Susan's Place Transgender Resources

hey everyone. i was just curious coz i really want to find love and i wanna make sure there are people who will go 4 me. so yeah like whats the ratio. at 1st i thought thered be more transgirls because who would choose a woman with male genitalia over a fully functional woman who can make babies and doesn't need u to be constantly feeding her hormones so she can stay girly. also trans girls tend to be tall, have big hands and feet and are usually not as feminine as normal girls. then i read a thread that some woman rote about her bf. ok one day she was checking her bf's history on his computer and it came up with heeps of transsexual porn. she then described how she talked to heaps of people about it and it turns out its a common fetish 4 strait guys :D This is great coz it means it should be eazy 4 me to find a boyfriend even though I'd rather a girlfriend. apparently there's also lesbian trans dating sites but I'm curious who would use those who isn't trans coz most lesbians hate us. anyway. is there more transsexual girls or people (guys and girls) who like transsexuals. hopefully it's the second one coz i really do hope i have potential and that every transgirl can get love :) <3

Lesbians are far and away the most sympathetic group towards trans women. By far. It's not even a contest. I really don't get the animosity some have towards both gay men and lesbians when the large majority support us fully. So there are some radfems and others who don't like us they are the minority. Now will lesbians date a pre-op trans woman? A lot wouldn't but that's okay because people should be able to choose who they date. But many lesbians, not all, would date a post-op trans woman you just have to get out there and meet them.

Of course I like men so it's rather academic and most men would date an a passable post-op trans women and many will date a pre-op one. I have a BF and I am pre-op. So there.

I think a friend said it best after her divorce, "the only reason women are attracted to each other is because the parts fit". Personally i say love who you want and go with the flow....that's my plans when i decide to date again if my SO and i don't work out.

For me i found love in a ftm that was also in transition. Only thing we did find was having 2 dealing with there own personal body dysphoria makes life hell at times. But we are happy and been married now over 7 years.

Its funny that Sexual orientation is side to side with Gender identity in the community. For me i would say i am BI but i found longer i was in my transition i looked more at wanting to be with a male.

Guess we have to be true to ourselves and possible partners. It is possible but you need to go out and get what you want in life.

Izzy

Actually I think it all depends on where you are, populations vary - where I am - men flock to me and womyn despise the very idea of me - - the problem is I am only attracted to womyn   :'(

I keep trying and it never works.  :'(

six years now. every time I run any ad men send me naked pitures  >:(

In my opinion, finding someone who wants you for who you are... that's love. Finding someone who wants you for what you are... that's something else. Confusing the two can lead to hurt all round.

I'm not sure finding someone who has an attraction for transpeople is the best way to embark on a relationship. Do you want to be someone's trangendered partner? Or would you rather be someone's girlfriend? Maybe the way to find something lasting is to set your sights on someone who wants to be with you for everything about you, and accepts the trans part as a single facet of a more complex diamond.

Maybe it's idealistic, but I believe that everyone is worthy of being, and deserves to be loved for more than just one single aspect of themselves.

What does it matter? I mean, it's not going to be really all that important unless you're planning to sleep with a sizeable proportion of the population.

You only really need one person, ideally someone who's as attracted to you as you are to them.

I don't see much of the problem. There's even men and women out there who prefer trans folk as partners.

Why?

Well from the perspective of a transwoman

1. There's no risk of pregnancy.
2. We don't have periods, and therefore are unlikely to be affected by PMS.
3. To a woman who's lesbian or bi we don't have kids, are unlikely to be married or want to bring some creepy guy into the relationship 'to watch or possibly participate'.
4. We're usually not curious, not experimenting, and not fooling around with someone else's feelings.
5. We tend to be more discreet.
6. We tend to be pretty sure of who we are and who we prefer and what we are into.

If someone's genuinely into you as a person what you've got between your legs isn't really that big an issue.

Quote from: StellaB on August 01, 2013, 11:14:15 AM
What does it matter? I mean, it's not going to be really all that important unless you're planning to sleep with a sizeable proportion of the population.

You only really need one person, ideally someone who's as attracted to you as you are to them.

I don't see much of the problem. There's even men and women out there who prefer trans folk as partners.

Why?

Well from the perspective of a transwoman

1. There's no risk of pregnancy.
2. We don't have periods, and therefore are unlikely to be affected by PMS.         
3. To a woman who's lesbian or bi we don't have kids, are unlikely to be married or want to bring some creepy guy into the relationship 'to watch or possibly participate'.
4. W2e're usually not curious, not experimenting, and not fooling around with someone else's feelings.
5. We tend to be more discreet.
6. We tend to be pretty sure of who we are and who we prefer and what we are into.

If someone's genuinely into you as a person what you've got between your legs isn't really that big an issue.

