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I never really liked girls when I thought of myself as one. They were my friends. I would think that they were pretty and all but I could never seriously think of dating one or kissing any. But as I've started to think of myself as a guy suddenly I can see myself with some in a romantic way. Though I still can't see myself doing anything sexual with them, but it's the same way with guys since I'm pretty sure I'm asexual or something.

Anyways I'm wondering if this was the case with anybody else.

I was the same way- I think it was something about how I KNEW that I wasn't a lesbian. I don't know why I knew, but I knew it wasn't the right label. Now that I know I'm a guy and I'm growing more comfortable as a guy, I'm much more able to like girls. For me there was just something about thinking I was a lesbian that wasn't sitting right, and now I understand why XD
And I'm saying this all in a romantic, not sexual way, because I'm demisexual myself. (In case you don't know what that means, since some people don't, it's that I don't feel sexual attraction to people until I have some sort of emotional bond with them.)

I used to think that maybe i am lesbian but i knew i wasnt because every time i had a fantasy i always played the guy in there and always found myself attracted to girls
I think after T and surgeries this will be much easier

Yeah something about thinking I'm a lesbian just doesn't sound right.

Hopefully once when I start to transition my sexuality will start to make more sense, cause right now it's just all up in the air haha.

Quote from: Jace on September 07, 2013, 04:14:39 PM
Hopefully once when I start to transition my sexuality will start to make more sense, cause right now it's just all up in the air haha.

For me, even just a partial-social transition made things much clearer for me, but it totally varies from person to person. (ie I am somewhat out, but I live mostly female. I present as male in public, but I'm not out at school because it's all girls. I still present as very masculine at school though, I don't try to change myself just for that.)
What stage are you at in transition, if I may ask?

Also I saw in one of your other posts that you want to major in computer animation. So do it! :D Don't want to derail the thread, but are you looking at any certain colleges/universities right now?

I'm only out to one person right now, though I dress fairly masculine most days and present androgynous. And wow an all girls school must suck or be heaven. Like wow cute girls everywhere.

I'm applying to RMCAD, SCAD, Ringling, and SVA. Hopefully I'll get int oat least one of them haha.

I think I was the same. As a girl, I would have never kissed another or dated one ever. I had a small crush on a girl when I was 14 (before I came out) but I never wanted to actually date her or anything, it was weird like that. I just seemed to like her :P I didn't feel wrong or like a lesbian for it either. Now I really like girls! Part of it could be that I just became older as well.

Quote from: Jace on September 07, 2013, 06:35:36 PM
I'm only out to one person right now, though I dress fairly masculine most days and present androgynous. And wow an all girls school must suck or be heaven. Like wow cute girls everywhere.

I'm applying to RMCAD, SCAD, Ringling, and SVA. Hopefully I'll get int oat least one of them haha.

It sucks at this particular school. All conservative southern girls, we can't even have a GSA here. I bet other girls schools are different, but this one is NOT the place for a transguy at all.

Awesome! Those are all places I looked too. I'm pretty certain I'll be going to SCAD- I did a summer program there for college credit this summer, and they've accepted me into a program to gain more college credit online over senior year. Chances of being accepted to those two things but not as an undergrad are basically nonexistent. I love it there, plus it's a super open place. Like most people knew I was trans (I assume so because I went there being called *birthname* and once I came out to one person, everyone else just caught on and called me Dean), and nobody cared. Very different environment than my current school, in a great way.

I totally recognise what you say about "lesbian not being the right label". I hardly ever had/have sexual dreams, and only rarely it included girls (often when it did, I was the guy. But mostly when I dreamt that the dream stopped somewhere in the middle when my brain realized it was "wrong" to envision myself as a guy), and I always kept my sexuality sort of 'open', cause I simply didn't know! (I am stuck at bi right now, but that might change once on T?)
Always there was this "Maybe I'm lesbian" question in the back of my mind, but that didn't feel as 'me'. I thought I was afraid to accept myself as gay or something, but now I've accepted myself as a guy I see that wasn't the case. (I'm perfectly okay with getting into a gay relationship with a guy, even though gay guys suffer from discrimination more than lesbians. For the simple reason that I cannot be in a "gay" relationship with a woman, 'cause I'm no woman. LOL!)

This is a sort of similar issue for me, except in the opposite way; I have had strong attractions to both men and women. I've only dated men (having gone to a Catholic school through high school) but I had serious crushes on some of my female peers (still do, in some cases). However, I always wanted to be the "man" in the relationship. At first I just thought I might be a butch lesbian, but since I liked men as much as I liked women, that didn't seem to fit. Even now I'm not entirely sure how to define myself or my desires.