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I like to introduce myself. I am a male that is 29 years old and I have been feeling about being female for a very long time now. I broke down from anxiety and couldnt take it from holding it from everybody that I called a therapist up. The therapy appointment went great but I have a ton of questions of where to begin and when. The biggest thing holding me up is coming out to my family and I need to figure out what to say to them. My mom has said pretty hurtful things in the past, I wishshe could be more accepting.

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I'm happy to hear you have talked to a therapist, it must feel great to talk to a professional.
Also if talking to your mom does go bad once you do it just remember we, and I, will be here.

yes, I appreaciate that. I felt very nervous waiting for the therapist but once i started talking I got a lot more comfortable. The therapists pretty much implied that I have gender dysphoria already. When I have expressed my feminine side with a few items she founded or when I was wearing them, she gets very angry at me and doesnt want to associate with me. Its really sad because shes close me and i think it puts  a strain on the relationship. I mean shes fine with me and she said two to three times, If i think i am a women I should see a psychologists.

Well don't let her stop you,  the important thing is your happiness, nothing should stop you.
And yes i realize that that is hard to do, I'm still in the closet and fairly new to pursuing information myself.

Quote from: Xhianil on September 19, 2013, 08:11:39 PM
Well don't let her stop you,  the important thing is your happiness, nothing should stop you.
And yes i realize that that is hard to do, I'm still in the closet and fairly new to pursuing information myself.

I wish for the pursuit of your happiness. Its a long journey but I think its well worth it.

Hi Izzy, nice to meet ya!

Hi Izzy and welcome to Susan's. I live in New York, also.


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I'm moving to new tork as soon as I get my papers in order.

Welcome to Susan's. I hope you feel safe here.

Welcome izzy. I'm also from New York. I hope you find the help you need here as we'll as through you're therapist and maybe one day you're family.

Welcome Izzy, fairly new here myself.

Hi Izzy, :icon_wave:

Welcome to our little family. Over 7644. That would be one heck of a family reunion.

Feel free to post your successes/failures, Hopes/dreams.  Ask questions and seek answers. Give and receive advice.

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Janet  )O(

A warm welcome to you Izzy  :)

good to meet ya all

As an update I have told my mom that I feel girly and I feel like I am a women in the inside. She took it that I was gay and I told her I wasnt. She told me mom she will find out more about this. She also told me I hope you dont buy any womens clothes either. In a week or two, i will tell her I am seeing a therapists and tell her more about how i feel. I dont want to come out to her all at once to get her angry at me. My therapists suggested i should wear androgynous clothes, womens clothes that look like womens clothes at work. i havent taken it that far yet.

Izzy, just be carefull, don't do anything too bad if your mom turns you away.

Hi Izzy, welcome from Boston, I missed your introduction the first time around. Little steps will get you where you're going.  Hugs, Devlyn

Yay! Another New Yorker.  :D  We are the best, right?

Quote from: Xhianil on October 01, 2013, 04:47:59 PM
Izzy, just be carefull, don't do anything too bad if your mom turns you away.

I agree my therapist may have suggested it but i dont think i am ready quite yet until I put all the pieces together. I have yet to find proper womens clothes that fit me well. problem is I have wide shoulders and i feel them tugging me when i lift my arms up.

Quote from: Devlyn Marie on October 01, 2013, 05:12:23 PM
Hi Izzy, welcome from Boston, I missed your introduction the first time around. Little steps will get you where you're going.  Hugs, Devlyn

hello, can you send me some new england clam chowder

Quote from: learningtolive on October 01, 2013, 06:15:13 PM
Yay! Another New Yorker.  :D  We are the best, right?

we are the greatest.

Welcome Izzy! This is a great place to be.

"hello, can you send me some new england clam chowder"

Sure thing, I'll trade you for a New York style thin-crust pizza!

Hugs, Devlyn

Quote from: izzy on October 01, 2013, 06:15:32 PM
I agree my therapist may have suggested it but i dont think i am ready quite yet until I put all the pieces together. I have yet to find proper womens clothes that fit me well. problem is I have wide shoulders and i feel them tugging me when i lift my arms up.

Maybe a sleeveless dress! Also make sure to be happy yourself, don't forget who you are to please others. *tight hug*

Quote from: Devlyn Marie on October 01, 2013, 07:49:33 PM
"hello, can you send me some new england clam chowder"

Sure thing, I'll trade you for a New York style thin-crust pizza!

Hugs, Devlyn

good deal

Quote from: Xhianil on October 01, 2013, 08:59:38 PM
Maybe a sleeveless dress! Also make sure to be happy yourself, don't forget who you are to please others. *tight hug*

I have never tried that before but that sounds like a good idea when later in my transition.