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Hi All,

I was born a male :(. However, around the age of 8 or 9 I realized that I should have been a girl. At that time there was no opportunity available for me. Thus I had to grow up as a boy.

I married young at the age of 21 and subsequently had two daughters. I am still married to my wife and love her dearly. She is not understanding of people who transition. Thus I have suffered silently over the years. I still have a desire to live at least part time as a female with her as my loving partner. She has accepted a few subtle changes that are not overly noticable but they are rather insignificant toward the achievement of my desire.

My only real hope of achieving any of that now is if I could get my doctor to say that my penis and testicles must be removed and have it covered by my insurance, along with a urethra reroute. Then she would be understanding of the surgery and I might gradually get he to accept some lifestyle changes. The change must be forthcomming soon if I am going to have a significant amount of time to enjoy the transition effect.

Removal of your primary sex organs could be pretty detrimental to the relationship.  I mean, that's a very big step.  You'd likely have to get more approval and understanding from her prior to it.

Remember, she married you as a straight woman and she's known and had children with you thinking of you as her man.  This will not be easy on or for her and likely, sorry to say, might end in your separation.   You have to be prepared for how she'll feel and you have to understand it.  Think about what's more important to you.  And I suggest you handle this nice and easy. Don't push it too hard.

Lexi dear,

Removal of my penis and testicles should not present any problem for her on an intimacy basis.  She has not wanted penetrative sex for almost 5 years now as her vagina has become rather dry and penetration is painful for her. In addition, I have sat or squatted full-time to pee since 1997 so neither of us have any practical use for those things.

Quote from: mac1 on November 11, 2013, 03:50:53 PM
Lexi dear,

Removal of my penis and testicles should not present any problem for her on an intimacy basis.  She has not wanted penetrative sex for almost 5 years now as her vagina has become rather dry and penetration is painful for her. In addition, I have sat or squatted full-time to pee since 1997 so neither of us have any practical use for those things.

Then maybe it's not so detrimental!  I'd still try to notify her before hand, if you aren't already planning on it!

Quote from: Lexi Belle on November 11, 2013, 03:58:44 PM
Then maybe it's not so detrimental!  I'd still try to notify her before hand, if you aren't already planning on it!

Lexi,
As I said, I would have to find a way for my doctor to say it was medically necessary for her to be accepting of the change. I know it sounds rather strange as she no longer has an real use for them.

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Hey Mac!

Welcome to the family! Seems like you're in a tough place. I hope the answers and advice you find here is helpful. I wish I could be one of the useful ones, but this is outside my experience. Good luck. I hope you are able to find the solution that causes the least amount of havoc.

much love,
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