Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Topic started by: Tristan on December 09, 2013, 10:42:13 PM Return to Full Version

Title: Happy?
Post by: Tristan on December 09, 2013, 10:42:13 PM
i was just wondering how many people were happy or at least feel like they will be able to get to a happy place? i know of quite a few post op MtoF and FtoMs that are all in their happy places but they have been done with transition for like at least five years. just curious how everyone else feels.

i will go first by saying im am very happy with my life and the people in it.
Title: Re: Happy?
Post by: kelly_aus on December 09, 2013, 11:01:34 PM
Am I happy? For the most part, yes.. I'm still grieving the loss of a partner, but on the whole, I'm happy.

I have good friends, stong family ties and a job I mostly enjoy.
Title: Re: Happy?
Post by: LordKAT on December 10, 2013, 12:39:38 AM
I don't know about happy but, life is more harmonious.
Title: Re: Happy?
Post by: Saskia on December 10, 2013, 11:43:54 AM
Yes I'm happy and contented. I've lived half of my life in the gender I should've been born with, I have a well paid job, nice car and sufficient money and live a comfortable stealthy life. I have no reason to be anything other than happy
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Post by: Anna++ on December 10, 2013, 11:47:52 AM
People started telling me I looked happier within a few weeks of starting hormones.  I definitely agree with them! :)
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Post by: suzifrommd on December 10, 2013, 11:56:56 AM
Thrilled and ecstatic.
Title: Re: Happy?
Post by: bethany on December 10, 2013, 11:57:32 AM
Without question I am much happier since I started my transition. I have no more internal conflict over who I am. And even external things that use to bother me don't do so as bad as they once did.
Title: Re: Happy?
Post by: BunnyBee on December 10, 2013, 12:30:32 PM
I finally know what sustained happiness feels like :).  Things happen that can upset me ofc, but my default way of being is just being happy and positive and kind and esay-going.  i am such a better person not having to carry that darkness with me everywhere.
Title: Re: Happy?
Post by: Robin Mack on December 10, 2013, 02:32:51 PM
I'm not far along in my journey, but I can say that in accepting myself and coming out to my family and friends I am more happy than I have been in a long, long time.  I'm rebuilding a relationship with my mother and starting new friendships without a mask... and that means a lot to me.  There are down days (and some profoundly down days) but on average life is better already.

*hug*
Title: Re: Happy?
Post by: Mogu on December 10, 2013, 03:57:27 PM
Well, I just started stuff. So I'm not really there yet.

But it feels like waiting for Christmas as a kid, sort of. The happiness I do feel is actually rather disconcerting, I'm not used to being happy, so I often feel awkward about it. I feel safer when I'm in despair.
Title: Re: Happy?
Post by: Beth Andrea on December 10, 2013, 03:58:30 PM
Yes. People started noticing a very good change within just a short time (a few weeks, iirc)...most didn't say anything, but their behaviors clearly indicated I was both more happy and much more open to having interaction with humans.
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Post by: FalseHybridPrincess on December 10, 2013, 04:03:39 PM
Ι wouldnt call me happy , at least not yet...

Im just not desperate anymore ,its something...
Title: Re: Happy?
Post by: Natkat on December 10, 2013, 04:56:12 PM
I won't call me happy,
I live as a guy and everything so its not a problem, but I dont feel secure in my current state of living.
I strugle too much with getting a job and a education and the healthcare who keep making trouble for me of all kinds of reason its takes alot of my time unfurtunatly and makes me pretty worry.

I belive when I get in a time where I feel more safe then I will get more happy ^-^
Title: Re: Happy?
Post by: JoanneB on December 10, 2013, 09:09:09 PM
I am coming to define "transition" in it's most basic form of taking a step, making a change. Just that act alone changes you. Even thinking of doing it does. It is all part of a process, of life.

Since I decided I needed to make a change, to take on the trans beast rather than stuffing it in many ways; I have to say overall I am happier. Plenty of tears along the way but that is part of the cost. The more I follow that course, the more I grow as a person, the more I accept myself for who I am, the more I feel happier about being in my skin. Which is reflected in my mood and onto others in my life.