2. We don't have periods, and therefore are unlikely to be affected by PMS.         Actually around the time of my shot I am a horrible to be around, all of my roommates have told me it is exactly like it is me being at "that time of the month"
3. To a woman who's lesbian or bi we don't have kids, are unlikely to be married or want to bring some creepy guy into the relationship 'to watch or possibly participate'.   Actually I have 3 kids and a whole bunch of us do
4. W2e're usually not curious, not experimenting, and not fooling around with someone else's feelings.  every single trans person I have ever met was into experimenting at one stage or another
5. We tend to be more discreet.   ?? SOME of the least discret people I have met were trans.! generalizations are bad

Quote from: vegie271 on August 01, 2013, 11:29:16 AM


2. We don't have periods, and therefore are unlikely to be affected by PMS.         Actually around the time of my shot I am a horrible to be around, all of my roommates have told me it is exactly like it is me being at "that time of the month"
3. To a woman who's lesbian or bi we don't have kids, are unlikely to be married or want to bring some creepy guy into the relationship 'to watch or possibly participate'.   Actually I have 3 kids and a whole bunch of us do
4. W2e're usually not curious, not experimenting, and not fooling around with someone else's feelings.  every single trans person I have ever met was into experimenting at one stage or another
5. We tend to be more discreet.   ?? SOME of the least discret people I have met were trans.! generalizations are bad

Ah okay. But you would still give me a couple of points for effort, wouldn't you?

Quote from: StellaB on August 01, 2013, 01:47:31 PM
Ah okay. But you would still give me a couple of points for effort, wouldn't you?

;D  sure - you were right we can't get pregnant - worst part about my life - thing I have wanted most out of life  :'(

I'm pretty much attracted to whoever I find attractive. I try not to limit myself.

Quote from: vegie271 on August 01, 2013, 01:55:49 PM



;D  sure - you were right we can't get pregnant - worst part about my life - thing I have wanted most out of life  :'(

Ouch! I'm sorry. Can I offer you a virtual cookie or cupcake to make up for it?

Quote from: Joanna Dark on August 01, 2013, 03:07:21 AM
Lesbians are far and away the most sympathetic group towards trans women. By far. It's not even a contest.

I sure hope so!  I spend half of my time watching Lesbian channels on Youtube because they make my heart melt <3

In my life thus far I have come across many lesbians who were accepting of me.  I guess I just make people really comfortable around me so that it becomes a moot point what I have between my legs.  As for me I can't say I'm attracted to eithe sex but I know that I would rather be with a girl than a guy.  I have found its just so much easier to relate to other girls and them to me.

+1 on lesbian heart melt.

When I was in guy mode, I tended towards dating bi or outwardly lesbian girls... confusing the hell out of the latter in the process ("but he is a guy jess... wtf?.")  I would happily date a transgirl now- either pre or post, though not a straight guy.  I love girls... and a trans girl is a girl to me.

Back to question of pro trans, its supposed to be a common fetish in straight guys- I wondered about why... the theory I have is that perhaps its the absence of having to please foreign genitalia?  The curves, boobs, bum and brain all arouse them as per cis women, so thats 90% of the way there I suppose.  Then they know how to handle a penis.  Its simple... no mystery.

For me, I've found that I'm attracted to pretty much anything in the middle of the road. Girly girls and manly men don't do much for me, but everything else I do find attractive. Well, depending on who it is, but that's what gets me going for the most part. My wife is pretty andro, which is fine by me.

Quote from: StellaB on August 01, 2013, 03:27:21 PM
Ouch! I'm sorry. Can I offer you a virtual cookie or cupcake to make up for it?

You needn't apologize, I think your points are pretty valid for many of us Stella. The last thing in the world I'd want is to have a period or get pregnant. I am on a totally even keel on HRT and was an ->-bleeped-<- under the influence of testosterone. I'm not into creepy relationships definitely just one on one type person and keep my sexual life private. Pretty much what you had said.

I've not had any issues with lesbians.. In fact, my luck has been quite good. I went to a wedding last weekend and went home with one of the bridesmaids and her GF.. Neither of them had any issues with me being trans.. Not did any one I met the following night while out and about clubbing..

Quote from: Jess42 on August 01, 2013, 02:56:59 PM
I'm pretty much attracted to whoever I find attractive. I try not to limit myself.

Post-HRT, my sexuality has always been undefined. Although my last partner was male, I'm attracted to whoever makes me feel good about myself.

Kelly the conquer. .. (conqueress?)

Go Kelly girl!

:icon_woowoo:

Quote from: CaseyB on August 04, 2013, 12:44:16 AM
I seem to be the minority in that most of the people in the gay community I have heard from seem to think that straight transsexuals are only pretending to be transsexual so that they don't have to be gay and that they don't understand why lesbian transsexuals would change when it would be easier to be with a girl if they stayed a man.  Maybe I've only met self hating gay people since they all seem to think being gay is bad.

no! I meet these people all the time - I get told I can't be a lesbian all the time - "if you wanted to date womyn why didn't you just say a man" I say "dang it If I was a man I would be one!"