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Title: Smiling when you see your wardrobe? :-p
Post by: Stella Stanhope on December 15, 2013, 08:46:09 PM
Post by: Stella Stanhope on December 15, 2013, 08:46:09 PM
Hey everyone!
Does anyone else get a satisfying buzz and sense of pride from seeing your preferred-gender clothing being associated with you and physically being near you? (I'm guessing most likely :P )
In my case - I love seeing my cute little blazers on the back of my chair at work, or my smart ladies' trousers hanging in my wardrobe, or if I visit a houseparty I like to see my elegant coat ordinarily piled with everyone else's coats. It feels deeply satisfying to see the clothing I want to be associated with in the world where other people can see them. And I love the fact that my wardrobe looks like a woman's wardrobe. I sometimes wish I'd have an excuse to show people my room or my clothes, just so they know I wear these things. It's like I actively want to promote the fact that I don't wear men's clothes and that I take pride in wearing the female clothes that I do :)
Does anyone else get a satisfying buzz and sense of pride from seeing your preferred-gender clothing being associated with you and physically being near you? (I'm guessing most likely :P )
In my case - I love seeing my cute little blazers on the back of my chair at work, or my smart ladies' trousers hanging in my wardrobe, or if I visit a houseparty I like to see my elegant coat ordinarily piled with everyone else's coats. It feels deeply satisfying to see the clothing I want to be associated with in the world where other people can see them. And I love the fact that my wardrobe looks like a woman's wardrobe. I sometimes wish I'd have an excuse to show people my room or my clothes, just so they know I wear these things. It's like I actively want to promote the fact that I don't wear men's clothes and that I take pride in wearing the female clothes that I do :)
Title: Re: Smiling when you see your wardrobe? :-p
Post by: kaylagirl0806 on December 15, 2013, 09:04:28 PM
Post by: kaylagirl0806 on December 15, 2013, 09:04:28 PM
I smile when I see my panties.....but that's all I've got right now ;)
Title: Re: Smiling when you see your wardrobe? :-p
Post by: Ms Grace on December 16, 2013, 04:00:51 AM
Post by: Ms Grace on December 16, 2013, 04:00:51 AM
I'm growing my ladies wardrobe at the moment. And yes, the larger it gets then so does my smile.
Title: Re: Smiling when you see your wardrobe? :-p
Post by: Kaitlin4475 on December 23, 2013, 10:34:12 AM
Post by: Kaitlin4475 on December 23, 2013, 10:34:12 AM
I've always worn woman's skinny jeans, even being a military member. (Men's t-shirts though) But I'm starting to get bored with only them and want to start venturing into other clothing types. I recently went shopping in Qatar with my wife, got so many cute things! Can't wait to go to a massive rave in the states, at EDM concerts it's socially acceptable to dress however you want, even cross dress:)
Title: Re: Smiling when you see your wardrobe? :-p
Post by: Ms Grace on December 23, 2013, 03:11:35 PM
Post by: Ms Grace on December 23, 2013, 03:11:35 PM
I have a large built in wardrobe, way bigger than I need as a single person, but hey it came with the apartment. Anyway, this last week I've been splitting it into two halves, one side is for my dude clothes and the other half will now be exclusively for my ladies clothes, shoes, etc. It feels really great!
Title: Re: Smiling when you see your wardrobe? :-p
Post by: barbie on December 23, 2013, 03:45:45 PM
Post by: barbie on December 23, 2013, 03:45:45 PM
Yes. Me, too.
In my wardrobe, a half of clothes are for athletics (jacket, leggings, jeggings, sports bra, and etc). So, my wardrobe is not so much feminine, although all of them are women's. Only wife and kids see my wardrobe. I have about 10 skirts.
I am especially satisfying when I see my striped high heel sandals in the room.
barbie~~
In my wardrobe, a half of clothes are for athletics (jacket, leggings, jeggings, sports bra, and etc). So, my wardrobe is not so much feminine, although all of them are women's. Only wife and kids see my wardrobe. I have about 10 skirts.
I am especially satisfying when I see my striped high heel sandals in the room.
barbie~~
Title: Re: Smiling when you see your wardrobe? :-p
Post by: Stella Stanhope on December 27, 2013, 06:49:06 PM
Post by: Stella Stanhope on December 27, 2013, 06:49:06 PM
Awesomes! ;D
Glad to hear the same reactions from you all, ladies!
I wanted to wear female-cut clothes throughout much of my teenage years and twenties, but didn't dare, so I tried wearing male clothes that weren't as severe as usual men's fashions, but it was a very secretive affair. Now though, its as if I WANT people to see that my clothes are meant for females, even though their bafflement sometimes creates a tense atmosphere for a bit. Same with my coats, they have nipped in waists and flared skirts, and despite the curious looks I receive, I still feel the need to present this to people. A sense of validation perhaps?
