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I was a bit early for my appointment, so I went over to the library, which was just five minutes away, and I looked at the DVDs. I recieved no bad looks from anybody. I was dressed in a pair of jean capris with an orange top from Wal-mart and was wearing a pair of flip flops, and my brand new wig!

Then I went into the used book store at the library and started a conversation with a lady and we talked for about five minutes and then I left.

Then I went to my therapist, and he was surprised to see me as I was, and he invited me into his office and we talked about things, and he told me that he doesn't see any problems with me going out like I was. I told him that I wouldn't do it so much, because people may take notice and then word may get around,  so I told him that I would be careful and choose my days of when I went out around Port Charlotte, and then I'd go out around Sarasota or Fort Myers. He really liked my way of thinking, so I'm kind of giving second thoughts about going full time next year. You see, if I can do it this way, then that's gonna be good enough for me, and I won't be upsetting my mom (whom I'm still living with.)

My therapist also noticed how happy I was.  :) Which I've often tried to tell him, but now he's seen it.

It was a very good session I had today!  :) :)

Girlfriend and BFF, NO WAY!!!! I am so proud of you. I am almost crying here. You must have looked really good today Baby. Congrats and keep up the good work. Love you!  :icon_dance: :icon_woowoo:

Hey, seems like you're doing well enough to go full time. Don't let your mother stop you on that. She can't legally control you.

Sounds like you're a bit away from that yet tho, you should only do it when you're comfortable enough and have the support you need in place. When you're ready to walk, hold your head up, tell friends who support you, anyone you can who will be on your side - then don't let anything stop you :)

Congratulations are in order for u :D

XO
Kelsie

Well done! So proud of you.  :D

May you have more great days like this one ahead.

I really felt great today. Like I was on top of the world!  :)  I really enjoyed flipping my hair back and just enjoying the whole atmosphere. After I was done with my therapist I went over to the mall and I saw a friend at a music store and he had to do a double take before he recognized me and he asked me what the get up was for and I told him that this is the way I could be next year. He told me that I looked good. But just from his first reaction, I knew that I was passable.

Thanks for your kind thoughts KelsieJ, but I am comfortable enough with what I'm doing  and I've got more than enough support from certain people. And don't worry; when I walk, I don't walk with my head down low, I hold it up high, 'cos I'm proud of who and what I am.   :)

Thanks for your kind thoughts as well Willow, but as long as I live under my mother's roof, she does have some say so on some things.  :(

Thanks for your kind words Jessica.  :) Love you too!

It's just like I told my therapist Magdalena, it's now me and the world. I've finally come out and there's no stopping me!

Yay for a good day out and about! Thanks for sharing all the good news, hon! Hugs, Devlyn

Congrats on getting out and being YOU!  8)

Just take your time and only do things when you have reached a point of being comfortable doing them. Nothing will out you faster than being nervous and unsure.

And at some point a pic of you being out and about would be nice too  :P

Yessss!!! 

I think my first trip to therapy properly dressed was only my third time doing so publically.  I was on 2 antianxiety drugs at the time and pre-HRT, laser, electro, coming out, etc.  My therapist basically double dog dared me to do it, as she knew I only dressed privately but wanted desperately to interact with the world as Jill.  I was nervous, full of self-doubt and I wasn't looking too femme at the time.  I assumed a worst case scenario, but it never happened.  Nobody even noticed or seemed to care.

I am thankful that I am one to push myself and accept challenges.  I'm glad I did it, making that first step, and in doing so I learned a lot about myself and where this path would lead me. 

Every time you leave the house as your true self, it just gets easier.  Eventually it just becomes second nature.   

Hey Devlyn, I did have fun getting out and about. Thanks for the advice Eva, but I felt so comfortable and it felt so natural to me that I felt like I didn't have a care in the world, and I think that was the attitude that I portrayed to my therapist.  :) Y'know Jill, I still remember the first time I went out, and of course someone from my congregation saw me and went to my pastor and told him.  ??? Fortunately he didn't approach me until a few months later. But I do appreciate your kind words about how easier it gets every time I leave the house.

Glad you had such a great day Sis!

But of course you now have a problem!

Once the genie is out of her bottle there is no going back! :laugh:

Cindy, my beloved Sister, I know exactly what you mean, and believe me hon, the world is now going to be seeing a lot more of me, now that I've stuck my pretty toes in the water.  :)

Quote from: Gina Taylor on October 30, 2013, 04:54:25 AM
Cindy, my beloved Sister, I know exactly what you mean, and believe me hon, the world is now going to be seeing a lot more of me, now that I've stuck my pretty toes in the water.  :)

You polish them and buy a bikini! :-*

Quote from: Cindy on October 30, 2013, 05:00:49 AM
You polish them and buy a bikini! :-*

Why of course I would. I'd do them in a pretty red color and I'd wear a pretty red bikini to match as well. :)

Gina,
That is fantastic. You must feel so happy and proud of yourself.
Well done girl!
Ciara.

