Community Conversation => Transitioning => Coming out of the closet => Topic started by: ukftminneed on October 04, 2013, 08:15:16 AM Return to Full Version
Title: Out to mum and best mate :)
Post by: ukftminneed on October 04, 2013, 08:15:16 AM
Post by: ukftminneed on October 04, 2013, 08:15:16 AM
Heya all im an ftm
I came out to my mum and my best friend whos a guy who is alil homophobic so I thought he'd run a mile
I came out to my mum , by just explaining how I feel when she asked me what was wrong with me , shes supportive in that she didnt tell me shes disowning me , its not great but I feel better
I came out to my mate when we were being silly and I said '' im a man ''
and he said '' what your a ->-bleeped-<- now'' thinking I was joking
- '' no but I do have gender indentity issues ''
he just laughed and carried on with what he was doing but not wanting to let it go I said '' see I told you I am ####d up ''
he said im not , so told him again , '' but I do have gender indentity issues ''
he asked me to explain , and said he'd be my friend no matter what :]
its good , im only seeing my doctor next week to come out to her then and try and get on T
some times I feel really low about being trans , im finding it hard , maybe thats because coming out is making me accept it more and its a hard thing to accept ? is there a point that it gets better ?
also any tips for depression gender related ?
thanks!
I came out to my mum and my best friend whos a guy who is alil homophobic so I thought he'd run a mile
I came out to my mum , by just explaining how I feel when she asked me what was wrong with me , shes supportive in that she didnt tell me shes disowning me , its not great but I feel better
I came out to my mate when we were being silly and I said '' im a man ''
and he said '' what your a ->-bleeped-<- now'' thinking I was joking
- '' no but I do have gender indentity issues ''
he just laughed and carried on with what he was doing but not wanting to let it go I said '' see I told you I am ####d up ''
he said im not , so told him again , '' but I do have gender indentity issues ''
he asked me to explain , and said he'd be my friend no matter what :]
its good , im only seeing my doctor next week to come out to her then and try and get on T
some times I feel really low about being trans , im finding it hard , maybe thats because coming out is making me accept it more and its a hard thing to accept ? is there a point that it gets better ?
also any tips for depression gender related ?
thanks!
Title: Re: Out to mum and best mate :)
Post by: Ltl89 on October 04, 2013, 09:38:42 AM
Post by: Ltl89 on October 04, 2013, 09:38:42 AM
Congrats on the acceptance!
I know what you mean about having difficulties accepting being trans. The best coping strategies I have found is embracing this as best I can and reaching out to others in the community to feel normal. Also, I have found therapy to be very helpful. Does it get better? For many here it has. I'm early into this, but my life has made some good improvements since I came out and started. While it's still difficult and I'm newly in the process, I'm happy with my decision to transition despite very real hardships. Having said that, being that I am not a veteran, I can't share a long term perspective like others. What I will say is that there a wide range of experiences on the forum and everyone deals with gender issues differently. So, you may find everyone views it and deals with it in a different fashion. I'm wishing you lots of luck and hope it all goes well moving forward. :)
I know what you mean about having difficulties accepting being trans. The best coping strategies I have found is embracing this as best I can and reaching out to others in the community to feel normal. Also, I have found therapy to be very helpful. Does it get better? For many here it has. I'm early into this, but my life has made some good improvements since I came out and started. While it's still difficult and I'm newly in the process, I'm happy with my decision to transition despite very real hardships. Having said that, being that I am not a veteran, I can't share a long term perspective like others. What I will say is that there a wide range of experiences on the forum and everyone deals with gender issues differently. So, you may find everyone views it and deals with it in a different fashion. I'm wishing you lots of luck and hope it all goes well moving forward. :)