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when you decided to transition to male, female or whatever in between.

did you do so because you had a great wish to be a boy/girl/both even if you didnt felt much like it
or because you felt like like you indeed is a boy/girl/both, yet you didnt have a great wish to change your sex.

I know alot will say both but if you only could choose 1 which one would it be.

Wow what a tough question to answer. I decided to transition because of a strong nagging need to be a woman. I tried for many years to suppress these feelings because I did not understand why I felt this way. I thought it was a phase that I would out grow. Which of course never happened. The more I suppressed it the stronger it came back, the harder I would fight it. What a vicious circle it was. Since I started HRT I have never felt better about myself.

I transitioned because I'm a guy. So, I guess I felt like one. I never wanted to be a guy and still don't really. I think life would have been a lot easier if I could just have been a girl. And I still feel it would be easier if I were female. I'm just not and can't live that way. Like the old thing 'If you tell a fish it should climb trees, it's always going to feel stupid because it wasn't made to do that'. (Who said that?) Well, I'm that fish.

I never felt like I was a girl...I just knew that being a man (or trying to be one, in my case) was just too painful to continue. I didn't even know being TS was an actual condition, I'd always thought that "those people" were just freaks who wanted to play girlie.

Stupid, I know...but that is all too common with things we don't understand...we make up reasons why people do what they do, and those reasons, because they're made by those who are NOT "in the arena" (with apologies to Teddy Roosevelt), have no status but TO BE stupid.

Once I realized that "to be a man" required (at least) an increase in T for me, and that T was a poison, so I tried non-prescription E...and I was like, "Oh. My. Gawd! Must have!!"

There is no way in hell I would ever go back to being a guy. Ever.

To me the poll seems awkwardly worded.  I don't understand the statement.

I didn't want to be, didn't feel like being.  I "was" a girl in the wrong body.

I always have know I was a girl (felt like being a girl ).  I really never knew that I could be.  It took me nearly 20 years to figure it out and another 34 years to actually do it.

I never felt like a female (still don't). But I've had a lifelong wish to be one.

I occasionally feel some indignation from those who know they were women toward those of us who felt the other way.

Please accept:

THERE IS NO ONE RIGHT WAY TO BE TRANS

Those of us who transition because of intense desire are JUST AS TRANS as those who "know they are women".

Quote from: suzifrommd on April 25, 2013, 01:41:19 PM
I never felt like a female (still don't). But I've had a lifelong wish to be one.

I occasionally feel some indignation from those who know they were women toward those of us who felt the other way.

Please accept:

THERE IS NO ONE RIGHT WAY TO BE TRANS

Those of us who transition because of intense desire are JUST AS TRANS as those who "know they are women".

*hugs*

I think it has more to do with complying with the old "gatekeeping" method of oppression, than any sincere desire to belittle or ridicule others.

The times, they are a-changin'....

I have no reference for what it means to "feel like a guy" or to "feel like a girl".  I feel like "me", and I want to be a girl :)

Quote from: Sarah Louise on April 25, 2013, 12:11:36 PM
To me the poll seems awkwardly worded.  I don't understand the statement.

I didn't want to be, didn't feel like being.  I "was" a girl in the wrong body.

I guess if you was already identifying as a girl, it goes under the category of "felling like being a girl"

Both? I want to be a guy because I feel like I should be a guy because I feel like a guy. Or rather, I want to be me because I feel like I should be me because I feel like me. Who is a guy. Ugh I'm rambling again.

Quote from: Natkat on April 25, 2013, 11:19:05 AM
when you decided to transition to male, female or whatever in between.

did you do so because you had a great wish to be a boy/girl/both even if you didnt felt much like it
or because you felt like like you indeed is a boy/girl/both, yet you didnt have a great wish to change your sex.

I know alot will say both but if you only could choose 1 which one would it be.

Felt like both at times and wanted to be either or as the mood suits me. Wouldn't really want to be a full-time woman because it's too much trouble and I'm too lazy to do all that would be necessary to be successful at it, however I don't want to be a full-time man all the time either so I am non-binary androgynous and happy where I am.

I don't know, I can't really say that I feel like a female or that I am a female, but I can say that I've always been more comfortable presenting myself as a woman to others and for others to see me as such.

I felt that I couldn't respond, because I started my transition wanting to be myself. There were just two possibilities - in both cases I would discover myself.

I didn't base my wish on being one specific gender or the other. I came into this completely with an open mind.

It was NOT something I wished for, I had to do it, it was a part of me, I was female and just had to transition

I'm a dude. It's not that I want to be a guy, it's that I just am a guy.

I want to be a man because I feel I am a man.

Does that mean it's "feel like"?

May have misunderstood the question, but i did my best. I want to be a woman, not just feel like one.