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Title: Nervous about pursuing therapy.
Post by: tenjou on August 08, 2013, 10:31:12 PM
Post by: tenjou on August 08, 2013, 10:31:12 PM
I'm at a point in my life where I think I need to start taking steps towards what might be a physical transition. I've attempted to come out to my parents several times. Some of these times I was very adamant about identifying as male, while other times I tried to explain that I was non-binary/genderqueer. None of these times were what I'd call successful. I tried to make the "transgender thing" as palatable as possible by assuring them I had no desire to transition, but that didn't work, and the longer I'm alive the more I realize it's probably not true anyway.
So I'm thinking about trying to get a therapist to help me deal with my dysphoria and issues related to transitioning. I'm not 100% convinced I want to transition, but I think about it often, especially top surgery. (I'm less enthusiastic about the prospect of hormones.)
I'm nervous because the times I've pursued therapy have not gone terribly well. I'm not talking about the therapy I received for several years from a great therapist- she was wonderful, but not very well educated in trans* issues. What I am talking about is my attempts to contact local gender therapists. Most of the time it was me who dropped the ball.
I'm in the Baltimore area, living at home with my parents. I have a job now so I can certainly afford the therapy, but I don't have a car and I don't drive, so I'd need to ask for a ride. I'm nervous about this because as I've mentioned my parents are not that enthusiastic about the possibility of me transitioning. But I also think starting therapy would be helpful for me, and an opportunity for dialogue with my parents.
I'm curious as to whether there's anyone here who's pursued gender therapy as a non-binary identified person. I guess I'm looking for advice on how to go about getting therapy. And I'm also wondering whether I should pursue this at all while I'm living with my parents. I'm guessing that the answer is yes, because my quality of life is deteriorating.
So I'm thinking about trying to get a therapist to help me deal with my dysphoria and issues related to transitioning. I'm not 100% convinced I want to transition, but I think about it often, especially top surgery. (I'm less enthusiastic about the prospect of hormones.)
I'm nervous because the times I've pursued therapy have not gone terribly well. I'm not talking about the therapy I received for several years from a great therapist- she was wonderful, but not very well educated in trans* issues. What I am talking about is my attempts to contact local gender therapists. Most of the time it was me who dropped the ball.
I'm in the Baltimore area, living at home with my parents. I have a job now so I can certainly afford the therapy, but I don't have a car and I don't drive, so I'd need to ask for a ride. I'm nervous about this because as I've mentioned my parents are not that enthusiastic about the possibility of me transitioning. But I also think starting therapy would be helpful for me, and an opportunity for dialogue with my parents.
I'm curious as to whether there's anyone here who's pursued gender therapy as a non-binary identified person. I guess I'm looking for advice on how to go about getting therapy. And I'm also wondering whether I should pursue this at all while I'm living with my parents. I'm guessing that the answer is yes, because my quality of life is deteriorating.
Title: Re: Nervous about pursuing therapy.
Post by: mrs izzy on August 08, 2013, 10:39:32 PM
Post by: mrs izzy on August 08, 2013, 10:39:32 PM
I used to live on the Eastern shore and there was no help at all, or anyone willing to help. I use to travel 2x a month to New Jersey.
I would do a web search for Chase Brexton they are in your area and maybe could help some.
Luck
Izzy
I would do a web search for Chase Brexton they are in your area and maybe could help some.
Luck
Izzy
Title: Re: Nervous about pursuing therapy.
Post by: Ltl89 on August 09, 2013, 11:58:48 PM
Post by: Ltl89 on August 09, 2013, 11:58:48 PM
I started therapy at home with my mom. It worked for me (sorta). If you feel you need it, then get the therapy. I would suggest you try to find a gender therapist or somebody who has experience with trans patients. There must be someone in Baltimore for this as it is a big city. As Izzy said, you could contact Chase Brexton and see if they have therapy resources or could direct you to a trans friendly therapist.
As for transportation, isn't there public transportation. Perhaps I'm wrong, but I visited a few times and it looked like it to me. Then again, I'm sure there are different parts. I'm in NY and the area I live in has very little public transport despite what people may imagine.
As for transportation, isn't there public transportation. Perhaps I'm wrong, but I visited a few times and it looked like it to me. Then again, I'm sure there are different parts. I'm in NY and the area I live in has very little public transport despite what people may imagine.