WOW, that is fantastic. I am very happy for you.

Y'know Ciara and Cynthia, I had such an excellent time, that I just can't wait to get dressed again and go out. I'm actually just very so anxious that I can't really control myself but I know that I have to be patient.

Get ready it going to get addicting now. I cant even go out in boring male clothes as much as I used too. congrats

Yeah, I know exactly what you mean! It is very addicting . . .

Quote from: Gina Taylor on October 31, 2013, 03:07:04 AM
Yeah, I know exactly what you mean! It is very addicting . . .

Mmm hmm!  I ended up purging my MALE wardrobe six months ago and haven't looked back.

My advice is to run out of sh**s to give about what anyone else thinks.  It's very empowering.

Quote from: Jill F on October 31, 2013, 03:11:31 AM
Mmm hmm!  I ended up purging my MALE wardrobe six months ago and haven't looked back.

My advice is to run out of sh**s to give about what anyone else thinks.  It's very empowering.

Y'know Jill, I might just consider doing that!!! In a way I really think that after seeing me dressed and seeing how good I looked, and seeing how passable I was, my therapist was actually pushing me in that direction.  :) :)

Its an exhilarating feeling to be yourself in public.  It felt so right to me that I went out two days later and ended up making some wonderful girlfriends. Just be yourself and go at your own pace.
Hugs

Yeah, you know Erin, it was such a feeling of being alive and being reborn as a woman that I felt needed to be unleashed. And yes it was such an exhilerating feeling, that I just didn't want to return back to my BORING male self again.

Addicting? Absolutely!  8)

Circumstances may force me into having to see my therapist in guy mode next time. The thought of having to do that is absolutely abhorrent to me at this point, because I'd rather present female as often as I can these days. At least if it happens it'll only be for that one time.

But it's worse than that - now when I look in the mirror i see a girl with a dude haircut. It wasn't long ago that a dude was looking back at me.

Quote from: Eva Marie on October 31, 2013, 11:12:10 PM
Addicting? Absolutely!  8)

Circumstances may force me into having to see my therapist in guy mode next time. The thought of having to do that is absolutely abhorrent to me at this point, because I'd rather present female as often as I can these days. At least if it happens it'll only be for that one time.

But it's worse than that - now when I look in the mirror i see a girl with a dude haircut. It wasn't long ago that a dude was looking back at me.

Eva Marie, my dear sister, I'm appalled that you have to make such an unwanted sacrifice. It's a free world, and you should be able to do what you want!  >:(

I'm really sorry to hear about the bad haircut, maybe if you look in some hairstyling magazines, you could find something pretty that you could style it into, even though it may be short. Don't give up hope yet. :) Not all is lost!

i also go dressed and really enjoy driving there dressed.
sometimes at a light i will put on some make up and the car next to me just sees another women late for work...

I imagine going to a therapist not dressed could be a bit awkward.   :D

Oliviapril, sounds to me like you're a little playful and deceptive with drivers. But hey, it builds character!  :)

Saw my therapist again today and I showed him a print out of all  the nice comments from this thread, and he was very impressed by the nice support that I had received.  :) We talked about what I was going to do, and we both felt that it was probably in my best interest to just go out when I could instead of going full time. Unless something changes and I'm able to do it full time. Time will tell . . .

  Hi Gina,
  My wife and I went to the ENDO today also the million man project rep and had blood draws a couple of times.I have to go back for a mammogram and a bone density test. Next Endo visit is Dec 17 :) We then had lunch and went shopping.I was dressed Purple long sleeve top Jen lopez lilac bra and GV jeans and of course 3" heels they make me 6'6" got a few looks they got a big smile and I  was addressed as a woman.It was a great day.  Pat

Quote from: buddy on November 05, 2013, 11:04:12 PM
  Hi Gina,
  My wife and I went to the ENDO today also the million man project rep and had blood draws a couple of times.I have to go back for a mammogram and a bone density test. Next Endo visit is Dec 17 :) We then had lunch and went shopping.I was dressed Purple long sleeve top Jen lopez lilac bra and GV jeans and of course 3" heels they make me 6'6" got a few looks they got a big smile and I  was addressed as a woman.It was a great day.  Pat

Hi Pat,
Sounds like you had an exceptionally good day. People were probably just giving you some strange looks because of your size. I was just checking and probably Sandy Allen probably got the same looks because she stood 7' 7 1/4". She was the tallest living female in the United States until her death in 2008. So stand tall and don't let your height be a bother to you.  :)