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Title: How do you get through the loneliness?
Post by: Magnolia88 on December 30, 2013, 10:10:11 PM
Post by: Magnolia88 on December 30, 2013, 10:10:11 PM
This time of the year is the worst to be alone and I'm sure most of us knows that feeling. How have some of you dealt with it? I can be pretty miserable a lot of the time. I feel like my life is on hold while I watch everyone else around me love and be happy and it's so frustrating and painful. I try to picture what my life will be like when the outside matches the inside and I can finally live my life as it was meant to be. I envision myself in bed wrapped in my man's arms feeling safe and secure and no longer lonely and invisible. What are some of the tricks you use to get through it?
Title: Re: How do you get through the loneliness?
Post by: LordKAT on December 30, 2013, 10:16:04 PM
Post by: LordKAT on December 30, 2013, 10:16:04 PM
Never leave my mind alone long enough to ponder it.
Title: Re: How do you get through the loneliness?
Post by: Antonia J on December 30, 2013, 10:16:54 PM
Post by: Antonia J on December 30, 2013, 10:16:54 PM
It is a very tough time! Here are the things I do:
I exercise a lot - which means riding a stationary bike at least 30 minutes a day, and some strength bands for my arms. I go to bed fairly early at the same time and make sure I get enough sleep, and then make sure to eat healthy. And...then I get outside each and every day for a walk. A healthy body does wonders to give you a good starting point for a better mind - really, seriously.
On the social front, I began reaching out to a broader group of people I knew and started spending time with other friends and family who are also lonely. It has been everything from meeting for coffee, to watching a really bad movie with an acquaintance, to having dinner with a girlfriend and her husband. I also have a local trans support group I sometimes go to. The point is, I know this time is difficult, so if something comes my way and it does not involve money, I accept the invite whether I normally would or not. I am also the "serial inviter" and will invite people to do stuff all the time around the holidays -- I say "hey, let's escape to..." even if it is a jaunt to the mall. I just want to stay engaged with the world, and keep busy.
And...then I also cry a lot when I feel truly alone. That actually helps, too, sometimes.
Toni
I exercise a lot - which means riding a stationary bike at least 30 minutes a day, and some strength bands for my arms. I go to bed fairly early at the same time and make sure I get enough sleep, and then make sure to eat healthy. And...then I get outside each and every day for a walk. A healthy body does wonders to give you a good starting point for a better mind - really, seriously.
On the social front, I began reaching out to a broader group of people I knew and started spending time with other friends and family who are also lonely. It has been everything from meeting for coffee, to watching a really bad movie with an acquaintance, to having dinner with a girlfriend and her husband. I also have a local trans support group I sometimes go to. The point is, I know this time is difficult, so if something comes my way and it does not involve money, I accept the invite whether I normally would or not. I am also the "serial inviter" and will invite people to do stuff all the time around the holidays -- I say "hey, let's escape to..." even if it is a jaunt to the mall. I just want to stay engaged with the world, and keep busy.
And...then I also cry a lot when I feel truly alone. That actually helps, too, sometimes.
Toni
Title: Re: How do you get through the loneliness?
Post by: MyKa on December 30, 2013, 10:17:55 PM
Post by: MyKa on December 30, 2013, 10:17:55 PM
Exercise and my two hounds. Been single for 6 year now. Do I think I will meet anyone.......no. This curse assured me of that.
Title: Re: How do you get through the loneliness?
Post by: nonameyet on December 31, 2013, 02:31:56 AM
Post by: nonameyet on December 31, 2013, 02:31:56 AM
http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/dorisday/queserasera.html
my grandma used to sing this song all the time. the chorus especially stuck with me and has kept me happy on many a lonely day.
my grandma used to sing this song all the time. the chorus especially stuck with me and has kept me happy on many a lonely day.
Title: Re: How do you get through the loneliness?
Post by: nonameyet on December 31, 2013, 02:37:39 AM
Post by: nonameyet on December 31, 2013, 02:37:39 AM
Quote from: LordKAT on December 30, 2013, 10:16:04 PM
Never leave my mind alone long enough to ponder it.
not sure what its technically called but the line under your reputation says otherwise
: P
Title: Re: How do you get through the loneliness?
Post by: Jessica Merriman on December 31, 2013, 02:43:18 AM
Post by: Jessica Merriman on December 31, 2013, 02:43:18 AM
Quote from: nonameyet on December 31, 2013, 02:37:39 AMLOL! The KAT got caught! *giggle* Never type under the influence of catnip. ;D
not sure what its technically called but the line under your reputation says otherwise : P
I am alone, but this family has been there every time I needed them. Well, this family and shopping! :D
Title: Re: How do you get through the loneliness?
Post by: LordKAT on December 31, 2013, 02:52:49 AM
Post by: LordKAT on December 31, 2013, 02:52:49 AM
There is a big difference between loneliness and being alone. I prefer being alone, I abhor loneliness.
Title: Re: How do you get through the loneliness?
Post by: Jessica Merriman on December 31, 2013, 02:54:53 AM
Post by: Jessica Merriman on December 31, 2013, 02:54:53 AM
Quote from: LordKAT on December 31, 2013, 02:52:49 AMSorry, I forgot I was dealing with the master. Forgive me great KAT! Just a simple slip by yon maiden. ;)
There is a big difference between loneliness and being alone. I prefer being alone, I abhor loneliness.
Title: Re: How do you get through the loneliness?
