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Title: Those feel good moments.
Post by: Shannon1979 on August 22, 2013, 04:10:52 PM
Post by: Shannon1979 on August 22, 2013, 04:10:52 PM
Ok so i died my hair the other day as im going to be using hair extensions instead of a wig. I have cut my fringe so that it sits in a way that covers the high hairline.
This evening i have just been at home and had no makeup on at all no extensions in. My hair is getting quite long by itself. has no style to it really but is longish now. O looked at myself in the mirror and for the first time i didnt see the face of a boy. Ok i didnt look at my best, but there was definite femininity there. may have been the fringe or the hair coulor, but i definately saw a girl. Not confident enough about it to post a pic but it did make me happy. Feels like even though i dont have HRT yet i have made a bit of progress to where i want to be. :angel:
This evening i have just been at home and had no makeup on at all no extensions in. My hair is getting quite long by itself. has no style to it really but is longish now. O looked at myself in the mirror and for the first time i didnt see the face of a boy. Ok i didnt look at my best, but there was definite femininity there. may have been the fringe or the hair coulor, but i definately saw a girl. Not confident enough about it to post a pic but it did make me happy. Feels like even though i dont have HRT yet i have made a bit of progress to where i want to be. :angel:
Title: Re: Those feel good moments.
Post by: Ciara on August 22, 2013, 05:17:36 PM
Post by: Ciara on August 22, 2013, 05:17:36 PM
Hi Shannon,
I love those moments when I look in the mirror and see the girl looking back. I hope see lots more of her.
Those moments make everything worthwhile.
Enjoy every one of them.
Ciara.
I love those moments when I look in the mirror and see the girl looking back. I hope see lots more of her.
Those moments make everything worthwhile.
Enjoy every one of them.
Ciara.
Title: Re: Those feel good moments.
Post by: Danielle Emmalee on August 22, 2013, 05:20:33 PM
Post by: Danielle Emmalee on August 22, 2013, 05:20:33 PM
Quote from: Ciara on August 22, 2013, 05:17:36 PM
Hi Shannon,
I love those moments when I look in the mirror and see the girl looking back. I hope see lots more of her.
Those moments make everything worthwhile.
Enjoy every one of them.
Ciara.
I had one of those moments the other day. I just started laughing at my reflection because I couldn't believe it. :D
Title: Re: Those feel good moments.
Post by: Shannon1979 on August 22, 2013, 05:32:10 PM
Post by: Shannon1979 on August 22, 2013, 05:32:10 PM
Definatly make it all worth while. Gave me a good boost, As i have been a little down about things recently. :angel:
Title: Re: Those feel good moments.
Post by: JillSter on August 22, 2013, 05:57:18 PM
Post by: JillSter on August 22, 2013, 05:57:18 PM
It's a good feeling. :)
I usually have to lean in and look directly in my eyes to see it, but it's a warm, fuzzy feeling when I do. Makeup helps.
I usually have to lean in and look directly in my eyes to see it, but it's a warm, fuzzy feeling when I do. Makeup helps.
Title: Re: Those feel good moments.
Post by: Rachel on August 22, 2013, 07:52:40 PM
Post by: Rachel on August 22, 2013, 07:52:40 PM
Congratulations, some day I hope to be able to say the same.
Title: Re: Those feel good moments.
Post by: Shannon1979 on August 23, 2013, 08:13:54 AM
Post by: Shannon1979 on August 23, 2013, 08:13:54 AM
Took that feel good factor one step further today. Was messing with the hair extensions i brought but when i had done my makeup i decided that i didnt need them. I have been so obsesed with having really long hair that i was damaging my real hair by suffocating it under a wig for months. so i styled it with a few clips to hold it in place as it can go a bit wild. And went out like that.
I was a little self concious at first as this is the first time ive been out in ages without my wig on. In fact i havent not worn it since i went full time. But after a short while i noticed that i was getting less looks than i did with the wig on.
