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Title: Using your body
Post by: Tristan on May 31, 2013, 10:51:43 PM
Post by: Tristan on May 31, 2013, 10:51:43 PM
So seeing as I am now officially living on my own I was wondering if anyone else uses there body to get what they want. You know like using your good looks?
This applies to FtoM too. I have seen alot of you guys on the site as well and your all very hot!
This applies to FtoM too. I have seen alot of you guys on the site as well and your all very hot!
Title: Re: Using your body
Post by: Kia on June 01, 2013, 01:13:41 AM
Post by: Kia on June 01, 2013, 01:13:41 AM
Well I'm not "out" and all that, but I'm all for using good looks for selfish gain. I only hope I'll be hot enough to do that ;)
Title: Re: Using your body
Post by: milktea on June 01, 2013, 06:01:18 AM
Post by: milktea on June 01, 2013, 06:01:18 AM
it's called living...
Title: Re: Using your body
Post by: Adam (birkin) on June 01, 2013, 02:17:07 PM
Post by: Adam (birkin) on June 01, 2013, 02:17:07 PM
Well, you can do anything you want to with your body, and I do know some girls who have used their looks to get ahead. I can't claim I've done the same as either male or female, but I do know that I did take advantage of the fact that people saw me as less threatening as a woman. People were a lot more likely to help me out just because they assumed I was non-threatening and trustworthy. I am both those things, but they are more likely to assume it straight off it when the person is female.
Title: Re: Using your body
Post by: Beth Andrea on June 01, 2013, 02:32:59 PM
Post by: Beth Andrea on June 01, 2013, 02:32:59 PM
You mean like, being charming? Oh yeah, that's ok imo. Being *very* charming when needed...that's ok too. Going to bed with someone to get a promotion or something else...ehh, I wouldn't be comfortable doing that, but everyone is different.
Title: Re: Using your body
Post by: mintra on June 01, 2013, 02:36:53 PM
Post by: mintra on June 01, 2013, 02:36:53 PM
Have you seen Erin Brockovich movie? She put her cleavage to good use in a really good way too.
Title: Re: Using your body
Post by: Eveline on June 01, 2013, 09:48:03 PM
Post by: Eveline on June 01, 2013, 09:48:03 PM
Quote from: Tristan on June 01, 2013, 09:33:55 PM
Ok. I was just wondering how far might be to far you know? I mean now that I'm on my own some guys are willing to help me with things. I figure maybe I could use my looks to get a little ahead or something but I guess I should think about that for a little
Tristan, IMHO, it's best to completely avoid doing this in a work environment. I've seen it backfire on some girls due to the general sensitivity around sexual harassment. If the guy you are flirting with is wary, especially a manager, it can have the exact opposite effect you intended...
Title: Re: Using your body
Post by: so-kool on June 01, 2013, 10:55:32 PM
Post by: so-kool on June 01, 2013, 10:55:32 PM
I guess having a body that someone would want to compensate me for would be my first hurrdle! Lol
Title: Re: Using your body
Post by: Beth Andrea on June 02, 2013, 11:35:02 AM
Post by: Beth Andrea on June 02, 2013, 11:35:02 AM
Quote from: Tristan on June 01, 2013, 09:33:55 PM
Ok. I was just wondering how far might be to far you know? I mean now that I'm on my own some guys are willing to help me with things. I figure maybe I could use my looks to get a little ahead or something but I guess I should think about that for a little
A person should be able to get help (in any sense of the word) just by being themselves. If you have to "put out", even as an act, the person who is helping you isn't actually helping you...it's more of a transaction.
I know the phrase, "I'll be nice to you if you're nice to me"...that was a phrase used by at least one molester in my history. So maybe I'm biased. You're an adult, you know where your boundaries are. Just don't go past them, ok? You're better than that.
Title: Re: Using your body
Post by: Tristan on June 02, 2013, 01:16:15 PM
Post by: Tristan on June 02, 2013, 01:16:15 PM
I totally get what your saying. I'm not looking to be like a hooker , just maybe be extra nice to someone so they pay for my lunch or consider me for a job first because they are like," hey that girl was really nice and cool. She would be great for this job", you know stuff like that.
Title: Re: Using your body
Post by: Beth Andrea on June 02, 2013, 02:19:56 PM
Post by: Beth Andrea on June 02, 2013, 02:19:56 PM
Quote from: Tristan on June 02, 2013, 01:16:15 PM
I totally get what your saying. I'm not looking to be like a hooker , just maybe be extra nice to someone so they pay for my lunch or consider me for a job first because they are like," hey that girl was really nice and cool. She would be great for this job", you know stuff like that.
I can't picture you to be anything other than sweet, and a LOT of fun to be around.
*hugs*
:)
Title: Re: Using your body
Post by: calico on June 03, 2013, 02:38:48 AM
Post by: calico on June 03, 2013, 02:38:48 AM
I have done this from time to time, to get drinks, to get lunch etc, its also referred to as flirting at times, sometime's some guys think you might be interested and get their hopes up.
Title: Re: Using your body
Post by: Catalina on June 22, 2013, 11:41:56 AM
Post by: Catalina on June 22, 2013, 11:41:56 AM
My body is okay... I know that I am getting heavier, which is never a good sign, but I know it is never good to show off too much, lol.
