Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: Jaelithe on August 26, 2013, 02:43:11 PM Return to Full Version

Title: Spinning Wheels....
Post by: Jaelithe on August 26, 2013, 02:43:11 PM
I'm sure we all go through this at some point. I've scheduled everything that it makes any sense to schedule, therapy sessions check, electrolysis check, voice therapy check, coming out to first people check............now what? I feel like I want to scream it at everyone around me and be done with it. I can't think of anything productive left for me to do until the next month passes and the lack of progress is driving me insane. On top of which, there are only a VERY few people outside of forums like this that I can discuss anything with until I reach that point, which adds that whole "I had this neat thing happen today......oh ->-bleeped-<- I can't TELL anyone about it....." layer on top of this.

I'm clearly rambling now, so I think I'll stop here...
Title: Re: Spinning Wheels....
Post by: Devlyn on August 26, 2013, 02:48:01 PM
Big hug! Ramble away, hon, it will help pass the time waiting for those milestones. Hugs, Devlyn
Title: Re: Spinning Wheels....
Post by: Jaelithe on August 26, 2013, 03:21:46 PM
I need to find something to do with my free time for the next month.  Maybe look into some RP sims on Second Life or something.... >.>
Title: Re: Spinning Wheels....
Post by: Lesley_Roberta on August 27, 2013, 07:34:20 AM
Yeah a week never goes by and I don't suffer from 'inability to feel like I am actually doing something' syndrome.

I have made my appointment to get in my referral to start the whole process, and now I sit and wait, and I have no idea when someone will contact me. Next week, next month? no idea when.

And some days are harder than others.
Title: Re: Spinning Wheels....
Post by: Murbella on August 28, 2013, 07:46:38 AM
Quote from: Jaelithe on August 26, 2013, 03:21:46 PM
I need to find something to do with my free time for the next month.  Maybe look into some RP sims on Second Life or something.... >.>

That will give you an outlet, but also do try to incorporate something active as well.  For me coming out to my wife as questioning my gender has done wonders for my motivation to get back in shape.  I really would like to look good in the clothes I now feel comfortable in wearing while home.  Even if you are only doing a 30 minutes or so of a quick home workout, the effects of this to counteract depression alone are well more than with it.

Edit; this is not me saying you need to workout, you look great in your picture :angel:

The other one I suggest is to find a hobby that taxes you mentally or forces you to plan things out.  I brew yummy beer at home and both my wife and I garden.  Set yourself up with something that can provide a sense of accomplishment in some other facet of your life to take the edge off your feelings of sluggishness elsewhere.