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I am just wondering if anyone who has transitioned and their sexual preference changed from what it was before transitioning?

mine has.

I found myself mildly intrested, but I wouldnt say overall it changed much

Nope, no change, still don't care for it.

It kinda flipped on its head - at least in terms of which gender I'm attracted to. And maybe broadened a bit.
So, still mostly straight.

Well, some of use were bi/pan from the get go!

I haven't been with a woman in at least a decade, and I'm sure for me it's neither preference or choice. I'm now of the belief that if I didn't have a society telling me that I was supposed to like women sexually that I don't think I would have ever been with any. When I was it felt great, I mean how can someone, anyone say sex isn't fun if the partner isn't doing something to hurt you, especially if you both know how to make love, even with the same sex, which is how I viewed women. I felt guilty, though. I've been very attracted to guys since puberty, so attracted that I'd literally get weak kneed and/or have to catch my breath anytime I was around the boys I had crushes on and that NEVER happened with girls. I believe it's because I knew I had the heart and soul of a girl, and consequently, I was far more sexually attracted to guys. I've had my most emotionally and physically comfortable and rewarding lovemaking with a man, always because it made me feel so feminine, so much a woman and it just feels better to me physically and emotionally than anything else I've ever felt. Because it just felt right. I never once took a male role with a man, because I've always known who I am. I answered this because I believe for some people choosing sex with one gender or another isn't a choice. I've been living as a woman ten days short of two years (wow, I still can't believe how quickly it's gone by!) but I think for at least ten years before that I doubt if I could have performed sexually with a woman. I always felt that sex with a man was far more natural for me, feeling I was a woman, and each time with a woman I felt like a lesbian and for me, down deep it didn't feel right. I felt like a heterosexual woman having lesbian sex when I was bisexual for decades before I finally transitioned. I was always trying to prove I was a man to my friends and family, but I never kidded myself. I've always been female.

Quote from: ZoeM on August 27, 2013, 10:03:03 PM
It kinda flipped on its head - at least in terms of which gender I'm attracted to. And maybe broadened a bit.
So, still mostly straight.

Zoe, when you say 'still mostly straight', does that mean you're attracted to women or men? Because when I say straight, I mean I'm only attracted to men because I'm a woman.

Quote from: Jamie D on August 27, 2013, 10:12:23 PM
Well, some of use were bi/pan from the get go!

preference pan pre predicts preference pan post

As of now, it hasn't changed.  I identify as a straight women, but it depends on how you view it.  I'm only interested in dating men, but I do find both men and women physically attractive.  Though,  I couldn't see myself dating or being intimate with a female in any shape or form.  I just appreciate the beauty and attractiveness of the female form.  So I guess I could be considered bi by some people, but I think the straight label fits me pretty well.  My current view is the same as before I started hrt. 

I was and still am bi,you have noodles you want rice next time!

Quote from: Miranda Elizabeth on August 27, 2013, 11:34:33 PM
Zoe, when you say 'still mostly straight', does that mean you're attracted to women or men? Because when I say straight, I mean I'm only attracted to men because I'm a woman.

Well...
I was straight to begin with (when male) and I'm straight now that I'm female. So - women before, men after.

I am still in transition but have been BI from the beginning and likely till the end.  I am also in a committed and monogamous relationship but can certainly appreciate the attractive and beautiful people all around.  While my sexual preference has not changed I feel my attractiveness to others has.  I have been told that I am now not considered "date material" by some straight women or gay men. 

I haven't done anything in terms of transition besides coming to find myself and accepting myself.  I have found that my sexual preference has changed since then though.  I used to be attracted to women (and occasionally very feminine men, but only to look at),  I'm now finding myself more attracted to masculine men, for more than just to look at, but also still to feminine women and men, but now more just to look at.  Not really a very radical change but still something nonetheless.  Wondering if this happened to anyone else without the help of hormones.

