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i dont know how too explain my genitals to my girlfriend. i will add to this later

I will add to this answer lator 8)

Quote from: anibioman on November 27, 2013, 08:19:23 PM
i dont know how too explain my genitals to my girlfriend. i will add to this later

Be honest? 

Quote from: Brett on November 28, 2013, 08:19:05 PM
Be honest?

Yep. Just be frank. It's as simple as that.

yea... its kind of hard to formulate a response without more information other than "be honest" - as Brett and Conformer have said.

Theres not much way to get around that.

Honesty is the best policy in that department. If it's something that's hard to talk about that's tough to get past as well. I actually did something in that situation that was very uncharacteristic of me and rather than try to explain it on the phone I sent a picture. Granted it was someone who I totally trusted would delete the picture after they saw it, but yeah.

"I was born with a medical condition that affects the appearance of my genitals"

I wonder what reactions would be if we were like "I was born a hermaphrodite and my parents picked the wrong gender for the doctor to surgically reassign to me at birth"

Quote from: AJarrah on December 02, 2013, 06:05:11 AM
I wonder what reactions would be if we were like "I was born a hermaphrodite and my parents picked the wrong gender for the doctor to surgically reassign to me at birth"

pretty much what i used to say before surgery. Never once was turned down by a girl because of it. I actually TRIED to shake a girl by telling her all dramatically and it did not work.... I think when a girl likes you, she likes you and since really all genitals are strange and different most people dont get worked up.

I also make sure that I do the absolute best job I can of pleasing her first, then she REALLY doesnt care what is in my shorts, she just wants to return the favor;)

I actually did the same with my gf at first, the whole hermaphrodite thing lol but she had to be the one with tons of questions and curiosity so then I just told her the truth, turns out she didn't really care, it turned her on more actually, cause i guess its something just her and me know, no one else has to know

From the other half's point of view. I was shocked at first. It took me a bit to totally grasp what he was saying to me... then it was he was Both and man and woman.. then it all came out he was a girl but a boy but a girl.. but for 3 years I been with him he is been my boyfriend.. my one day husband.. so to me.. he is still a guy.. and He is right, I get more turned on now then before.. lol

You're a braver man than I am. I can't be open to even the possibility of a relationship until I've had the full surgery down there.

But, yes, be honest but not blunt. Write down exactly what you want to say, and practice it when you are alone. People here will be able to give advice about how to word it.