Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: Riley on October 28, 2013, 09:57:41 AM Return to Full Version
Title: i feel incomplete
Post by: Riley on October 28, 2013, 09:57:41 AM
Post by: Riley on October 28, 2013, 09:57:41 AM
is it normal that i feel really sad not having a penis while having sex? it's like i want to experience it as a guy. i am bisexual, but with girls i wish i could have sex as a guy, and with guys i feel more as a gay man
Title: Re: i feel incomplete
Post by: Alice Rogers on October 28, 2013, 10:02:38 AM
Post by: Alice Rogers on October 28, 2013, 10:02:38 AM
I feel your pain honey, albeit from the other side of the coin, when I sleep with my boyfriend I want to feel him inside me the way a woman does, I am content with the current alternatives (anal/oral/) but its not the same.....
Title: Re: i feel incomplete
Post by: KabitTarah on October 28, 2013, 10:03:12 AM
Post by: KabitTarah on October 28, 2013, 10:03:12 AM
Every time I had sex with my wife (successfully), I imagined myself as a woman. It felt normal at the time... which seems really weird now.
I read somewhere that all trans* people imagined themselves as their true gender during sex. I don't know if that's true for every instance of sex/masturbation, but it was certainly true for most of mine... and the times it wasn't true it wasn't very satisfying. I think that alone makes it something we learn that helps us - whether we're out about it or not.
I read somewhere that all trans* people imagined themselves as their true gender during sex. I don't know if that's true for every instance of sex/masturbation, but it was certainly true for most of mine... and the times it wasn't true it wasn't very satisfying. I think that alone makes it something we learn that helps us - whether we're out about it or not.
Title: Re: i feel incomplete
Post by: Natkat on October 28, 2013, 11:55:19 AM
Post by: Natkat on October 28, 2013, 11:55:19 AM
I don't think it true. at least I dont really imaine myself much of a man, but neither do I imagine myself as anything who is close to myself.
Title: Re: i feel incomplete
Post by: MaryXYX on October 29, 2013, 08:43:03 AM
Post by: MaryXYX on October 29, 2013, 08:43:03 AM
Quote from: kabit on October 28, 2013, 10:03:12 AM
Every time I had sex with my wife (successfully), I imagined myself as a woman. It felt normal at the time... which seems really weird now.
I read somewhere that all trans* people imagined themselves as their true gender during sex. I don't know if that's true for every instance of sex/masturbation, but it was certainly true for most of mine... and the times it wasn't true it wasn't very satisfying. I think that alone makes it something we learn that helps us - whether we're out about it or not.
I'm pretty sure it's not 'all' but it does seem to be true for many of us. I didn't at first, but I certainly did for some years before I was really considering transition.
Title: Re: i feel incomplete
Post by: Blinded Wolf on October 30, 2013, 12:24:06 AM
Post by: Blinded Wolf on October 30, 2013, 12:24:06 AM
Quote from: Riley on October 28, 2013, 09:57:41 AM
is it normal that i feel really sad not having a penis while having sex? it's like i want to experience it as a guy. i am bisexual, but with girls i wish i could have sex as a guy, and with guys i feel more as a gay man
That.
I've talked to some guys that couldn't care less about the bottom situation; I'm definitely not one of them and can empathize with you more than you know.
Title: Re: i feel incomplete
Post by: VeronicaLynn on October 30, 2013, 03:12:56 AM
Post by: VeronicaLynn on October 30, 2013, 03:12:56 AM
Although I feel the opposite way, wanting to have sex without a penis, what often helps me is to take the focus off of myself, and put more of it on my partner/potential partner. What you can do to them with your hands and mouth is exactly the same, no matter what your gender, isn't it?