Susan's Place Transgender Resources

Hi there everyone. I'm BlackBird. I'm new here, Well. Kind of. -- I'll admit I've been on these forums for some time I have just always been terrified of making an account. I'll get back to why In a minute.

Growing up, I loved life. Everything was perfect, I played sports, I messed around with my friends. It was sweet. I was always called a Tomboy, I went with that. School wasn't fun to me, It was a place where you were forced Into groups and had to act and dress a certain way to make friends. -- I never followed this rule, Making me the odd one out. I stayed to who I was. However, Once I started to hit my pre-teen years, I noticed something was different about me.  :-\

I didn't want to wear make-up or dresses. I didn't want to be the "Bride" In the wedding, The "mother" In the child games. I wanted to be the boy, I wanted to have the muscles, The shaggy hair and the nice clothes. I was told "No", "You're a girl.". Calling myself a girl started to make me feel sad and sick. It made me want to cry.  :'(

I was taken out of school some years later due to being severely bullied. I started homeschooling and It was great! I could be myself but I soon learnt that I had to find a new way to make friends. I found the online world and to my surprise, I found people like me. They taught me that I wasn't a "freakshow", I was Transgendered. I wasn't an alien as I thought, Haha.

I started making friends with people like me, People who were transgendered. I finally felt at peace! I felt like I finally had a place to be myself. -- Wrong. -- Sadly enough, I've been bullied In my own community everywhere I go. I started becoming the "Outcast" of the Trans community. They told me I'm too girly, I'm not manly enough, I have to cut my hair, I have to work out.  ???

Unlike most FTM's, I'm slightly feminine. Only slightly but enough for them to make me an outcast. I like having long hair, I like wearing shirts that are fancy and decorative, Not just a plain T-shirt and jeans. I don't want facial hair, I don't have severe hate for my body, I learnt to deal with my breasts until I'm old enough to change that, I don't want to take Testostrone and finally the big one, I don't like girls. I'm a Homoromantic Asexual. I like boys. -- Apparently I don't belong because I'm not stereotypical.  ???

So that Is a little bit of how I got here, This Is my last place. I've gone everywhere, I've tried everything. I need a savior! I would like to find some friends, Whether that be FTM's, MTF's or anything else. I want to find some friends who will accept me the way I am. I do realize that not all Trans* people are like the ones I've met In the past and that's why I'd like to try again.  :laugh:

Hi :icon_wave:

I accept you, we accept you. There is no one on this site who will not.

Welcome and start to feel at ease, have a look around.

Someone will post a link to the rules in the announcement section, have a read, they explain a lot of stuff.

Gender and sexuality are very fluid, there is no reason to be an outcast, there is no reason for that at all. You are not odd, you are not peculiar you are a normal human being with emotions and feelings and have the right to express and display them.

There is no reason for shame, there is no reason to be alone.

Welcome my friend from me, Cindy, in South Australia.

Hugs and Welcome

Cindy

Hi Cindy! Thank you so much for the warm welcome. :)

Hugs.

Well, you'll fit right in here. Not every transguy needs to be a body-building, womanizing football fanatic with a buzzcut, you know. There's as much variation as with the cis population, so don't ever let anyone tell you that you're not "trans enough" or "manly enough", or anything. There is an unfair double standard, but it's just people being ignorant.

Besides, Cindy's spot on as usual. There's no reason to be ashamed of having fluid or non-binary identity, or expression, or sexuality. Not meaning you change yourself, but meaning you embrace the changing nature of your person, or in your case, the nature of not fitting into one stereotype or the other. You can be genderqueer, or feminine male, or anything that you identify as. Why? It's you. Your call to make, not those around you. They don't like it? Forget 'em.

Just for the record, I'm panromantic asexual. We come in all different assorted flavors here.
Welcome to Susan's  ;D

Hi BlackBird  :icon_wave:

Welcome to Susan's  :)  Glad to have you here

There is a Beatles (Paul McCartney) song Called Blackbird, it is one of my fav.s that I play quite often

Please be sure to review

• Site Terms of Service and rules to live by  (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,2.0.html)
  
• Standard Terms and Definitions (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,54369.0.html)
  
• Post Ranks ( including when you can upload an avatar) (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,114.0.html.)
  
• Age and the Forum (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,62197.msg405545.html#msg405545)
  
• Reputation rules (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,18960.0.html)
  
• Photo, avatars, and signature images policy (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,59974.msg383866.html#msg383866)
  

Hugs

V M

You're right Max. Thank you so much. :) I'm already feeling at home here at Susan's, Fantastic community here.  :angel:

-

Thanks V M, That helps! I appreciate It.  :D

Hi Blackbird, stay true to yourself. Be happy with who you are. You are a unique individual, just like everyone else on this planet. And to those who don't like us because we are different, it's their loss.

The people who matter don't mind, and the people who mind don't matter.

Hi Blackbird, :icon_wave:

Welcome to our little family. Over 11165. That would be one heck of a family reunion.

Feel free to post your successes/failures, Hopes/dreams.  Ask questions and seek answers. Give and receive advice.

But remember we are family here, your family now. And it is always nice to have another brother. (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fsmileys.on-my-web.com%2Frepository%2FAnimals%2Fferret-3.gif&hash=f49e2f86761323f2abd9c33941920389dbb3b10f)

We love you for who you are, not what we think you should be.  You are one of a kind and unique.  As we all are.

(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fsmileys.on-my-web.com%2Frepository%2FAnimals%2Fferret-5.gif&hash=cfc7a68438be4575d8493dfbe65d1b3586f10b81)
Janet  )O(

@Bethany: So true dear, People are missing out on a chance to have beautiful people like us as friends.

@Janet: Thank you :)

:D

Hi black bird, welcome to susans and just know this is a place where you can come and be accepted by all :)

Hi Blackbird. I second what Liminal Stranger said. I could go on a huge rant on how gender roles do not equal gender, but it would get repetitive.
There are a few gay guys around here as well as a few bi/pan guys. There are lesbians and bi/pan women around as well and asexual people of any gender. Sexual orientation also does not equal gender.
One of the things I've noticed is that people like to look at people as all or nothing. It's annoying. It would be nice if we could be seen as well rounded people with various different traits rather than trying to label someone as either masculine or feminine.

@LadySophia: I'm so glad! Everyone here at Susan's are lovely. I'm so happy to have found a hate-free trans* community.

@Edge: I really wish one day the world will be like that, Who knows? It's definitely Improved since the 70's, 80's and so on. If everyone would stop seeing In black and white all the time, Feminine? Girl. Masculine? Boy. So wrong! We should have a right to embrace being our own person. -- One day, I hope.