Susan's Place Transgender Resources

Hello Everyone,

My name is Dennis, bet you guessed that.   ::)

I'm 50 and live currently in south Georgia. I've been married twice and have one daughter.

The reason I'm here is pretty simple, I want to learn from all you nice people. In other words, I don't want to make a stupid mistake and offend anyone or misunderstand anything when the answer is available.

I've had a couple of transgendered friends, MTF that were great people. Currently, I'm talking to a couple of very nice TG ladies and really I don't want to, as I said do something stupid or ignorant.

Sooo, I feel the best way to be a good friend is to learn all that I can.

Again, nice to be here
Dennis

Thanks Melissa for the suggestion, you've been very  :)

It's very refreshing to find this site... I'm afraid no matter what combination of words I used in a Google search 99.99% of the results were just "->-bleeped-<-" porn site... not what I was looking for...

Have a Great Day!
Dennis

Welcome Dennis,

As Melissa said the WIKI will provide a plenty of information. You should also check out the rules at:

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,2.0.html

It nice to know that you consider your friends worth the research. The best piece of advice that I can give you at the moment is to use the pronouns for their chosen gender and to relax and treat them as people.

Shelley

Hello Dennis,

You must be a good freind.

Welcome,

Jillieann :)

Thanks Shelley and Jillean for making me feel welcome.

Dennis

Hello Dennis,

                       Welcome to Susan's.  There is lots of information on Susan's main page and the Wiki. I hope you find what is needed and you enjoy your stay.


beth

Thanks for the welcome Beth  :)

I am enjoying this site greatly.. so glad I found it

Dennis

Welcome to Susans Dennis,

As the others have said this is a place full of information and warm friendly people. Nice to have a fellow Georgian aboard.Supportive friends are a wonderful thing. Sounds like you are trying to be a good one. I know what you mean about trying to find the right info. When I first started looking for a support site on the net I went through the same problem. Just pages and pages of porn. For a normal TS like the folks you find here sifting thru that stuff was, shall we say, unpleasant.

Anyway, fix yourself a cup of tea or other relaxing beverage, sit down, take your shoes off and set a spell.

Good Journey,

Cassie

Thanks Cassie,

Oh yes, I've bookmarked this as a Favorite Place.  ::)

Alot of great information here, and of course reading the Forum posts I'm finding topics I would have never even thought of. Plus, just getting all the different perspectives....

What part of Georgia are you in, almost in Florida myself. Way south Georgia.

Thanks again,
Dennis

Welcome Dennis. 'fraid yer gonna have to choose a new name. I have that one already :P

Dennis

Don't let Dennis rattle you Dennis. There can be more than one, this ain't the Highlander game.  ;D As to what part of Georgia, I'm in the North Georgia Mountains about 10 miles from the Tennessee line. I guess you could say we're at opposite ends of the pole.  Used to live in the Atlanta Metro but got tired of that. I was raised in the mountains and good lord willing this is where they will lay my bones to rest.

Cassie

Thanks... and you even mentioned Highlander  ;D

Die hard Highlander fan here

Actually I am a Tennessee native, and even then we were at opposites. I'm from West Tennessee, Jackcon to be specific.

Only been a Georgian about 11 months, moved here from Oklahoma.

Nah, I don't rattle easily.  :)

Actaully, I initially did register with a different name, but was asked to change it, so there ya have it.. my name and location.

Anyway, everyone has been sooo vey nice here... so yeah, it is very nice to be here..

Dennis

West Tennessee! Really? I was raised in Eastern Tennessee. Rhea County then Knox County then Sevier county. Go Vols! Not that I'm a big sports fan but you always have to cheer for the home team. Again welcome to Susan's

Welcome Dennis.
If your looking for info and good  people to talk to you've found the right place. Nice to meet you. Have a good time.

How sweet! DennisInGA comes here because he's concerned about using the wrong words and hurting his friends . . . nice to see that in a man.

Welcome DIG!

Hi Dennis!
You are very welcome!

cheers
Alex

Just catching back up...

Thanks for the welcome Jennifer, Jane and Alex

Much appreciated

Very cool that you are looking into learning more.

An older gentleman that I am friends with now did the same thing when he ran into someone who was TS.  because he took the time to ask questions and do some reading, he and I have rarely discussed anything dealing with the T stuff because there's not a whole lot I could tell him that he does not already know.  :)  Makes the friendships work that much better, IMHO.

