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Just wondering if anyone has some input.

I find that sometimes, doing things I normally do, just doesn't seem to cut it.  Now, normally I go to work, or otherwise play video games/card games at home or with friends. 

I don't have many opportunities to go out really girly and such, mostly because I have difficulty deciding on something to do that I imagine might be fun, or just finding something to do.  I feel like I've done quite a bit of soul searching already, and I'm at a phase in transition where it's no longer an internal struggle, it's simply a matter of performing/doing, and making it happen to ease the pain.  It's time for action.  ...but I'm at a loss as to exactly what course of actions I can take, or which ones are advisable. 

So long story short, looking for input on beating the dysphoria back a bit, since my methods don't always work...although sometimes they do.

Thanks~  ^^

Do you have any friends that are girls? Or trans girls? Go shopping. Join a bookclub. Meet other ladies. Put yourself out there and check out guys (if you're into that). I don't really now what would be considered a girly activity other then like ballet or something lol but at sounds like you do a lot of guy stuff like video games and poker nights, and that prolly isn't the best way to find your inner girl. Maybe if they knew you as a girl it would be fine but it sounds like they know you as a guy and prolly for a long time. I have been making new friends because I want everyone who knows me to know me as a girl. I will keep some old friends but only ones I can be sure will treat me right.

Quote from: Joanna Dark on July 02, 2013, 01:34:40 AM
Do you have any friends that are girls? Or trans girls? Go shopping. Join a bookclub. Meet other ladies. Put yourself out there and check out guys (if you're into that). I don't really now what would be considered a girly activity other then like ballet or something lol but at sounds like you do a lot of guy stuff like video games and poker nights, and that prolly isn't the best way to find your inner girl. Maybe if they knew you as a girl it would be fine but it sounds like they know you as a guy and prolly for a long time. I have been making new friends because I want everyone who knows me to know me as a girl. I will keep some old friends but only ones I can be sure will treat me right.

I have quite a few, but they also happen to live a bit of a drive away for me to just go visit whenever. 
I go shopping on occasion, yes.
Book club?  ...You mean like...in a community or something?
I don't deny I feel an intense indimidation/envy factor on occasion when attempting to interact with other ladies.
Not quite.  I find I'm more into girls, though I'm not totally opposed to guys.
Not so much poker, as it is TCG or CCGs.  (Trading card games or Collectible Card Games)  I personally feel like gender is irrelevant to enjoying such activities, which is why I do them.  That and I often use them as a means of expressing my character.
Lots of my friends have, though some of them do acknowledge me through due effort, others are not quite there yet.  I make a point of only keeping friends I feel are good people at heart, and the rest can work itself out from there.

But thank you, I'll definitely give this some consideration.  ^^

Im sorry my answer im about to give isnt going to be very detailed.  What worked for me, was seriously taking the leap and going full time. Going out and about, and forcing myself to strut my stuff, even tho at first I was a nervious wreck,  When your to preoccupied wondering if your passing, you dont got time to be buggin out on the rest, and when you figure out what you did wrong on each outting and learn what to work on, it gives you things at home to keep your mind off it,  Experimenting with new make-up techniques. ect ect.   

As a long term sufferer from depression, to the crippling point >:( can I say that it needs to be carefully assesed.

There is a big leap between being sad, being at a loose end and depression. Try taking one of the tests from reputable depression sites like Beyondblue www.beyondblue.org.au (http://www.beyondblue.org.au)

There are others, and go and see a doctor.  When I went on some very basic medication my life was transformed. It was all I needed. Everyone is different of course but don't be afraid to get help.

Oh and when I transitioned I realised that I was happy and ditched the depression meds and have no issues. BUT, they kept me alive so I could be happy.

Hugs and if the black dog is running we are here to help

Cindy

I had a breakdown at the end of April, though it been building for while. Hiding my gender issues, then a very stressful job (ironically dealing with sufferers of psychological illness) working too many hours. On the surface a good life. I let things get on top of me through fear. I wouldn't admit things to myself and admit I needed help. I went to work one day and just broke. Saw my doctor referred me to a psych and then put me on an antidepressant which I am still taking. I was off work for over two weeks and slept as  I was just burnt out.

In a way I am almost relieved it has happened, as I am now starting to take small steps to address my gender issues, rather than just try and hide them and hope they will go away. It's pretty obvious they are not going to.