Community Conversation => Transitioning => Coming out of the closet => Topic started by: Entyce on August 09, 2013, 08:40:38 PM Return to Full Version
Title: What point do you tell conservative parents?
Post by: Entyce on August 09, 2013, 08:40:38 PM
Post by: Entyce on August 09, 2013, 08:40:38 PM
Long story short I am a 24 MTF and I am around 3 months HRT.
I really want to tell my mom that I have a good relationship with
however, if she reacts badly it could have harsh repercussions .
Currently renting one of our family homes from her at a discount price. so could potentially lose my house ( worst Case)
I just wanted to get some advice.. do I wait till she notices or just be blunt about it and hope for the best
Thanks
I really want to tell my mom that I have a good relationship with
however, if she reacts badly it could have harsh repercussions .
Currently renting one of our family homes from her at a discount price. so could potentially lose my house ( worst Case)
I just wanted to get some advice.. do I wait till she notices or just be blunt about it and hope for the best
Thanks
Title: Re: What point do you tell conservative parents?
Post by: bethany on August 09, 2013, 09:40:31 PM
Post by: bethany on August 09, 2013, 09:40:31 PM
Hello Entyce, Welcome to Susan's. I'm surprised your mom hasn't noticed yet. If I were you I would tell her before she asks you about the changes in your apearance. But thats just my opinion.
Title: Re: What point do you tell conservative parents?
Post by: WFane on August 09, 2013, 11:03:30 PM
Post by: WFane on August 09, 2013, 11:03:30 PM
I have conservative parents as well, and have come out to my mother. My mother is pretty accepting of me, but I have to sort of ease her into a conversation about the subject. So instead of just being like "Mom, I'm a transsexual and I need to become a woman." I'm more like "Mom, you know how I've always been kinda confused and self conscious? Like, (list examples, talk about the examples, reminisce about them etc.). Well, I think I know what's going on. I've been going to/considering going to therapy for a while, and I think I am having body dysphoria." and go from there.
Title: Re: What point do you tell conservative parents?
Post by: Ltl89 on August 09, 2013, 11:45:09 PM
Post by: Ltl89 on August 09, 2013, 11:45:09 PM
Your mother will eventually know at some point. I believe the earlier is better, but every situation is different. My mom is still angry with me for not telling her asap and I told her one week on hrt. You know your parents best. While it's never possible to guess know the reaction, there are ways to estimate. Do you honestly think she would kick you out? If she did, are you prepared to move somewhere else. These are important things to think about. Remember though, it will be difficult to keep hiding it, so at some point she will know. I wish you the best of luck. :)
Title: Re: What point do you tell conservative parents?
Post by: Emenii on August 11, 2013, 04:02:23 PM
Post by: Emenii on August 11, 2013, 04:02:23 PM
Its honestly (in my opinion) best to do what you want to. If you choose to tell them because you feel its right, go ahead.
if you choose not to tell them and keep it to yourself you can because its your life and its no-ones right to have to know.
On a side note, it depends on the TYPE of parents you have.
My parents were very liberal and no religious and they hated the idea of me being trans.
Just putting that out there.
if you choose not to tell them and keep it to yourself you can because its your life and its no-ones right to have to know.
On a side note, it depends on the TYPE of parents you have.
My parents were very liberal and no religious and they hated the idea of me being trans.
Just putting that out there.
Title: Re: What point do you tell conservative parents?
Post by: Jaelithe on August 12, 2013, 09:29:26 AM
Post by: Jaelithe on August 12, 2013, 09:29:26 AM
I know my situation is likely different from yours in several ways. My parents are rather dramatically juxtaposed in most of their views(which probably had something to do with the divorce). I don't know what to expect from my Father, but I'm hoping for good things there. My Mother, and her entire side of the family is likely to make it their personal crusade to 'save me' from myself, they're not the disowning type.
I'm thinking that I'll likely come out to them once I'm a ways into the treatments and ready to begin going full time. If my legal documents all have an F stamped on them it will make me feel more secure, in a weird, paper-shield kind of way ^^;
I'm thinking that I'll likely come out to them once I'm a ways into the treatments and ready to begin going full time. If my legal documents all have an F stamped on them it will make me feel more secure, in a weird, paper-shield kind of way ^^;