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Title: Greetings from Germany
Post by: Annika on July 12, 2013, 05:13:08 AM
Post by: Annika on July 12, 2013, 05:13:08 AM
Hi there, I am Annika maybe
After silently reading in this forum for some months, I finally like to participate since I feel I have a lot to discuss.
While there were no clear signs for being transgender in my past, it really hit me like a hammer 16 months ago, at the age of 41 after a strange revelation in a dream. Before, I always thought that wanting to have a female body was merely sexual phantasy, something that would not affect other fields of my life. The strong urge toward transition came when the sexual component and the shame it produced suddenly diminished and I realized what might have been the cause for never fully identifying as male since being a child.
Although I am going to a therapist for 10 months, there are still so many open questions and doubts that makes it hard for me to trust my feelings and allowing myself to go for the next steps. I am still not sure whether this is a gigantic mistake, some sort of midlife crisis.
However, the main problems I am now confronted with are the same as for many others: Being married, having two children, 5 and 7 years old, as well as an increasingly uncertain job situation.
At Susan's I found an extremely helpful and supportive place - in contrast to other forums that I have visited (especially in the German speaking area :() - and I love to read posts from all over the world. A big compliment to all the staff, moderators, and admins at Susan's!
After silently reading in this forum for some months, I finally like to participate since I feel I have a lot to discuss.
While there were no clear signs for being transgender in my past, it really hit me like a hammer 16 months ago, at the age of 41 after a strange revelation in a dream. Before, I always thought that wanting to have a female body was merely sexual phantasy, something that would not affect other fields of my life. The strong urge toward transition came when the sexual component and the shame it produced suddenly diminished and I realized what might have been the cause for never fully identifying as male since being a child.
Although I am going to a therapist for 10 months, there are still so many open questions and doubts that makes it hard for me to trust my feelings and allowing myself to go for the next steps. I am still not sure whether this is a gigantic mistake, some sort of midlife crisis.
However, the main problems I am now confronted with are the same as for many others: Being married, having two children, 5 and 7 years old, as well as an increasingly uncertain job situation.
At Susan's I found an extremely helpful and supportive place - in contrast to other forums that I have visited (especially in the German speaking area :() - and I love to read posts from all over the world. A big compliment to all the staff, moderators, and admins at Susan's!
Title: Re: Greetings from Germany
Post by: Lara1969 on July 12, 2013, 05:43:03 AM
Post by: Lara1969 on July 12, 2013, 05:43:03 AM
Welcome from Berlin, Germany :) If you have any qestions, I would be happy to help.
Lara
Lara
Title: Re: Greetings from Germany
Post by: gennee on July 12, 2013, 11:22:40 AM
Post by: gennee on July 12, 2013, 11:22:40 AM
Hi Annika and welcome to Susan's.
:)
:)
Title: Re: Greetings from Germany
Post by: peky on July 12, 2013, 12:48:14 PM
Post by: peky on July 12, 2013, 12:48:14 PM
Hallo, bin ich dutch Nachkomme ... nahe genug, um Cousins und Cousinen sein, nicht wahr? .. LOL .. a herzliches Willkommen sis, aus Washington DC
Title: Re: Greetings from Germany
Post by: Ms. OBrien CVT on July 12, 2013, 01:14:04 PM
Post by: Ms. OBrien CVT on July 12, 2013, 01:14:04 PM
Hi Annika, :icon_wave:
Welcome to our little family. Over 12022 . That would be one heck of a family reunion.
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Janet )O(
Welcome to our little family. Over 12022 . That would be one heck of a family reunion.
Feel free to post your successes/failures, Hopes/dreams. Ask questions and seek answers. Give and receive advice.
But remember we are family here, your family now. And it is always nice to have another sister. (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fsmileys.on-my-web.com%2Frepository%2FAnimals%2Fferret-3.gif&hash=f49e2f86761323f2abd9c33941920389dbb3b10f)
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Title: Re: Greetings from Germany
Post by: CalmRage on July 12, 2013, 01:14:51 PM
Post by: CalmRage on July 12, 2013, 01:14:51 PM
Welcome from Northrhine-Westphalia.
Title: Re: Greetings from Germany
Post by: Annika on July 12, 2013, 02:47:23 PM
Post by: Annika on July 12, 2013, 02:47:23 PM
Thanks everyone for the warm welcome! Nice to see some other German and germanophilic folks on this site!
By the way: I live in the deep southwest in Freiburg im Breisgau. Anyone else from here?
Annika
By the way: I live in the deep southwest in Freiburg im Breisgau. Anyone else from here?
Annika
Title: Re: Greetings from Germany
Post by: Lara1969 on July 12, 2013, 04:11:49 PM
Post by: Lara1969 on July 12, 2013, 04:11:49 PM
Is Freiburg still in Germany ;)
Lara
Lara
Title: Re: Greetings from Germany
Post by: Jamie D on July 14, 2013, 09:39:50 AM
Post by: Jamie D on July 14, 2013, 09:39:50 AM
Ich liebe Deutsche Volk. Aber wie mein Freund bezeugen kann, beschränkt sich mein Wortschatz!
Willkommen Sie, aus Süd-Kalifornien
Willkommen Sie, aus Süd-Kalifornien
Title: Re: Greetings from Germany
Post by: Nero on July 14, 2013, 09:45:20 AM
Post by: Nero on July 14, 2013, 09:45:20 AM
Welcome!
Title: Re: Greetings from Germany
Post by: Donna Elvira on July 14, 2013, 12:08:40 PM
Post by: Donna Elvira on July 14, 2013, 12:08:40 PM
Willkomm, bienvenue, welcome from Alsace (Strasbourg) Annika! I'm a bit older than you but started my (long) journey from quite a similar position.
While there is life, there is hope!
Bises
Donna
While there is life, there is hope!
Bises
Donna
Title: Re: Greetings from Germany
Post by: angelats on July 18, 2013, 04:45:51 PM
Post by: angelats on July 18, 2013, 04:45:51 PM
Quote from: Annika on July 12, 2013, 02:47:23 PM
Thanks everyone for the warm welcome! Nice to see some other German and germanophilic folks on this site!
By the way: I live in the deep southwest in Freiburg im Breisgau. Anyone else from here?
Annika
Welcome Annika,
have a great time. I also lived in Freiburg for over 14 years. I had my coming out as ts person in a Freiburg ts group about maybe 20 years ago. i live now in Berlin. I consider myself as ts but i do not transition.
Greetings Angelats
Title: Re: Greetings from Germany
Post by: Donna Elvira on July 18, 2013, 04:56:42 PM
Post by: Donna Elvira on July 18, 2013, 04:56:42 PM
Quote from: Annika on July 12, 2013, 02:47:23 PM
Thanks everyone for the warm welcome! Nice to see some other German and germanophilic folks on this site!
By the way: I live in the deep southwest in Freiburg im Breisgau. Anyone else from here?
Annika
Hi again Annika,
I missed out on that post at first. I live quite close to you, in Strasbourg. I also know another T-lady on Freiburg...
Warm regards.
Donna