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Title: My Dad and I (the beginning)
Post by: Erin Kay Howell on September 01, 2013, 12:54:52 PM
Post by: Erin Kay Howell on September 01, 2013, 12:54:52 PM
So about an hour or so ago I came out to my conservative dad that I am in fact trangendered, I am not the son he thought he had but rather the daughter he didnt know existed.
It was messy, and I mean my delivery was messy. I couldnt keep focus I was all over the place trying not to get worked up and cry. But I did it.
So now im waiting to hear if he has any comments or questions. He said he was text me or call me with anything he needed to know. I didnt stay around cause he had to take care of some things around the house and I felt in the way.
He told me that he doesnt really know what this all entails and that he'd need to look into it, but that it doesnt change the fact that im his child and I will not be abandoned..
I cried the entire way home and every song on the radio seemed to have a direct meaning to the situation. I hope what he said is true, I dont want to lose my parents... Im already losing the rest of my family as it is.
It was messy, and I mean my delivery was messy. I couldnt keep focus I was all over the place trying not to get worked up and cry. But I did it.
So now im waiting to hear if he has any comments or questions. He said he was text me or call me with anything he needed to know. I didnt stay around cause he had to take care of some things around the house and I felt in the way.
He told me that he doesnt really know what this all entails and that he'd need to look into it, but that it doesnt change the fact that im his child and I will not be abandoned..
I cried the entire way home and every song on the radio seemed to have a direct meaning to the situation. I hope what he said is true, I dont want to lose my parents... Im already losing the rest of my family as it is.
Title: Re: My Dad and I (the beginning)
Post by: bethany on September 01, 2013, 01:02:29 PM
Post by: bethany on September 01, 2013, 01:02:29 PM
Congratulations on coming out to your dad, that is a huge step. I also hope that what he said holds true.
Title: Re: My Dad and I (the beginning)
Post by: Tessa James on September 01, 2013, 01:07:50 PM
Post by: Tessa James on September 01, 2013, 01:07:50 PM
Oh Erin how very important, brave and insightful of you.
I sure understand the tears. Since accepting myself and being on HRT the kleenex boxes are everywhere!
I love what your Dad said about you being his child and that he will not abandoned you. Seems you have created a new beginning point with him?
I am sorry about any sense of loss for you and trust you will find you gain even more being yourself in so many very meaningful ways.
Hang on and big hugs to you
I sure understand the tears. Since accepting myself and being on HRT the kleenex boxes are everywhere!
I love what your Dad said about you being his child and that he will not abandoned you. Seems you have created a new beginning point with him?
I am sorry about any sense of loss for you and trust you will find you gain even more being yourself in so many very meaningful ways.
Hang on and big hugs to you
Title: Re: My Dad and I (the beginning)
Post by: Erin Kay Howell on September 01, 2013, 01:13:40 PM
Post by: Erin Kay Howell on September 01, 2013, 01:13:40 PM
I wish my employer was as accepting... they dont know yet and probably shouldnt tell them for as long as possible.
Title: Re: My Dad and I (the beginning)
Post by: Tessa James on September 01, 2013, 01:38:50 PM
Post by: Tessa James on September 01, 2013, 01:38:50 PM
I am glad you are sticking around to share your continuing and dynamic set of changes.
Title: Re: My Dad and I (the beginning)
Post by: Renee on September 01, 2013, 01:40:58 PM
Post by: Renee on September 01, 2013, 01:40:58 PM
I'm glad he took it so well. My own dad was really conservative, but he dealt with it all quite well, they can surprise you at times. Good luck!
Title: Re: My Dad and I (the beginning)
Post by: Lesley_Roberta on September 01, 2013, 02:11:16 PM
Post by: Lesley_Roberta on September 01, 2013, 02:11:16 PM
Wishing you well, it sounds like he has already said the most important thing, you are his child and he will not forsake you.
Remember, it isn't easy on anyone around you, give them at least that much, they need to do all the soul searching you would have done.
Remember, it isn't easy on anyone around you, give them at least that much, they need to do all the soul searching you would have done.
Title: Re: My Dad and I (the beginning)
Post by: Shantel on September 01, 2013, 02:46:43 PM
Post by: Shantel on September 01, 2013, 02:46:43 PM
In spite of what the media has to say, there are some conservatives that come equipped with common sense, logical minds and a real heart, I know because I am one. Your dad loves you, he'll probably have a load of questions and at the end of the day, you'll still be his kid and he'll still love you in spite of your issues. Good job hon!