When I was very repressed and trying to conform, I used to wonder why women complained that if they were wearing something pretty, men would look at them and potentially make advances regardless of whether there was invitation or not. I assumed at the time that women just wanted the attention secretly. Now, however, after wearing pretty things myself or even simply wearing something feminine, I've realised that alot of the time, the enjoyment most of the time can be in simply looking attractive for personal validation and the aesthetic value, with any potential attraction from wannabe suitors being a welcome (or unwelcome) bi-product.
Its taken quite a while to override the social programming, so glad I did! Now I can wear stylish and elegant feminine things without feeling shame, as I am not programmed to assume that I am wearing them to attract men. I no longer have the self-hate and confusion that went with that. Plus, now I'm OK with wearing feminine clothes, I don't even need to buy overtly feminine things. A simple women's jumper feels good, even though it may not exactly be something super-cute. Hooray for this!
Kaitlin4475 - I didn't think EDM was that open-minded, especially how many clubs I've been too that frown at anything other than manly guys and girly girls. Do you listen to EDM as well? I've heard such gigs and clubs tend to be more progressive, though I haven't been to any that play EDM yet.
Glad to hear the same reactions from you all, ladies!
I wanted to wear female-cut clothes throughout much of my teenage years and twenties, but didn't dare, so I tried wearing male clothes that weren't as severe as usual men's fashions, but it was a very secretive affair. Now though, its as if I WANT people to see that my clothes are meant for females, even though their bafflement sometimes creates a tense atmosphere for a bit. Same with my coats, they have nipped in waists and flared skirts, and despite the curious looks I receive, I still feel the need to present this to people. A sense of validation perhaps?
When I was very repressed and trying to conform, I used to wonder why women complained that if they were wearing something pretty, men would look at them and potentially make advances regardless of whether there was invitation or not. I assumed at the time that women just wanted the attention secretly. Now, however, after wearing pretty things myself or even simply wearing something feminine, I've realised that alot of the time, the enjoyment most of the time can be in simply looking attractive for personal validation and the aesthetic value, with any potential attraction from wannabe suitors being a welcome (or unwelcome) bi-product.
Its taken quite a while to override the social programming, so glad I did! Now I can wear stylish and elegant feminine things without feeling shame, as I am not programmed to assume that I am wearing them to attract men. I no longer have the self-hate and confusion that went with that. Plus, now I'm OK with wearing feminine clothes, I don't even need to buy overtly feminine things. A simple women's jumper feels good, even though it may not exactly be something super-cute. Hooray for this!
Kaitlin4475 - I didn't think EDM was that open-minded, especially how many clubs I've been too that frown at anything other than manly guys and girly girls. Do you listen to EDM as well? I've heard such gigs and clubs tend to be more progressive, though I haven't been to any that play EDM yet.
Title: Re: Smiling when you see your wardrobe? :-p
Post by: Madison (kiara jamie) on December 27, 2013, 07:28:13 PM
Post by: Madison (kiara jamie) on December 27, 2013, 07:28:13 PM
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi930.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fad144%2Finfinitepure%2F20131218_223642.jpg&hash=8b09730bcc20326231cc4415361b91006914d948) (http://s930.photobucket.com/user/infinitepure/media/20131218_223642.jpg.html)
its awesome until you have to clean it up
its awesome until you have to clean it up
Title: Re: Smiling when you see your wardrobe? :-p
Post by: barbie on December 29, 2013, 09:17:37 AM
Post by: barbie on December 29, 2013, 09:17:37 AM
Quote from: kiaraja on December 27, 2013, 07:28:13 PM
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its awesome until you have to clean it up
My office once looked like that. I purchased two wooden wardrobes and now it looks tidy.
barbie~~
Title: Re: Smiling when you see your wardrobe? :-p
Post by: barbie on December 29, 2013, 09:26:42 AM
Post by: barbie on December 29, 2013, 09:26:42 AM
Quote from: "I'm Stella Stanhope, and that's why I drink". on December 27, 2013, 06:49:06 PM
Same with my coats, they have nipped in waists and flared skirts, and despite the curious looks I receive, I still feel the need to present this to people. A sense of validation perhaps?
I have worn the following women's item in my work place.
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Ffarm4.staticflickr.com%2F3765%2F11625486443_a3a450552d_o.jpg&hash=bf2cfd7223e6f7feccb72838f6b3bdde3341ca2f)
This is better than mini-skirt to wear in my campus. Other professors or students do not care so much about my wearing this. Mini-skirts may cause some fuss, and I have never worn them in the campus.
As I am a little bit tired of the black coat, I ordered the following one yesterday, and it will be delivered in the new year.
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Ffarm8.staticflickr.com%2F7438%2F11624869835_e8cc86cd62_z.jpg&hash=43d775e9e37a48fbc684e80f56f16c011b1defef)
I will wear it in my work place.
barbie~~