Feels awsome its like ive graduated to the next stage of transition. :angel: :angel: :angel:
I like to make these little changes quite often, nothing big little steps. It prevents me from feeling stagnent/stuck in one place. gives a good boost when you are in a bit of a funk. :angel:
I was a little self concious at first as this is the first time ive been out in ages without my wig on. In fact i havent not worn it since i went full time. But after a short while i noticed that i was getting less looks than i did with the wig on.
Feels awsome its like ive graduated to the next stage of transition. :angel: :angel: :angel:
I like to make these little changes quite often, nothing big little steps. It prevents me from feeling stagnent/stuck in one place. gives a good boost when you are in a bit of a funk. :angel:
Title: Re: Those feel good moments.
Post by: Ciara on August 23, 2013, 11:39:19 AM
Post by: Ciara on August 23, 2013, 11:39:19 AM
Quote from: Shannon1979 on August 23, 2013, 08:13:54 AMHi Shannon,
I was a little self concious at first as this is the first time ive been out in ages without my wig on. In fact i havent not worn it since i went full time. But after a short while i noticed that i was getting less looks than i did with the wig on.
Feels awsome its like ive graduated to the next stage of transition. :angel: :angel: :angel:
I'm not surprised that you were so accepted. You look fantastic.
I'm really happy for you that you have graduated to the next stage.
Ciara.
Title: Re: Those feel good moments.
Post by: Amy The Bookworm on August 23, 2013, 12:04:16 PM
Post by: Amy The Bookworm on August 23, 2013, 12:04:16 PM
Yep! I know that feeling!
Up until recently all I've done is paint my toe nails. I don't even know if I LIKE painting my toe nails ... but it's my own quiet rebellion in the face of what society expects me to do. I came out to my wife and while she's got a lot to adjust to, she so far seems to be taking things quite well. She suggested shaving my legs and talked me through it over the weekend, and that has helped my confidence and self esteem tremendously. That reminds me... I need to shave them again!
On top of that, yesterday, my wife realized I have a retirement account from when I was in nursing. It has about 2,700 dollars in it, and they've been charging me 50 dollars a year for the last 3 years to run it. Since it's actually losing money... she suggested I take that money put it in a separate account that only I have access to and use it for laser hair removal and other expenses related to transition not including therapy appointments. She's also letting me get an exercise bike this weekend.
None of these things are things that anyone is going to notice. Even still... I feel more feminine and happy than I have in years just from a little good luck and support from someone I love.
Another thing I've noticed about life since telling my wife about me being trans since last week: We haven't had a single argument. Not one. Not even when I came out. She hasn't yelled at me once which has been a real change from the last year. We talk more for the first time in years, and I think we're happier than we've been in a good long time.
Those feel good moments indeed!
Up until recently all I've done is paint my toe nails. I don't even know if I LIKE painting my toe nails ... but it's my own quiet rebellion in the face of what society expects me to do. I came out to my wife and while she's got a lot to adjust to, she so far seems to be taking things quite well. She suggested shaving my legs and talked me through it over the weekend, and that has helped my confidence and self esteem tremendously. That reminds me... I need to shave them again!
On top of that, yesterday, my wife realized I have a retirement account from when I was in nursing. It has about 2,700 dollars in it, and they've been charging me 50 dollars a year for the last 3 years to run it. Since it's actually losing money... she suggested I take that money put it in a separate account that only I have access to and use it for laser hair removal and other expenses related to transition not including therapy appointments. She's also letting me get an exercise bike this weekend.
None of these things are things that anyone is going to notice. Even still... I feel more feminine and happy than I have in years just from a little good luck and support from someone I love.
Another thing I've noticed about life since telling my wife about me being trans since last week: We haven't had a single argument. Not one. Not even when I came out. She hasn't yelled at me once which has been a real change from the last year. We talk more for the first time in years, and I think we're happier than we've been in a good long time.
Those feel good moments indeed!