Post by: Cindy on December 31, 2013, 02:59:26 AM
Post by: Cindy on December 31, 2013, 02:59:26 AM
Goddess Jess don't give the fur mat any ideas!
But seriously. You are not alone, you are with us. I'm in Adelaide 37C sitting in not much, Kat is where Kat is Jessica is somewhere else but we are all together.
Not many people are that lucky!
But seriously. You are not alone, you are with us. I'm in Adelaide 37C sitting in not much, Kat is where Kat is Jessica is somewhere else but we are all together.
Not many people are that lucky!
Title: Re: How do you get through the loneliness?
Post by: LordKAT on December 31, 2013, 03:06:23 AM
Post by: LordKAT on December 31, 2013, 03:06:23 AM
Jessica is formally forgiven. Us KATs are magnanimous that way. Besides, you now have something to ponder.
Title: Re: How do you get through the loneliness?
Post by: Cindy on December 31, 2013, 03:09:05 AM
Post by: Cindy on December 31, 2013, 03:09:05 AM
Quote from: LordKAT on December 31, 2013, 03:06:23 AM
Jessica is formally forgiven. Us KATs are magnanimous that way. Besides, you now have something to ponder.
I warned you Jessica, the fur ball is now magnanimous!
Title: Re: How do you get through the loneliness?
Post by: Jessica Merriman on December 31, 2013, 03:11:48 AM
Post by: Jessica Merriman on December 31, 2013, 03:11:48 AM
Quote from: Cindy on December 31, 2013, 02:59:26 AMOh, I think he has ideas alright! :)
Goddess Jess don't give the fur mat any ideas!
Anyway, you are right! We are all here together in this great dysfunctional functional family and we all love each other. I have never once had a bad day that someone here didn't get me to smile or calm down. I love it here and consider all of you my blood family brothers and sisters. We have a special bond forged through adversity that makes us super strong and a force to reckon with.
Title: Re: How do you get through the loneliness?
Post by: LordKAT on December 31, 2013, 03:12:52 AM
Post by: LordKAT on December 31, 2013, 03:12:52 AM
Quote from: Cindy on December 31, 2013, 03:09:05 AM
I warned you Jessica, the fur ball is now magnanimous!
You prefur magnificent? I didn't want to brag.
Title: Re: How do you get through the loneliness?
Post by: Jessica Merriman on December 31, 2013, 03:13:31 AM
Post by: Jessica Merriman on December 31, 2013, 03:13:31 AM
Quote from: Cindy on December 31, 2013, 03:09:05 AMAnd kind of hungry looking! :o
I warned you Jessica, the fur ball is now magnanimous!
Title: Re: How do you get through the loneliness?
Post by: Jessica Merriman on December 31, 2013, 03:14:59 AM
Post by: Jessica Merriman on December 31, 2013, 03:14:59 AM
Quote from: LordKAT on December 31, 2013, 03:12:52 AM
You prefur magnificent? I didn't want to brag.
Think he's been out in the cold too long? ???
Title: Re: How do you get through the loneliness?
Post by: Cindy on December 31, 2013, 03:15:28 AM
Post by: Cindy on December 31, 2013, 03:15:28 AM
But fortunately has nine lives
Title: Re: How do you get through the loneliness?
Post by: Cindy on December 31, 2013, 03:16:01 AM
Post by: Cindy on December 31, 2013, 03:16:01 AM
Quote from: Jessica Merriman on December 31, 2013, 03:14:59 AM
Think he's been out in the cold too long? ???
Nah just wants to lie on the bed
Title: Re: How do you get through the loneliness?
Post by: Cindy on December 31, 2013, 03:17:22 AM
Post by: Cindy on December 31, 2013, 03:17:22 AM
So nonameyet you want to join in?
Title: Re: How do you get through the loneliness?
Post by: Jessica Merriman on December 31, 2013, 03:26:30 AM
Post by: Jessica Merriman on December 31, 2013, 03:26:30 AM
Uh, Cindy, looks like it is me, you and the KAT. That could be trouble! ;D
Title: Re: How do you get through the loneliness?
Post by: LordKAT on December 31, 2013, 03:29:44 AM
Post by: LordKAT on December 31, 2013, 03:29:44 AM
Quote from: Cindy on December 31, 2013, 03:16:01 AM
Nah just wants to lie on the bed
Yup, belly rub plz
Title: Re: How do you get through the loneliness?
Post by: Jessica Merriman on December 31, 2013, 03:32:05 AM
Post by: Jessica Merriman on December 31, 2013, 03:32:05 AM
Cindy! Belly rub room #1.
Title: Re: How do you get through the loneliness?
Post by: stephaniec on December 31, 2013, 11:28:26 AM
Post by: stephaniec on December 31, 2013, 11:28:26 AM
Quote from: Jessica Merriman on December 31, 2013, 02:43:18 AMI've been alone on the holidays ever since my dad died 20 years ago. I'm kind of of weird though I've gotten to like it except for all the coffee shops closing down on Christmas. This year though a couple invited me to share Christmas and New years . It's been a nice change.
LOL! The KAT got caught! *giggle* Never type under the influence of catnip. ;D
I am alone, but this family has been there every time I needed them. Well, this family and shopping! :D
Title: Re: How do you get through the loneliness?
Post by: nonameyet on January 01, 2014, 04:11:11 AM
Post by: nonameyet on January 01, 2014, 04:11:11 AM
Quote from: Cindy on December 31, 2013, 03:17:22 AM
So nonameyet you want to join in?
i have absolutely no idea how. because i after i replied the first time i completely lost track of what was going on in this topic