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This may sound weird but i's true. every time someone differenciates me from the other girls i get angry and feel i have to differenciate others to get my revenge. it's kinda weird u know but it's true. every time someone says "Your a boy" I get angry and call them white trash (I'm white btw) and every time someone says something sexist in a general convo i always feel i need to make a black people joke to cover it up. what should i do?

Stop trying to get revenge?  Getting angry and making nasty comments isn't going to help people learn to accept you and it actually lowers you to their level (you have to be the better person here).  If you can, I think it might be best to either shrug it off or find a polite way to correct people.

It's never best to alienate people who might someday become friends. Words can cut like a knife but take the high ground and be smug in the knowledge you are better them then  >:-)

Kill with kindness.

Quote from: Lilyyy on August 04, 2013, 06:09:30 PM
This may sound weird but i's true. every time someone differenciates me from the other girls i get angry and feel i have to differenciate others to get my revenge. it's kinda weird u know but it's true. every time someone says "Your a boy" I get angry and call them white trash (I'm white btw) and every time someone says something sexist in a general convo i always feel i need to make a black people joke to cover it up. what should i do?

Why would you insult African Americans when people accuse you of being sexist?  I don't even see how that could be construed as revenge when you are targeting another group.  As a white person, I don't find white trash to be a racial phrase, but I suppose it could be used as such.

Nontheless, please realize groups don't deserve to be targeted because of the actions of one person.  I know some people I don't like who happen to be white (and I am white). That doesn't mean all white people are bad.  The same can be said of Christians and Muslims, African Americans and Whites, Republicans and democrats, etc.   One bad apple (or even many) shouldn't taint the entire group.  I prefer the passive aggressive bitchy route which gets the point across without using actual insults.

This is so not a good thing, especially if you're heading in the MtF direction.

It's not just the fact that you're descending to their level, or fighting fire with fire, but you're also responding in a way which is atypical for most women and this in itself will only serve to escalate the conflict and provoke further hostility and prejudice.

Most misgenderings are unintentional or come about as a result of ignorance, but when they don't there's usually a payoff involved. When you respond in this way you either create a conflict which shouldn't have existed in the first place or you give that person the payoff and encouragement to do it again.

Women don't just have a thicker skin but by and large they keep a tighter hold on their dignity. You might find it better to choose not to throw your's away quite so easily.

Two wrongs don't make a right and this isn't the place for you to rationalize hate for people of other ethnic backgrounds.

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