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Title: First Therapy Appt
Post by: cannedrabbit on June 17, 2013, 11:31:09 PM
Post by: cannedrabbit on June 17, 2013, 11:31:09 PM
My wife just had her first therapy appointment last week and it went really well! She was all smiles after leaving. She loves her therapist and is looking forward to talking with her again. I am so happy, we've just taken the first step on this amazing journey!
Title: Re: First Therapy Appt
Post by: Ms. OBrien CVT on June 17, 2013, 11:34:12 PM
Post by: Ms. OBrien CVT on June 17, 2013, 11:34:12 PM
Great news, Cannedrabbit. She will find it a great way to get in touch with her inner self.
Title: Re: First Therapy Appt
Post by: blueconstancy on June 18, 2013, 06:52:18 AM
Post by: blueconstancy on June 18, 2013, 06:52:18 AM
Yay!
Title: Re: First Therapy Appt
Post by: lolife on June 24, 2013, 10:33:21 PM
Post by: lolife on June 24, 2013, 10:33:21 PM
Awesome. My partner just had his first one and he said it was the "fastest 45 minutes of my life". ;)
Title: Re: First Therapy Appt
Post by: spacial on June 25, 2013, 05:20:20 AM
Post by: spacial on June 25, 2013, 05:20:20 AM
Really happy for both of you.
Love that avatar, so appropriate.
Love that avatar, so appropriate.
Title: Re: First Therapy Appt
Post by: cheonsa1017 on August 19, 2013, 10:51:55 PM
Post by: cheonsa1017 on August 19, 2013, 10:51:55 PM
We go to our first therapy appointment together tomorrow; very nervous and have no idea what to expect.
Title: Re: First Therapy Appt
Post by: Amy The Bookworm on August 20, 2013, 08:36:24 AM
Post by: Amy The Bookworm on August 20, 2013, 08:36:24 AM
^ Cheo is my lovely wife!
I think I can help you with what to expect, if you have time to read this before we leave.
My therapist usually has me fill out paper work to monitor my progress week to week before my appointment. It's usually just check boxes and nothing complicated and takes me about 4 or 5 minutes because it's in small print and I have bad eyes and the people at the front desk keep forgetting to print it in larger print, but aside for that it's not a big deal.
When my therapist calls me in for my appointment, she gets my attention by calling me by my name (Amy). The first time she did that I nearly jumped out of my skin. But the truth is, if there is anyone else there, no one so much as bats an eyelash. So after about the second time, I got used to it. The building (like most K-state facilities) is a re-purposed older building. So, the hall way to the room where my therapy usually takes place kinda feels like I'm a rat in a maze out to get some cheese. The rooms all have noise suppressor devices outside the door, so it is very quiet. They also are only numbered. As you know, the facility handles a lot more than just gender therapy. So there aren't signs outside the door saying "Trans people here!" or anything like that. It's in my opinion a fairly relaxing environment. The only thing that could be a touch unsettling is the mirror. It's a training facility so sometimes there's a fully trained therapist on the other side who watches the secession. I've never met her. But her job (aside for teaching my therapist) is to give her advice on how to better help me. This doesn't bother me, partially because I'm currently a student myself and I get that people need to learn how to do jobs and sometimes need on the job experience (like my early field experience up at the high school) and that means sometimes people have to watch what you are doing in order for you to learn what if anything you (you being in this case the therapist being referred to as a student) are doing wrong.
One advantage to having a student as my therapist that I've thought of vs. a trained professional is that students are often times not jaded by pessimism from working in the 'real world', so they can be more optimistic and a lot less burned out than a fully trained person in the field for years.
The therapist herself is very nice, non judgmental, open minded, ... and usually lets me do more of the talking and mostly helps to guide conversation if I suddenly get quiet. She's there to help us, and won't 'take sides' should we have a disagreement of any kind and would be there more to mediate than anything else, and won't try to persuade you or make you feel like your opinion is wrong. I don't think you'll regret going, and I'm very happy and proud of you for going, especially with me ^_^
I think I can help you with what to expect, if you have time to read this before we leave.
My therapist usually has me fill out paper work to monitor my progress week to week before my appointment. It's usually just check boxes and nothing complicated and takes me about 4 or 5 minutes because it's in small print and I have bad eyes and the people at the front desk keep forgetting to print it in larger print, but aside for that it's not a big deal.
When my therapist calls me in for my appointment, she gets my attention by calling me by my name (Amy). The first time she did that I nearly jumped out of my skin. But the truth is, if there is anyone else there, no one so much as bats an eyelash. So after about the second time, I got used to it. The building (like most K-state facilities) is a re-purposed older building. So, the hall way to the room where my therapy usually takes place kinda feels like I'm a rat in a maze out to get some cheese. The rooms all have noise suppressor devices outside the door, so it is very quiet. They also are only numbered. As you know, the facility handles a lot more than just gender therapy. So there aren't signs outside the door saying "Trans people here!" or anything like that. It's in my opinion a fairly relaxing environment. The only thing that could be a touch unsettling is the mirror. It's a training facility so sometimes there's a fully trained therapist on the other side who watches the secession. I've never met her. But her job (aside for teaching my therapist) is to give her advice on how to better help me. This doesn't bother me, partially because I'm currently a student myself and I get that people need to learn how to do jobs and sometimes need on the job experience (like my early field experience up at the high school) and that means sometimes people have to watch what you are doing in order for you to learn what if anything you (you being in this case the therapist being referred to as a student) are doing wrong.
One advantage to having a student as my therapist that I've thought of vs. a trained professional is that students are often times not jaded by pessimism from working in the 'real world', so they can be more optimistic and a lot less burned out than a fully trained person in the field for years.
The therapist herself is very nice, non judgmental, open minded, ... and usually lets me do more of the talking and mostly helps to guide conversation if I suddenly get quiet. She's there to help us, and won't 'take sides' should we have a disagreement of any kind and would be there more to mediate than anything else, and won't try to persuade you or make you feel like your opinion is wrong. I don't think you'll regret going, and I'm very happy and proud of you for going, especially with me ^_^
Title: Re: First Therapy Appt
Post by: cannedrabbit on August 22, 2013, 08:53:13 PM
Post by: cannedrabbit on August 22, 2013, 08:53:13 PM
Oh, I hope you guys had a great session together!