Time to time I'll get heads turning on the street, depending on what I wear (ironically, when I wear a skirt, heels and get dolled up for church on Sunday, I do get looks of 'approval,' lol). But having been the victim of sexual harrassment as a woman on a bus at night, it's just not good sometimes to display something that would make men think you're 'available' or 'easy.'
In the ideal world, women wouldn't be seen as sex objects for pleasure, and straight men would respect women no matter what they wear. In the real world, how you act, what you wear, etc. can definitely have an effect on those around you, giving non-verbal signals of sensuality or whatever.
I used to be quite 'loose' in the way I carried myself. Since maturing though, I have learned to just try to be a fun, good-natured woman and try to carry myself in a manner befitting my character. ^-^
I have to say though, it can be fun to flirt given the occasion, lol. ;)
Time to time I'll get heads turning on the street, depending on what I wear (ironically, when I wear a skirt, heels and get dolled up for church on Sunday, I do get looks of 'approval,' lol). But having been the victim of sexual harrassment as a woman on a bus at night, it's just not good sometimes to display something that would make men think you're 'available' or 'easy.'
In the ideal world, women wouldn't be seen as sex objects for pleasure, and straight men would respect women no matter what they wear. In the real world, how you act, what you wear, etc. can definitely have an effect on those around you, giving non-verbal signals of sensuality or whatever.
I used to be quite 'loose' in the way I carried myself. Since maturing though, I have learned to just try to be a fun, good-natured woman and try to carry myself in a manner befitting my character. ^-^
I have to say though, it can be fun to flirt given the occasion, lol. ;)
Title: Re: Using your body
Post by: xchristine on June 22, 2013, 12:05:08 PM
Post by: xchristine on June 22, 2013, 12:05:08 PM
Oh uea I use my looks and body for my advantage .
For meals....drinks....cigarettes....anything
And when I get married ..I will be the ultimate whore as
Some say....
That's the problem with forays society being sk materialistic..
Is that boys learn to buy us..with various things...
And it shows it works he buys a girl ice cream she talks to hom...
Than it grows larger and higher cost higher return for the man..
As some say a wife is the most expensive prostitute ever...
For meals....drinks....cigarettes....anything
And when I get married ..I will be the ultimate whore as
Some say....
That's the problem with forays society being sk materialistic..
Is that boys learn to buy us..with various things...
And it shows it works he buys a girl ice cream she talks to hom...
Than it grows larger and higher cost higher return for the man..
As some say a wife is the most expensive prostitute ever...
Title: Re: Using your body
Post by: barbie on June 22, 2013, 03:49:42 PM
Post by: barbie on June 22, 2013, 03:49:42 PM
As some people say that my body looks like professional models, I thought about it, but no photographer has suggested it to me. Middle-aged women here are particularly interested in my body figure, and they tend to like me and not to hesitate to speak to me.
When I run along the road, a few male drivers occasionally stop to offer a ride for me. It is obvious to them that I am runnig for exercise. I accept it as a kind of harassment, not more. My wearing high heels sometimes provokes some men, because I look too tall as a woman. I was once virtually raped in a suburban area of the US. The raper said to me that I am too tall, and he was drunken. In my country, some drunken college students chase me to speak to me. They are just hilarious, not threatening
There are also some positive things. When my friends walk with me along the street, they tend to be surprised at how much attention I get everyday. I like being with my friends when I wear heels and skirts, because it is safer and comfortable. My male friends at their later 40s also enjoy attentions from young girls in bars, as they are usually ignored without me. Usually women pay more attention to me.
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When I run along the road, a few male drivers occasionally stop to offer a ride for me. It is obvious to them that I am runnig for exercise. I accept it as a kind of harassment, not more. My wearing high heels sometimes provokes some men, because I look too tall as a woman. I was once virtually raped in a suburban area of the US. The raper said to me that I am too tall, and he was drunken. In my country, some drunken college students chase me to speak to me. They are just hilarious, not threatening
There are also some positive things. When my friends walk with me along the street, they tend to be surprised at how much attention I get everyday. I like being with my friends when I wear heels and skirts, because it is safer and comfortable. My male friends at their later 40s also enjoy attentions from young girls in bars, as they are usually ignored without me. Usually women pay more attention to me.
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi943.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fad278%2Fbarbie_pictures%2FOutdoors%2F158A4002-8125-4BDD-8412-3DCC34BF49E2-365-0000001CAFAB6874.jpg&hash=bd6e29defaf604d8452263501b0dcadc12b12971)
barbie~~
Title: Re: Using your body
Post by: xchristine on June 22, 2013, 04:05:59 PM
Post by: xchristine on June 22, 2013, 04:05:59 PM
I should also add....
I go to great lengths to doing it.
I do a lot of yoga to tone myself and be able to do standing
Ballerina positions...and I state that openly to men...
As soon ad they say yoga you have thier undivoded attention
They focus pn my legs and ass....than I'm in control..
.
Who is the real dominant?? Men or woman.....depends on what
Your prceptipn level is ...
Domination through submission is very subtle and happens all the time
I go to great lengths to doing it.
I do a lot of yoga to tone myself and be able to do standing
Ballerina positions...and I state that openly to men...
As soon ad they say yoga you have thier undivoded attention
They focus pn my legs and ass....than I'm in control..
.
Who is the real dominant?? Men or woman.....depends on what
Your prceptipn level is ...
Domination through submission is very subtle and happens all the time