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I have been repeatedly targeted by someone, most likely a former staff member from England who after being fired from the site bears a grudge against myself and this web site. They think it's a fun game to post all over my local community about my gender status. The most recent was on Topix in a thread someone started looking for trannies (not my word)

Quote"Try ____ Larson (aka Susan Larson): www.susans.org

S/he's the local ->-bleeped-<- head honcho and single last I heard..."

Poster: "Gagginferit, Frome UK"

The question I have is what is your goal here? Do you think I am going to cower out of fear that someone is trying to out me? Not on your life. I am not a coward and never have been. It is true that I am not out in the local community, but it's not out of fear; it's because it is simply a private matter and one I didn't feel needed to be shoved in their faces, and they will respect that. My friends, family, and coworkers all have known for years.

Do you think I am embarrassed about Susan's Place? It's nothing to be ashamed about. I have saved hundreds of lives over the last 17 years and that alone makes any price worth it.

If someone sees your little character attack posts I have one response for them. It has never been a secret. I am what I am, no more no less. I would ask them if them knowing makes one bit of a difference as I am the same person today now that they know; as I was the day before when they didn't.  If someone wants to try to belittle me because I am transgender; it wouldn't work. I have to value their opinion, before their opinion of me matters to begin with.

It is my suspicion that the person behind these attacks is trying to force me to withdraw my support for this web site, and that is never going to happen.

All the person posting these attacks is doing is showing how utterly despicable they are as a person; and they will reap a full reward as sooner or later, as all this bad karma will eventually turn around and will bite them in the ass.

That's all I have to say on this matter.

Have a wonderful day.

Bless you for giving us this place, Susan. Hugs, Devlyn

I so admire your confidence & unwavering resolve.  The world would be so much better if we all had the unconceited self-worth that you do.   'Course it'd be better without malicious ne'er-do-wells, too, but....

Hang in there, girl, & thanks for being you.  Hugs,
~Valerie

I'm really sorry to read this Susan.  What the hell is wrong with some people?  No one has the right to out anyone else.  And that's really disheartening to hear this attack is coming from former staff.  Disgusting no matter what the personal gripes behind it may be.

I've said it elsewhere, but this place is worth more than all of the therapists I have seen and has kept me from going over the edge. F**k the haters.  Thank you for being you, Susan.

Wow...that is totally messed up.

I'am so sorry to hear Susan, some people just can't drop a grudge over something little and move on.

You bet it will bite them...were it matters! :D

Thank you so much for this community. Goes without saying, but it's been such a biiiiig help! :)

Goes along with something I was taught early in my transition, many years ago, Susan: What other people think or say about me is none of my business.

Having worked for you here for 6+ years, I know how strong you are.

Mele Kalikimaka, ku'u hoaloha. (Merry Christmas, my dear friend.)

Robyn

Susan,

Bullying is alive all around the world. It is sad that we are always perceived as easy targets.

The others here and I stand with you showing we are stronger then words.

Hugs
Isabell

I admire your strength Susan, and thank you for starting this site - it has definitely helped me.

As far as your agitator? What a bitter, angry, petty, small person that is, and all of that will eat them alive sooner or later.

Some people are so small minded.  We are all behind you, Susan.

You totally rock Susan  8)  Thank you for providing this site - We are all with you and will stand together in solidarity

Hugs

V M

I am behind you 100%+ Susan! I guess this person forgot just how strong we all are. The universe has a funny way of dealing with people like this. Stay strong!  ;)

You watered the flames from my personal hell so that life seemed worth living again. I'm grateful for your strength and perseverance when it comes to setting up and keeping this site going. Thanks for not letting them get to you too badly.

You are my sister and my friend. You know what I think!!

Thank you, Susan, for all you've done for us. IMO, this disturbed individual is attacking you so viciously because they know they can't really do anything substantial to harm you and this site.

Susan, you provide a service that I truly can't get elsewhere. IRL trans people are hard to find and this site (and chat room) has started to open that community up to me. Other web sites and forums are not as well policed and are not as tight knit a community.

Thank you for everything!!
♥ ♥ ♥

Quote from: Eva Marie on December 18, 2013, 09:09:33 PM
I admire your strength Susan, and thank you for starting this site - it has definitely helped me.

As far as your agitator? What a bitter, angry, petty, small person that is, and all of that will eat them alive sooner or later.

I admire your stregth as well Susan and I second the notion.  :)

Thank you, Susan, for being You and maintaining this site. You can certainly count mine as one of the lives it has saved.

Hi Susan. It is sad that the most vicious attacks on trans* activists and leaders come from within the movement. I consider you an activist, a leader, and a friend. I am so glad you maintain this forum as a place free from gender identity-shaming, presentation shaming, and body shaming. Diversity is our strength. Thank you for being you. And for standing proud in the face of bullying. People who out trans* women only out their own transmisogyny.

Thanks Susan, for everything you do to keep this site going! Lives are saved here, and importantly, we discover others like ourselves who are dealing with gender issues and create a community.

Shana

I'm sorry this is happening to you Susan, you do not deserve it.  You have been a good friend and a great host of this site.

