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please help me, i've tried everything to bind my chest but nothing is working. my chest isn't even big but it's hard to hide and i just can't take it anymore. i can buy it, i just need to buy an amazon or visa giftcard or whatever, but i seriously have nowhere to send it. my dad is home all the time. i have my first therapist appointment on monday, i'm thinking of coming out to her idk, could i maybe get it sent to her or something?? i really can't deal with this anymore

Your parents open your mail? That's a federal offense.

Have you come out of a friend that you can send it to, or are there postal boxes you can rent in your area? Amazon is also doing a thing in the UK where there are sites you can pick stuff up from instead of getting it posted straight to your house. It's that a possibility?

yeah there's this thing where you can pick up your packages at the post office, but since i'm under 18, idk if i would be able to without my paren'ts permission

I think if you're the recipient of a package you can call and request to pick something up at a UPS distribution center instead of having it delivered.  I doubt they'll ask if you're over 18.  That seems like it would be a silly restriction.  Teenagers order things all the time.

I'm doing this on Monday actually.  I'm going to be gone every evening this week (yay tech week), but I have a package coming.  My ups man never shows up before 7PM, so I know I'm going to miss him.  I just called the local distribution center and told them I needed to pick it up instead.  I think I just need my ID and the tracking numbers.

Quote from: Alexthecat on January 04, 2014, 11:41:15 AM
Your parents open your mail? That's a federal offense.

if you're under 18 I'm not sure it is.  Either way, once its open its open, and one is left to explain.... That and I know even though my parents probably wouldn't have opened a box to me they're sure as hell going to want to know what it was I ordered - lest it be something dangerous.  They'll probably scope the box for a company name ect. anything that may point them towards its contents.

Quote from: Alexthecat on January 04, 2014, 11:41:15 AM
Your parents open your mail? That's a federal offense.

Not for a minor sorry. It's unpleasant. Even if you are not a minor, doubt anybody would actually take the case in a court of law.

--Jay

quite apart from the legal aspects of parents opening the mail there is the very simple fact to consider: mothers know exactly what their children are up to and the idea that you could keep a binder secret in the house let alone on your body is wishful thinking.

better try having the conversation with the family doctor or a therapy clinic before trying to get the binder.

Quote from: lilacwoman on January 04, 2014, 04:00:33 PM
quite apart from the legal aspects of parents opening the mail there is the very simple fact to consider: mothers know exactly what their children are up to and the idea that you could keep a binder secret in the house let alone on your body is wishful thinking.

better try having the conversation with the family doctor or a therapy clinic before trying to get the binder.

I bought myself a binder a few months ago and my family members are none the wiser. I don't wear it around them obviously because they would be able to tell that I was wearing something to flatten my chest but I do wear it when I don't have to be around them. I keep it in a drawer with my t shirts. I also do all of my own laundry and such though so they never have reason to go through my clothes.

Quote from: lilacwoman on January 04, 2014, 04:00:33 PM
quite apart from the legal aspects of parents opening the mail there is the very simple fact to consider: mothers know exactly what their children are up to and the idea that you could keep a binder secret in the house let alone on your body is wishful thinking.

better try having the conversation with the family doctor or a therapy clinic before trying to get the binder.

I had several binders, boxers, and packers in the house without them knowing.  Parent's think they know everything, and maybe try to, but a lot of time times they really don't.

Have you got a mate who you could send it to?