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Title: A whirlwind journey after breakup
Post by: karahayes on July 15, 2013, 05:03:38 PM
Post by: karahayes on July 15, 2013, 05:03:38 PM
My male-to-female tg gf left me just over 3 months ago. She became attracted to another male-to-female and they've been together since our breakup. She said it wasn't my fault. We initially me on a TS dating website. She was looking for a man and I was looking for a tg. Her initial concerns were our age difference (15yrs) and that I had self medicated for a month. She also knew that I cross-dressed and was okay as long it wasn't around her.
We were together for 20-months. She said she was comfortable in our relationship, but unfulfilled. I think she felt that she was hindering my own introspection into my gender dysphoria. She said that if I ever decided to transition, she support me, but we couldn't remain in a relationship. Now, as I say, she's with another m-to-f tg.
I have since started seeing a gender therapist who had referred me to an endo doc. I've been on low-dose HRT for 6-weeks now. I've not told my ex-gf as I still have strong feelings for her. I'm afraid if I tell her it would ruin any chance of getting back together. Alternatively, if I tell her, I'm not sure if she'll keep her word and support me. What to do?
We were together for 20-months. She said she was comfortable in our relationship, but unfulfilled. I think she felt that she was hindering my own introspection into my gender dysphoria. She said that if I ever decided to transition, she support me, but we couldn't remain in a relationship. Now, as I say, she's with another m-to-f tg.
I have since started seeing a gender therapist who had referred me to an endo doc. I've been on low-dose HRT for 6-weeks now. I've not told my ex-gf as I still have strong feelings for her. I'm afraid if I tell her it would ruin any chance of getting back together. Alternatively, if I tell her, I'm not sure if she'll keep her word and support me. What to do?
Title: Re: A whirlwind journey after breakup
Post by: Joanna Dark on July 15, 2013, 05:32:47 PM
Post by: Joanna Dark on July 15, 2013, 05:32:47 PM
Find someone else. You deserve better. She seems confused and you will only end up more hurt then you are now.
Title: Re: A whirlwind journey after breakup
Post by: Ltl89 on July 15, 2013, 07:57:05 PM
Post by: Ltl89 on July 15, 2013, 07:57:05 PM
Honestly, I think it's time to move on. You can be friends and have her emotional support, but don't expect a relationship. She has been seeing someone else for a few months, so it seems like it isn't right to try and rekindle any flame. If it's meant to be, things will work out in the end. However, for now, I would let go of your plans on dating her for the sake of everyone involved.