Good luck and welcome!

Thanks for your comments LostInTime..

That's pretty much what I thought, if I already had a good handle on things there wouldn't be any need to spend alot of time discussing things that might make them uncomfortable or that they'd answered over and over already previously to others.

My TG friends are very open with me and discuss things when I have a question, but I guess like most anything else I have an interest in, I tend to learn as much from as many sources as I can. And Susan's has been wonderful.

Plus, I get to make some new friends  ;D

I've always been more comfortable with women. Raised in a household with a sister, mother, grand-mother and great-grand-mother. No males until later. Maybe that explains it.

I do like to hang out with the guys at times, but for close "best" friends, I prefer women. Makes no difference whether GG or TG.

I did get to play "dolls" with my older sister, though she was always Barbie and me Ken. And by the same token, I talked her into playing with my army men.

Anyway, I sure appreciate the welcome.

DennisInGA

Hi Dennis,

Your posts are very interesting. Your respect for the TG community is wonderful. The fact that you have more than one TG friend is exceptional, considereing that in the general populace we are a rare breed. This all leads me to wonder. You don't have to answer this question if you don't want to, but we are all friends here. Are you TG yourself? On some level, of which there are many which may never come to the surface, from your posts, It seems like you may be on some border line. Is it possible that you may be on that line?

Cassie

Hi Cassie,

I do try my best to respect everyone. Only people I have a problem with are those of hate just becuse someone is different. Something I'm sure most all here can appreciate.

As far as being TG myself, I'd have to say no. Though your question gave me pause to ponder a few things. And my now 2nd ex, did at one point ask me if I was Bi as I because I had a couple of gay friends, lots of straight friends as well. And, I'd get on the PC and chat with all kinds of people, straight male and female, gay, bi, TG. I don't really discriminate. She even went as far as to put keystroke recorders on my PC. Paranoid.

For a number of years I was a bull rider and worked out 3-4 hours a day and 3-4 days a week. I also did photography for bodybuilding shows. The point of this is I'd get bodybuiding magazine for the How-to's and such. I guess the ex figured I was checking out the guys. Now I can appreciate the results of their efforts, but not in an I'm attracted kinda way. I've never been physically attracted to men, period.

Hmmn, now I do very much like shopping for the women I'm involved with and have always thought as far as wardrobe goes, you gals have it great.  ;D   But I don't cross-dress, and I like being in my boots and jeans, or a nice suit.

My only experience with "dressing" I guess would be back in Nebraska, awful cold, cold winters. A very "macho" type plumber that was friend's with my 1st ex's family told me to wear pantyhose working outside in the cold - and he was right, way warmer. Now I will admit, I did kinda like the feel of the hose on my skin.  :angel:

The only experience, if you'd call it that, I ever had with someone of the same sex was when I was molested by a male quasi-relative when I was maybe 12. And that wasn't pleasant.

I'm not sure I'm really answering your question adequately. I'm not attracted to mem whatsoever. And I know, I know there are MtF that like women, and FtM that like women - But I don't see that for e. I'm content with who I am in this respect.

Was that clear as mud?  ;D

As you said we're all friends, and clearly people have shared themselves with me here - so feel free to ask anything you wish.

DennisInGA

I think you answered clearly. You are a unique male to be sure. You strike me as the type of person who would not feel threatend or insecure if someone gave you a womans mink coat if you were cold but would wear it with a certain amount of masculine pride. If asked to hold a womans purse while she tried on some clothes would throw it over your shoulders and if anyone gave you a sideways glance look at them and say with a glance what's your problem buddy. Would this be a correct assesment? If so you are a rare individual.

Cassie

Hey Cassie,

Actually I have had a purse over my shoulder many times while the wife/girlfriend was trying something on or digging through racks.

Don't know that I'd look good in a Pink fur, but heck yeah if it was cold I'd sure wear it.   8)

I don't that I'm unusal in anyway really, I'm just me. Have there not been many here that, well I don't know how to say it really without fumbling the wrong words out --- men that are comfortable with GG and TG women -- or conversely women that just like men - GM ? (sounds like the Feds LOL) or FtM? Hope that question made sense...

You can't be friends with everyone, but I don't see sexual or gender orientation as a valid reason to exclude anyone as a friend.

