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So im not scared to admit it, im a recovering addict....heroin, cocaine and pain pills were my best friends till i got clean at 21. Well today while over for dinner my mom looks at me and says "well this is probably just another phase like your drugs were." I mean really....gggiiirrrr i hate my family right now and yes its almost 3:30 right now but i still wanna scream/cry because of this.

Family always knows what to say to hurt us. :(

Exactly the same thing my mom told me too :P. "It is just another "hobby" - like those archery and swordfighting courses, equestrian sports and historical re-enactment addiction.
I think she has changed her mind a bit now :) And so will be Yours ;) She is Your mother and eventually will accept You the way You are...
Hugs!

P.S. And do not hate her - I know what You mean, but... She is Your only mother and You will never have another one.

Yep I got the same thing from my step dad with the "hobby" talk. He came around pretty fast though luckily :D

I'm sure yours will, too, sometimes they just take a bit of time to get the "proof" they need. Whatever that may be.

Mine keeps trying to say that I did nothing girly, (which isn't true) and that I loved doing all the "guy" things that I did.

I agree with everyone else. Parents tend to hope it's just a phase but normally they come around

Quote from: kariann330 on June 04, 2013, 02:16:38 AM
So im not scared to admit it, im a recovering addict....heroin, cocaine and pain pills were my best friends till i got clean at 21. Well today while over for dinner my mom looks at me and says "well this is probably just another phase like your drugs were." I mean really....gggiiirrrr i hate my family right now and yes its almost 3:30 right now but i still wanna scream/cry because of this.

I admire people who can overcome addictions.  Especially transpersons.  It shows me that they have the wherewithal to handle transition.

For those of us who are trans, it seems to me that the stresses that we feel, makes us more likely to turn to drugs, cigarettes, alcohol, etc.  There often are huge internal conflicts going on (at least in my case), and the numbing of those feels meant respite.

I remember, when I was in college, and questioning my sexuality (I'm bi-), I spent an awful lots of time partying and smoking pot and doing magic mushrooms.  It was, in a way, a form of self-medicating my anxiety and confusion.  Little did I know, in the middle-late 1970s, that a littlest bit of self-realization and estrogen would have taken care of much of that.

Quote from: Jamie D on June 04, 2013, 07:45:01 AM
I admire people who can overcome addictions.  Especially transpersons.  It shows me that they have the wherewithal to handle transition.

For those of us who are trans, it seems to me that the stresses that we feel, makes us more likely to turn to drugs, cigarettes, alcohol, etc.  There often are huge internal conflicts going on (at least in my case), and the numbing of those feels meant respite.

I remember, when I was in college, and questioning my sexuality (I'm bi-), I spent an awful lots of time partying and smoking pot and doing magic mushrooms.  It was, in a way, a form of self-medicating my anxiety and confusion.  Little did I know, in the middle-late 1970s, that a littlest bit of self-realization and estrogen would have taken care of much of that.

I know that I could be prone to addictions, but I just can't :P. I sometimes think that my brain has sort of rewired my body as well, because I am one of those lucky persons who could get a bit drunk after 1-2 bottles of beer - is not that one of those nice female "qualities"? ;)

Stick with it and the "phase" will not be a phase to them. Just show you're dedicated and know what's up. Parents don't always say the best things, but it's up to us to educate them!