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Title: Undo it
Post by: Tristan on June 23, 2013, 04:09:46 PM
Post by: Tristan on June 23, 2013, 04:09:46 PM
So this past week I had my Ex and a few other people from my past ask me a question . "If you could undo your transition or take it all back and be normal like us, would you do it?"
Title: Re: Undo it
Post by: Antonia J on June 23, 2013, 06:44:25 PM
Post by: Antonia J on June 23, 2013, 06:44:25 PM
I'm curious what brought the discussion up? How did it unfold?
Title: Re: Undo it
Post by: Beth Andrea on June 23, 2013, 06:52:28 PM
Post by: Beth Andrea on June 23, 2013, 06:52:28 PM
I could never be "normal." Given that the "normal" people in my life are horrible in their behaviors towards me, yet claim to be all lovey-dovey...HELL NO.
And to answer the question, given that the idea is to de-transition and be a normal, hetero guy like I pretended to be...again, NO. Now that I've had a taste of womanhood (no pun intended), I'd never give that up. I love being a woman!
And to answer the question, given that the idea is to de-transition and be a normal, hetero guy like I pretended to be...again, NO. Now that I've had a taste of womanhood (no pun intended), I'd never give that up. I love being a woman!
Title: Re: Undo it
Post by: Beth Andrea on June 23, 2013, 06:58:22 PM
Post by: Beth Andrea on June 23, 2013, 06:58:22 PM
Quote from: Tristan on June 23, 2013, 06:52:48 PM
Someone I'm no longer with feels because I left him I must I'm his words ," still be a man and want to go experience that since I missed out on a great experience. And if not he can make me a real woman.." Whatever that means.
It means he has the hots for you.
QuotePlus I have had some Catholics that go to my mom place of worship preaching this to me and toy surprise two other trans girls and a trans guy in the are ( I wanna know who these brothers and sisters are so I can chill with them) and also just a few other people that claim they knew me in elementary and junior high school. All kinda weird to me... So I'm just curious if others get asked this questions and what they would do of it's possible
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Title: Re: Undo it
Post by: Edge on June 23, 2013, 07:35:35 PM
Post by: Edge on June 23, 2013, 07:35:35 PM
Quote from: Tristan on June 23, 2013, 06:52:48 PM"still be a man and want to go experience that since I missed out on a great experience. And if not he can make me a real woman.."That sounds really creepy and disrespectful.
Title: Re: Undo it
Post by: xchristine on June 23, 2013, 08:27:53 PM
Post by: xchristine on June 23, 2013, 08:27:53 PM
Good for you Tristan
Never ever let a man tell you what you should be or are.....
Three traits to watch for that are bad. .
Obsession
Possession
Jealousy
If I spot any that are really high it's a red flag
Never ever let a man tell you what you should be or are.....
Three traits to watch for that are bad. .
Obsession
Possession
Jealousy
If I spot any that are really high it's a red flag
Title: Re: Undo it
Post by: calico on June 25, 2013, 12:59:32 AM
Post by: calico on June 25, 2013, 12:59:32 AM
Normal is subjective, to the person preaching about it, what is one persons normality is another's strangeness or oddity. Take it with a grain of salt dear these people seem like ones to avoid.
And from before even reading deeper the comment "make you feel like real woman" gives me the impression this is a fellow who needs to be at the bottom of the ocean with no breathing apparatus or submarine to be in. Again not someone to be around.
there is a lot of things in my life I would give up for a "normal" life, I think a lot of us feel this way, not all but some. I currently have that normalness in my life as of now:) would I trade it? no I don't think I would, while being T has not been a good experience, it has given my a different perspective on life and that I prob wouldn't trade.
I have no regrets at this point except not doing something sooner.
And from before even reading deeper the comment "make you feel like real woman" gives me the impression this is a fellow who needs to be at the bottom of the ocean with no breathing apparatus or submarine to be in. Again not someone to be around.
there is a lot of things in my life I would give up for a "normal" life, I think a lot of us feel this way, not all but some. I currently have that normalness in my life as of now:) would I trade it? no I don't think I would, while being T has not been a good experience, it has given my a different perspective on life and that I prob wouldn't trade.
I have no regrets at this point except not doing something sooner.
Title: Re: Undo it
Post by: FTMDiaries on June 25, 2013, 11:28:24 AM
Post by: FTMDiaries on June 25, 2013, 11:28:24 AM
Quote from: Tristan on June 23, 2013, 06:52:48 PM
Someone I'm no longer with feels because I left him I must I'm his words ," still be a man and want to go experience that since I missed out on a great experience. And if not he can make me a real woman.." Whatever that means.
Oh, the memories. If I had a penny for every egotistical guy who thought he was god's gift to womankind, and who thought there must be something wrong with me if I couldn't fall for his incredible charms, I'd be able to retire to my own private island.
Back when I was presenting as female, my average Friday night in a nightclub would go something like this:
Random Guy: "Hi there! You must be tired, because you were running through my dreams last night!"
Me: "Sorry, but I'm not interested"
Random Guy: "*&(%$£@ lesbian!!!"
He's just trying to massage his ample ego. Which may well be the only thing about him that is ample. ;D
As others have said, realigning my body to match my mind is the only way I could possibly be normal. There's no way I could consider myself 'normal' whilst presenting as the wrong gender.