I'm not sure how common this is either or if I'm just crazy but I feel like maybe my body is a little bit extreme when it comes to my natural hormone levels.  I think I've always had pretty low testosterone and high estrogen for a man just based on certain observations but I seem to feel the effects that many women here describe when going on HRT, just not as extensive and more in a cyclical pattern.  Am I just imagining this or is it likely that I get bursts of estrogen beyond what a normal cismale would get?

I always assumed I was attracted to women, though sex has never been that wow.  I guess I have slowly been re-evaluating that opinion over the past two years since I find myself increasingly attracted to men, and just flirting with men is a new wow.  Regardless, I'm in a monogamous marriage to a woman, so don't see me exploring the depth of the wow any time soon... 

I always thought being with a man is icky. When I started transitioning and thinking of myself as a soft-skinned woman, suddenly the idea of cuddling up to a rougher masculine presence, didn't seem so bad. (This all happened before HRT).

That being said, I still haven't come across any males I feel an attraction for.

Huh it's interesting to see for some it has and some it hasn't. I really wonder how transitioning will effect the way I see the world. At the moment I'd say I am more attracted to women but I do wonder if it's not more of an envy of them then an attraction. I have never been turned on by a man but still if I was a woman tomorrow I guess I could see myself with men. I have never been intimate with anyone of either gender so I guess really i'm just guessing in the end.

In all seriousness, I will say that I was mildly attracted to women when I was way younger, but that actually went quickly towards being attracted to no one about 10 years before I ever started transitioning. Luckily people have quit giving me a hard time over not having a desire to date or anything like that.

Since starting my transition, I have turned out bi

I was married for 23 years to a woman. Fathered two children. Always loved women. After 4 months of HRT I'm finding masculine men very attractive. It's been difficult sleeping with women as of late. Like Zoe, I was a straight male and now find myself a straight female.

Quote from: Alice Danielle on August 28, 2013, 09:28:51 AM
I'm not sure how common this is either or if I'm just crazy but I feel like maybe my body is a little bit extreme when it comes to my natural hormone levels.  I think I've always had pretty low testosterone and high estrogen for a man just based on certain observations but I seem to feel the effects that many women here describe when going on HRT, just not as extensive and more in a cyclical pattern.  Am I just imagining this or is it likely that I get bursts of estrogen beyond what a normal cismale would get?

Alice Danielle, I don't think it's that odd. I was given a hormone test at 16 after telling my mom for the hundredth time, but my dad for the first, that I was a girl in a boy's body. It was pretty much the opposite of what it should have been, hence, no adam's apple, no male facial characteristics, little facial hair, etc. So it's definitely not impossible, and with TS girls, it seems that it would be much more prevalent than the general population. I see lots of girls on Susan's with female facial features. You'll probably really like HRT, because it may continue your natural hormones. Just my opinion, but I felt right at home from day one on estradiol. Hugs, Mira

I'm still early into my transition, but I've always been bi-/pan

That's bi-/pan "sexual" though. Sexually I'm attracted to both men and women, but relationship wise I only date women. I really don't see that changing as I get further into my transition either.

Quote from: DrZoey on August 28, 2013, 04:17:31 PM
After 4 months of HRT I'm finding masculine men very attractive..

Before HRT was only attracted to women and dated and slept with them..

As HRT progressed and I developed into a woman, I became attracted to men as well. It was almost year and half into HRT did I actually go on a date with a man. It was a favour actually, shame he needed a date for a function. I agreed to go with him and we really hit it off, which them developed into something more. We dated for about 8 months. From the experience, I enjoyed been the female in the relationship, been held in his arms, kissing him, even some sexual action. I enjoyed making myself pretty for him.

This has been my only relationship during hrt, as I wanted to wait until after SRS, but this happened by chance so I went with it... Now I actually have a lesbian kinda interested in me, I am attracted to her, but nothing has happened, we just friends. I am proceeding with caution.

I went from asexual to *probably* straight.

I'm a lot more bi-sexual now than I was before. And I don't have an attraction to most women, but still a strong attraction to women.

It's pretty comfortable.