  Thanks, Susan.  This is one of the best forum sites I've been to.  There are some people who do these things on social sites elsewhere.  Whether it is dissing your boss using an anonymous url that was exposed or telling things about yourself that is usually TMI.  These people mine these sites for info to blackmail for money to just getting their jollies off seeing people suffer.  We all have to be careful.  I am not on Twitter nor Facebook because of the ease and temptation on those sites to tell of your TMI.  The kids love these sites though.  My astronomy club of 400 members is now on Facebook and we are getting a lot of hits from the younger set there.  We are trying to get in more younger members.  Our executive board that I am on has a median age of 60.  I approved this move, even though I don't personally trust these sites. 

  Joelene

Hi Susan,

Good on you for your strength and resolve. It sounds like you're handling the right way. We are attacked and ridiculed because of others prejudices and insecurities. Screw them, we'll be our selves in spite of them! We are behind you 110%.

Big hugs,
Cindy

At any place, there are a few people who live by defaming others, instead of living their own life. Most people are busy taking care of themselves and their family.

barbie~~

Hi Susan,

As an administrator on another site, I know full well how you feel as I've been a target too. These bullies have such low opinions of themselves that they have a need to tear others down in order to inflate their own egos. They are pathetic little toads not worth a second glance.
I'm very glad to see that you are standing tall and proud in the face of this BS. Haters and bigots may make a lot of noise but they will not prevail.

MaryEllen

Sorry you have to go thru BS like this, Susan.  It's such a shame that some people can't appreciate what we do here and try to tear it down.

Haters gotta hate, I guess, even the trans* ones. Stay strong!

hugs & smiles,
HelenW

Sorry to hear this Susan. I was so happy when I found your site, and if I was able to, I would gladly donate. Sadly, I'm a little short to be doing that right now. Thank you so much for what you do for all of us. I'm sorry again. If only we could find out who they are and out them on something worthwhile.

Quote from: ChelseaAnn on December 23, 2013, 05:19:47 PM
Sorry to hear this Susan. I was so happy when I found your site, and if I was able to, I would gladly donate. Sadly, I'm a little short to be doing that right now. Thank you so much for what you do for all of us. I'm sorry again. If only we could find out who they are and out them on something worthwhile.

Tit for tat isn't always the best reaction.

Quote from: LordKAT on December 24, 2013, 02:09:53 AM
Tit for tat isn't always the best reaction.

I agree, sometimes being retaliatory simply escalates things instead of fixing them.

It would be rather fun to have the offending individual placed in one of these dunk tanks and we all get to line up and have a go at hitting the target  ;D

(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fts3.mm.bing.net%2Fth%3Fid%3DH.4973294150550870%26amp%3Bpid%3D15.1&hash=5a7f473af990a739c8ac325e8f4a973cac3829c0)

Great idea, V M, can I bring my piranhas along for the fun?  >:-)

Only if you think they would enjoy their time

A sunny day at the fairgrounds, a nice blue tank, delicious carnival treats, what's not to love?

Is it just me or do others feel like the most vicious detractors of our community sometimes comes from within?  It's really bizarre.   And honestly, why would someone actively out someone and belittle them for being trans when they are in the same boat?  It really pisses me off how people can shut off their empathy meter when it comes to someone they don't get along with or have a disagreement with.  I don't who the person is or what caused the tear, but there are bridges that shouldn't be crossed dispute having a dispute. 

I know you hear this a lot Susan, but we all really appreciate having this forum.  Seriously, this has been the greatest gift that I could have had this year and it gave me the courage to start putting my life on track an enjoying life.  I know you have made sacrifices for us to have this site and it's greatly appreciated.  It's my only hope that one day I myself can repay this community and help transgender people that are struggling, especially younger ones who have the same fears and dilemmas prior to coming out as I did, and be an inspirational and positive force in the community.   No matter who dislikes you or whatever their personal issues are, they can never take this accomplishment away from you.  I just had to say that because your site means a lot to me and helped me in a very profound way.  Thank you for everything.

The screen name of the poster you mentioned suggests they think with parts of their anatomy other than the host of grey matter between their ears. Unfortunately, many people who do that also tend to act like said anatomical parts, too.

Perhaps their actions towards you are based on a more wide-reaching grudge borne against our community, or heck maybe just people in general, and springs from (going by the name again) pent up sexual frustration. Their inability to find a meaningful relationship, or a satisfying one. Probably due to the fact that they enjoy acting like an industrial strength reprobate. Perhaps they were spurned by someone and decided a vendetta was more appropriate than actually being a decent human being.

Pity such people. They have a lonely life ahead of them.

Keep being who you are, Susan. Because you're worth a thousand times more than anyone who would think it a good thing to do what this person is doing.

The piranha tank above needs a wiry lid.

i've been here long enough to know who, i think, you're talking about.  What a shame. what a pathetic, pitiful individual.  Susan, you've done so much good, something that individual won't do in their lifetime.  stay strong.  even though i don't say it frequently, I respect you, and we all love you.