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Title: Coming out to extended family?
Post by: bender on August 20, 2013, 02:32:17 PM
Post by: bender on August 20, 2013, 02:32:17 PM
(Sorry if i'm posting this in the wrong place)
I have been looking for a job for a while, and i decided since i live in a very conservative state, i should get a legal name change first. So far i am only out to my therapist, my parents and people on the internet. i want to come out to most of my family before i change my name, i'm just not sure how i will do it. i'm thinking about either coming out to my nana first, and see how that goes, or having my parents tell everyone for me. the only problem is i don't think my parents are very supportive, it's been over a year since i cam out and they still think i'm just confused.
I know only i will ultimately know what the best option for me is, but any advice or stories about how you came out and how it went would be very much appreciated.
I have been looking for a job for a while, and i decided since i live in a very conservative state, i should get a legal name change first. So far i am only out to my therapist, my parents and people on the internet. i want to come out to most of my family before i change my name, i'm just not sure how i will do it. i'm thinking about either coming out to my nana first, and see how that goes, or having my parents tell everyone for me. the only problem is i don't think my parents are very supportive, it's been over a year since i cam out and they still think i'm just confused.
I know only i will ultimately know what the best option for me is, but any advice or stories about how you came out and how it went would be very much appreciated.
Title: Re: Coming out to extended family?
Post by: Devlyn on August 20, 2013, 02:40:26 PM
Post by: Devlyn on August 20, 2013, 02:40:26 PM
Here's some reading material while we wait for the other posters to show up with their experiences:
https://www.susans.org/wiki/Category:Family_and_friends
https://www.susans.org/wiki/Category:Coming_out
Hugs, Devlyn
https://www.susans.org/wiki/Category:Family_and_friends
https://www.susans.org/wiki/Category:Coming_out
Hugs, Devlyn
Title: Re: Coming out to extended family?
Post by: LordKAT on August 20, 2013, 02:44:45 PM
Post by: LordKAT on August 20, 2013, 02:44:45 PM
My name change came first, the newspaper told a few and they told the rest. I never declared that I was changing anything, only answered questions and requested that it not be told to strangers.
Title: Re: Coming out to extended family?
Post by: ErinM on August 21, 2013, 01:44:32 PM
Post by: ErinM on August 21, 2013, 01:44:32 PM
I started with my mother and very close friends, and then progressed further with other family members based on how frequently I saw them.
Extended family and acquaintances I rarely if eve saw found out by Facebook and the gossip that followed.
I waited until after coming out en masse on Facebook to apply for my name change.
Extended family and acquaintances I rarely if eve saw found out by Facebook and the gossip that followed.
I waited until after coming out en masse on Facebook to apply for my name change.