My 2 cents
DennisInGA

I got a little confused somewhere in that post but what I was getting at is you just seem to be comfortable with who you are and your sexuality which, yeh, makes you unusual. Not just here at Susan's but in my life experience you just don't run across many males as comfortable with themselves as you. I think it's really cool. Hope you hang around. A lot of men get what they want and just don't call us later.  >:D

Cassie

Thanks for the kind words Cassie  :)

Yeah, I am pretty comfortable with myslef and most everything else really.. well we all have our moments, no?  :P

Yes, I plan to hang around for quite a spell... long as y'all will have me  :angel:

DennisInGa

. :)

You make others comfortable too. That's the consideration for other's that's working its charm. What part of Oklahoma? Leah and I live in a small town in the western part of the Panhandle. It's great just 150 to 200 miles in any direction for fishing or shopping in a Mall. Well the fishing is really not in the Mall but you know. Just 38 miles to Texas and About 14 to Kansas...then 90 to New Mexico and 70 to Colorado. Leah says it's that little band of land that nobody wanted so they used as a zipper to hold the country together.
I came from Washington State originally...lot of trees and mountains and lots of rain and liquid sunshine. Leah gets cluster phobic out there and sings, "Please open up the trees and let the sun shine in".
I'm part gypsy I think I'm happy most everywhere I go.

Well you are refreshing and a joy to have sharing here at Susan's, Thanks for taking the time. I've been reading here for some months with Leah and we just posted our introductions in the Intro forum a few days ago.

I think when you are as comfortable with who you are and are as friendly as you are your bound to meet a kinds and many of the same kinds of people. We share our friends with those we don't feel threatened with. So knowing more of the mix doesn't seem strange or different to me either. I to have worked with or just met CD, TG, Mto F and vies versa, acquaintances that shared friend that walk a different path than I.

I look at it this way God put variety, color, and beauty and uniqueness in all the scenery and landscape, why should he hold back in his people.

I look forword to chats and viewing your spin on issues.

Peggiann

QuoteI look at it this way God put variety, color, and beauty and uniqueness in all the scenery and landscape, why should he hold back in his people.

An excellent thought Peggi Ann.

Cassie

Thanks for the nice comments Peggiann...

You must be out around Guymon, or not far from there. No Man's Land as it's called, eh?

Little bit of a hike for you but you're out around some of my favorite towns, Santa Fe, Las Vegas, NM, Albqu... Colorado Springs, etc.

We lived well, in the sticks I guess.. the mailing address was Wellston (10 miles away) and the phone exchange was Luther (also 10 miles the other way). I worked in Edmond and OKC though, so had  a42 miles one way drive. 5 years in Oklahoma.

The ex was an LA girl, never quite settled into ranch life in Okieville.. she was a Washigton native as well BTW.. anyway, probably one reason she left..

Oklahoma isn't a bad place to be all-in-all... Out where you are should be pretty peaceful... I don't mind small town life for the most part... just mind the lack of employment and services.. nice to have something within an hour or so away at least...

Thanks again and say hello anytime
DennisWasInOKNowINGA  ;D

Yep, you know the country life. and yes were about 40 miles east and north of Guymon, In Turpin. A blink and you miss it size town. You know the kind where the entering sign has leaving on the otherside of it.

What is it you do for a vocation I have either forgot or maybe you didn't say.

Later,
Peggiann

Peggiann,

Guess you'd say I'm in a different kind of transition. I've been in the software industry for close to 20 years I guess. Right now I'm doing client relations with auto dealers, the company's IT dept. is in FL and may transfer there. Only be half an hour from my dad and several brothers and sisters. But, then again... I could be in Hawaii come spring too.

Pretty much the same when in Oklahoma, did testing for desktop, pocket and web based applications. Did documentation, training, tech support, most everything.

Afraid I did kind of a tailspin the last 3 months or so in Oklahoma, so my niece talked me into coming to Georgia. Bummer for all involved, she got divorced 3 months ago and moved about 40 miles away, don't see her a whole lot now - conflicting schedules and the drive too I guess. Her ex is in Iraq, though should be back in a month or so.

Been somewhat of a dabbler myself I guess, as I tend to go through some dissatisfaction and want to make majors life changes evrey few years. In one now I'd say, maybe have ben for the last year or so. Not even sure I really want to stay in the technology field. Course, the plus is I can get hired most anywhere I go that has a tech company around.

Have an Ag degree and did dairy reseach at the U of Nebraska, also worked for a major cattle feeder...

Anyway, boring details  ::)

DennisInGA