seems to be kind of common...spouse appears to support and encourage, then a lawyer gets involved and she "suddenly" wants a divorce.
:(
Take care, and good luck!
:(
Take care, and good luck!
Title: Re: Marriage is doomed
Post by: Ltl89 on April 21, 2013, 09:12:58 PM
Post by: Ltl89 on April 21, 2013, 09:12:58 PM
I am sorry to here about your situation. I'm not familiar with the divorce proceedings of international countries (yes, typical American), so I can't say much to help. However, I really do hope things work out for you.
Title: Re: Marriage is doomed
Post by: Mohini on April 21, 2013, 09:24:50 PM
Post by: Mohini on April 21, 2013, 09:24:50 PM
Oh sylvannus! :icon_no: I hope the rougher things smooth out in the end. Any divorce is super unfortunate, but it is even worse when it comes to dealing with GID! I've heard stories of divorces due to transitioning, and I suppose it is just reality.
Title: Re: Marriage is doomed
Post by: JLT1 on April 21, 2013, 09:28:58 PM
Post by: JLT1 on April 21, 2013, 09:28:58 PM
I am so sorry to hear this. It hurts, I know. It seems to hurt even more when there was support at the start. Hang in there, don't give up, keep the dream, the dream of a life.....