Susan's Place Transgender Resources

Hello there!

I tend to be a pretty happy person.  Sure, I'm in my early/mid 20s and in grad school, so there is some obvious life bull->-bleeped-<- that goes along with all that.  Typically though, I'm doin alright. 

So this morning I wake up, and I just can't seem to make myself want to get out of bed.  I just feel terribly lonely and deflated.  Had a pretty decent day yesterday, and a more than decent set of dreams (which were probably the culprit).

Anyway.  What caused my current state of deflation doesn't much matter too much as the cause itself is relatively unsolvable for the moment... 

So, how do you get yourself out of these funks? and out of bed into a mildly productive day. (can't spend another full one on the couch playing hitman... I have a thesis I should be working on.)

I look at it like this, get up and do your work or you will just have to do more later, sad i know but it's really the only thing i can do.

Oh man, I hear ya. I had exactly the same issue (right down to the thesis writing). It sounds so easy to just get up and do stuff, but it really is not. I think you may be close to be slightly depressed. From what I've heard, depression can be quite random, and doesn't always have a pinpointable reason. A few months ago, I had the same issue and just wanted to stay in bed. I managed to pull myself out of it by doing exercise in the morning. You have a good reason to get up then. Just go out and jog or do whatever to have a reason to get out. I noticed that once I got up for a reason, it was easier to do other things after that.

My thesis is now almost done, even though it took way longer than it should have.

ugh grad school. Nasty.
One thing I learned when I was in intellectual prison/grad school was that when you feel like crap or don't what know what to do, just take the next small step forward. Seriously that was my mantra, just get up and take one small step and then you keep doing that until you are done.

I can somewhat relate, man.  I've had this problem ever since summer after college where I just sleep all day and play video games all night (replace Hitman with GTA V: Online).  Heck, I can barely get up to do simple chores.  I was getting up and exercising each morning until I got depressed and stopped.  It's getting to the point where I seriously need to get out of bed and do something, lest this habit will become destructive.

Even though I am still trying to navigate through this funk myself, I have come to realize this:

Motivation is key  Whether the motivation is good or bad, I feel it is crucial to have this.  The motivation can stem from yourself, others, your grades in school, your future, or anything else you see fit.  For me personally, if I don't get out of this funk, it is seriously going to negatively affect my future and those that will be involved in it.  That's enough of a spark for me to be motivated, though the actual process of being fully productive won't happen over night for me.

I agree with chuck about taking small steps.  Any step foward towards an ultimate goal is a good step, no matter how small.

every week day i have a standing lunch date with my girlfriend so that gives me something to get up for. if i didn't she'd kick my ass. its an excellent motivator

I am also wrapping up grad school. And I got into many of these....chuck is dead on. You have to keep busy even if it is just small steps. I learned that the hard way.