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Title: Intense broodiness
Post by: Joe. on June 11, 2013, 06:26:27 PM
Post by: Joe. on June 11, 2013, 06:26:27 PM
At the moment I'm feeling really broody. All my life I've wanted kids and to be a good dad. All through primary school playing mummy and daddies I was always the daddy and I loved it. Recently though I have wanted a child even more. It's impossible right now too, I'm 18, single and off to university. Fatherhood is years away yet. I don't know why I feel like this. I just feel empty without a child and when I see people happily with children it just makes me long for a child even more. I don't know why it's so intense. Has anybody else experienced this or know how to get over it?
Title: Re: Intense broodiness
Post by: King Malachite on June 11, 2013, 08:43:15 PM
Post by: King Malachite on June 11, 2013, 08:43:15 PM
I've experienced it and even touched on it in my blog https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,121290.0.html (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,121290.0.html)
I get like that from time to time. It effects me when I see fathers with their childrens (especially sons) and my dysphoria shoots up. For me, it gets intense because I know I could never get a female pregnant.
I cope by thinking about how much money I would save by not having kids. I could have more money for me. Plus, I'm doing a favor for my unborn kids by not bringing them into this world, for religious purposes and otherwise. I would like to think that my unborn children would thank me. Besides, this world is overpopulated as it is. Not only am I doing my "kids" a favor, I'm doing the world a favor.
But I mostly try to focus on the money aspect. No kids = more money in my pocket More money in my pocket = quicker transition and more anime convention trips
I get like that from time to time. It effects me when I see fathers with their childrens (especially sons) and my dysphoria shoots up. For me, it gets intense because I know I could never get a female pregnant.
I cope by thinking about how much money I would save by not having kids. I could have more money for me. Plus, I'm doing a favor for my unborn kids by not bringing them into this world, for religious purposes and otherwise. I would like to think that my unborn children would thank me. Besides, this world is overpopulated as it is. Not only am I doing my "kids" a favor, I'm doing the world a favor.
But I mostly try to focus on the money aspect. No kids = more money in my pocket More money in my pocket = quicker transition and more anime convention trips
Title: Re: Intense broodiness
Post by: Simon on June 11, 2013, 08:55:26 PM
Post by: Simon on June 11, 2013, 08:55:26 PM
How to get over it? You're 18, live a little first.
There is plenty of time in the future for you to decide what exactly you want to do to become a parent. There are options to have your own genetic children or adopt, that's all up to you. The greatest thing you could do for your future child is to get a good education and have a great career so one day you can support them with what they need.
That is one reason I'm 31, my gf is 27, and we still don't plan on having a child for another decade. People do it all the time when they're not financially or emotionally prepared and the child is the one to suffer for it. I don't believe in having a spoiled brat but I do believe a child should never have a need that goes unfulfilled.
My advice is to focus on yourself first.
There is plenty of time in the future for you to decide what exactly you want to do to become a parent. There are options to have your own genetic children or adopt, that's all up to you. The greatest thing you could do for your future child is to get a good education and have a great career so one day you can support them with what they need.
That is one reason I'm 31, my gf is 27, and we still don't plan on having a child for another decade. People do it all the time when they're not financially or emotionally prepared and the child is the one to suffer for it. I don't believe in having a spoiled brat but I do believe a child should never have a need that goes unfulfilled.
My advice is to focus on yourself first.
Title: Re: Intense broodiness
Post by: randomroads on June 11, 2013, 11:10:18 PM
Post by: randomroads on June 11, 2013, 11:10:18 PM
I agree with Simon. I'm 27 and would love to have kids but now is just not the right time. I went through a short window of panic where I second guessed transitioning. I wondered if I should get knocked up so my husband and I could have a kid of our own. Then I came to my senses and realized that I did not want that headache and that I need to get my life straight so that I don't have any distractions when we start a family.