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So tomorrow (today actually, considering it's already 1:20 am) my girlfriend and I are going to the mall. I got excited when she asked because a.) I absolutely love going shopping with her, and b.) I think I'm going to be purchasing my first openly feminine accessory. I already talked to her about it, and she was okay with it, so that's pretty great :D anyways, she likes to go into this little store that has loads and loads of cheap jewelry; rings and necklaces and hair clips and just loads of accessory type stuff. I always loved going in there with her cause everything has so much personality and such. In my mind I would always pick out things I would wear and buy. So, I think I'm going to make my thoughts a reality and buy a ring!
*pointless ranting paragraph to follow: just kind of feel like sharing the information with people*
I am starting therapy (just with a gender therapist, not HRT) in less than a month. I've come out to my girlfriend and parents, and my brother and his girlfriend know as do my auntie and uncle whom psychologists. I have a group of guy friends I hang out with every week, and I go to school with one of them, so they are the final people I would like to eventually come out to personally. Possibly before school starts again in the fall. Once they know I'll be able to wear the ring openly; classmates will see it and so I guess that'll prepare them for whatever else may come in the future. I feel as though people may sarcastically be like "do you want us to clap for you?" after reading this, but I'm just super-excited!! :D

You go girl!  :D Jewelry and accessories are one of the easiest ways to express yourself because there are so many different types and styles. I was always able to get away with a lot of girly clothes and makeup and the like because of my career as a cirque performer. A few months ago I finally got my ears pierced and let me tell you, long dangly earrings are so much fun!! I have a hard time keeping track of small things like rings sometimes though xD so a lot of the time I just have things like hair ties wrapped around my fingers. What sort of ring were you thinking to get?  ;D

PS: I'll clap for you. ^_^ I'm excited for you too!

Thanks Makalii! :) I feel the same way; even now I wear a lot of bracelets but I've always wished I could wear female jewelry and accessories - especially flower hair clips, yes yes yes :D and earrings too of course. I've also been looking online at ear cuffs (since my ears are not pierced), so eventually I'd like to get those too ^_^
But as far as the type of ring, I'm not really quite sure. I'm just going to go to the store and see what they've got that catches my eye!
And awww, thanks!! :)

Jewellery is lovely! It was my own first way that I expressed my personal femininity as well. I loved necklaces, bracelets, and then right before transitioning, earrings!

Now I keep my jewellery simple, but if there is anything to calm one's dysphoria, it's shiny, pretty accessories!  :laugh:

That is lovely mwandishi. It is a reason to celebrate and I do applaude you.

Congratulations to a brave new girl and I wish her and her friends love joy and happiness.

Hugs

Cindy

 :eusa_clap: There ya go! We love good news, keep it coming! Hugs, Devlyn

Last summer I made a ring (I gave it to my best friend a while back), then last fall I started wearing a bracelet I got, and then a silver ring. This spring I got a necklace. And last friday I got my ears pierced. I wouldn't say it does THAT much, people probably assume I'm gay for now. I need to get a new ring now :P

Start small and work your way up! I love my jewelry, despite what people think of me when they see me (I don't know what they think), I like being "different".

Thanks everyone! :D
Unfortunately we had to reschedule :/ oh well, we're still going by Friday so it's all good.

I have had a couple of first these past few weeks.  I got the urge to pierce my ears and needed some studs, so off to town i went in male attire.  When I got into the store i happened to look down and see the sparkling toes in my flip flops!!  then a few days later i showed up at work with my studs in both ears, I work for a small family owned construction where you know every employee ....got a lot of questioning that day...lol. 

Nice! That sounds pretty exciting :D well, perhaps aside from the questioning... lol. I hope that went well!

m, it really wasnt too bad.  I just told them i got bored one night and wondered what i would look like with earrings which i was being totally truthful in saying.  I have worn them every day since.  womdering what my next uh oh is going to be.   :laugh:   

I always loved jewelry that has a meaning behind it. For example I always, no matter what I'm doing, wear a Maui fishing hook around my neck, to represent my Hawaiian name and my Hanai family. I even have different ones for different occasions. I even have a silver one for really fancy things. ^_^ Someday I hope to get something with a transexual symbol on it.
Anyways, be sure to let us know what you get! ^_^

That sounds really cool Maka! And Erin, best of luck with that next uh oh ;)
And I'll be sure to let you all know what I end up getting :D

What an awesome starting!!

That's about what I did...a series of things my ex wouldn't approve of, but hey "it's better to apologize than ask permission."

Growing out the hair, ears pierced, when those heal, subdued danglies, then bright danglies...clear nail hardener, then color (closely matching your natural nail color), of course one or two items of jewelry (not including the earrings, of course...ring(s), bracelets, necklaces, hair decorations (I have a couple clip-on butterflies).

All this and more is yours...as well as the timetable--take it at your leisure, this is a fun and exciting time for you!

:)

Yes, get jewelry, lots of jewelry. I love to wear jewelry, probably because what I wear is one of the few ways I express myself.

Anyways, this reminds me.. maybe when I order guitar strings, I will also get a ring or something, as long as my parents don't ask questions. I remember wearing lots of rings when I was younger, too bad I lost them. Now I usually wear a necklace when I go out somewhere, was cool when the guys at my youth group asked why I was wearing a necklace, and what the word "priceless" on it meant.. forgot the meaning, but it was something like women being priceless *shrug*.

Wonder what people would think if I suddenly started wearing a heart necklace(I would if I had a chance)...

Well, what did you buy?! A boy can love shopping too can't he? :P

Quote from: xander on July 17, 2013, 02:12:07 AM
Well, what did you buy?! A boy can love shopping too can't he? :P

A boy can love shopping as much as he wants!  :D One of my manliest friends likes to hang out at the mall on regular occasions.  ;)

We had to reschedule, so I think we're going to be going Thursday or Friday. Either way I'll be sure to let everyone know what I end up getting :)

Getting my first hole done in my ears (have 2 holes in each ear now)... i was not sure I wanted earrings in my ears when I had them pierced, but I never took them out, as loved my newly pierced ear lobes .

I remember after it healed, i bought myself large hoop earrings, wow i love wearing them.

I usually go for shoes while still part time. With a lot of mens fashion using colors that at one time were reserved only for women you can get away with a lot more now...like my black and teal shoes that i wear with black plaid shorts and a teal and black shirt. No one can tell they are womens shoes and if they can they don't say anything lol

Today is the day!!! Right? ^_^ Have fun!!

Woah, you remembered! Yep, I just got back from her house a little while ago. It was great! We were still just in the first store we went into and SHE asked ME if I wanted to go look at the rings. She asked while smiling and when I said okay she gave me a hug and it made me feel a heck of a lot better :) I found one I really liked, it was like a leaf that sort of twisted around your finger, but it was too small to get past my boney knuckles :/ we went around to some different stores (the one I mentioned earlier had only smaller rings cause it's meant for "tweens" and female teens) and at one store she even offered to buy me one! But we ended up going back to the first store and I found one that I liked enough :D it was kinda too big (my knuckles mess everything up :/ ) but we got ring snuggies... Kinda sorta tacky but they get the job done. The ring kind of looks a little like this: http://www.etsy.com/listing/64357886/black-lace-victorian-style-ring-with (http://www.etsy.com/listing/64357886/black-lace-victorian-style-ring-with) , but it's fuller, and there are a lot more crystals (black and silver). Also, the "lace" part doesn't look so cheap... It looks as though it's made of many little beads, and it's more of a burnt/dark silver than black... The more I look at it the more I love it! :D

After the mall we went back to her house. I was afraid that while I was expressing my feminine self so explicitly she wouldn't want me to hug her, or cuddle with me, or kiss me... Contrary to my fears, we hugged and cuddled and kissed each other just as we normally would. In fact, after we finsihed getting the ring snuggie set and I put on my new ring, she reached over to a jewelry box and pulled out this VERRRY feminine and large flower ring, and she put it on me, and she kissed my cheek. :)

 :laugh: :D :laugh: :D :laugh: :D AWWWWW!!!!!! That's so adorable!!!!!!!! :D :D :D I'm so happy for you!!!! That just made my day. ^_^

Congratulations on buying a ring to express yourself. What makes it even more exciting is that you have the support of her with all the love and affection. So happy for you :D :D

That is so cute! :D She sounds lovely and i am so glad she is so supportive and encouraging.

Yes, she truly is lovely. (:

I remember my first "openly feminine accessory"! I was 14 and got my ears pierced. They gave me a nice pair of (imitation) diamond studs to wear home. My mother was furious!!! It was 1963  :o LOL!

haha wow, that's awesome :D

For me, it was an unusual beginning, so I will tell you the first two (2) openly womanly accessories.

• Bra: at work.  I had been binding my breasts at work to assume the boy profile, but through an unusual chain of events, I got my boss' personal OK it for me to wear what was comfortable.  So that next day I began to wear my bra, stopped hiding my breasts.  It has worked out well.  I was so worried about my boss, but she was super.
• Sandals: no toe colors but definitely women's sandals.  But after item 1, above, there was not much anxiety or nervousness with this item or anything else, because I was out all the way, no stealth.

Since then, more and more little and large things.  I am taking time off from work now, but that was the big area for me, working out my transition mainly at my job.