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So this is gonna be one of those super short questions.

If you already created a new Facebook account, when did you decide to close the old one, and if you haven't, does visiting the old profile ever cause that 50/50 mix of depression and dysphoria to hit?

I never had a boys facebook. I just have a woman one and I am 100 percent non trans there.

I haven't created a new FB account yet, but I've been thinking about doing it lately. I'm pretty sure I'd hold onto my old one for quite awhile. It might be kind of a hard thing to do though, having two FB pages, since I'd have to be on a constant watch to make sure I don't accidentally out myself on my old page (I'm out to most of my friends, but my family doesn't know at all).

But yes, I completely understand what you mean by "that 50/50 mix of depression and dysphoria." I'd much rather be on some other site (Susan's, tumblr, etc.) where I don't have to hide my true self from the world.

i had two accounts, male mode,and female mode, deleted the male one over the summer and made the female one over 2 years ago, moved all my friends  and family to my fem account

Quote from: Caitlyn on January 04, 2014, 10:49:55 PM
I haven't created a new FB account yet, but I've been thinking about doing it lately. I'm pretty sure I'd hold onto my old one for quite awhile. It might be kind of a hard thing to do though, having two FB pages, since I'd have to be on a constant watch to make sure I don't accidentally out myself on my old page (I'm out to most of my friends, but my family doesn't know at all).

But yes, I completely understand what you mean by "that 50/50 mix of depression and dysphoria." I'd much rather be on some other site (Susan's, tumblr, etc.) where I don't have to hide my true self from the world.

Don't have a tumblr....all i ever see when i go there is amateur porn, or professional porn attempting to look like amateur porn....as far as my new fb, im myself on there 100% of the time. My old fb tho has been neglected a lot recently. I have my Kari account logged into the Android app 24/7 but only get on my old one with the mobile browser....but yeah, it might be going bye bye soon.

It seems I'm a rare one that I transitioned my Facebook account. I changed the name on Facebook on the same day as my legal name change. The vast majority of family and friends had received a letter in advance, everyone else got the same legal notice that was in the newspaper published to my Facebook account.
I occasionally post activism topics. I very rarely talk about my own transition, the last certifiably trans post was last April.

I made my new account after I came out to most of my family and friends. I pretty much only use my new fem account now, and will get rid of my old account after I've told a few remaining people. I have a lot less "friends" on my new account than before, but most of the people I really care about have been very accepting and positive :)

Had a joint account with my wife, then opened a new one under my chosen name and stopped using the joint account a few days before I came out to my sisters and brothers.  Now I have two accounts so my 6 sisters and brothers don't read the things I say in private to other transwomen.

I simply changed my name and gender on facebook.

This was very simple for me, I had no male facebook account. And my female facebook is trans-free, although all friends already know.

I didn't have Facebook at the time I went full time but I did have LinkedIn. There I told a few of the people I was closer to what was about to happen in advance then, changed my name and updated the picture because I didn't want to lose my network by creating a new account. Ended up being no big deal really. :)

Quote from: kariann330 on January 04, 2014, 10:39:37 PM
So this is gonna be one of those super short questions.

If you already created a new Facebook account, when did you decide to close the old one, and if you haven't, does visiting the old profile ever cause that 50/50 mix of depression and dysphoria to hit?

I changed over when I went fulltime. I used the invitation to friend my new account as  a way to come out. About half my old friends came over to the new account.

I hardly ever visit the old account. Not sure if I even remember the password. No, no dysphoria there. Happiness actually, reminding me how far I've come.

Same here. Revisiting my old FB page only reinforces me that I'm not that person anymore, and I get a sense of contentment. I never post on my old page. Even tho' everyone knows about my transition, even they don't need that reminder.

I was wondering what to do myself. What would be so problematic about just changing name and gender on your current FB account? I do not want to spend months with 2 accounts or gradual process of anything, either make a new one move everyone in quickly and close the old one, or just change name and gender, which are the pros and cons?

I m actually wandering about that too ganjina...

I transitioned my facebook about a week after full time, as my announcement to everybody who I hadn't talked to since college (or even high school!).  The profile picture I put up was  my most "liked" post ever!  I try not to talk about trans things on there since the only reason I joined twitter was to post my transition updates.

I'm just waiting till I go full time to switch name and gender on my facebook, by then I'll have told everyone that warrants hearing it directly and the rest of the pieces will fall where they may. If it weren't for the Army I would just go full time now but I'm waiting for my discharge and plan on going to school as myself.

I don't talk about trans things much on the FB but I do from time to time. I don't think I'll ever talk about things like pondering SRS there (out of personal desire for informed opinions and I don't want to see others talking about their colonoscopy or something), but mentioning trans issues from time to time seems to be outright welcomed.

Those who don't like seeing those things can unfriend or hide my posts.

Anyway I take a stance of being trans is a normal everyday thing cause, well, it is. We're out there everyday living our boring everyday lives. But I'm aware my level of dysphoria lets me handle it that way. I suspect we all know some trans people who are so traumatized from being born with the wrong body the very idea of them treating it like no big thing is unthinkable. So, they have to create new accounts as part of their healing process. That's what the name of this game is all about: healing.

I changed my original account to new name and gender, and I did it as soon as 100% of close family and friends knew. It was surprisingly easy, except that occasionally now distant acquaintances (who didn't interact with me much/at all before) will have no idea who this person on their friends list is. ;)

I actually have 2 one that still base my male persona due to some friends and family that do not know yet. And I have a transwoman account and all that are friends there are fully await. Once every one knows I will probably keep them both but will share on both.

Yes, I have 2 FB accounts.  I'm spending less and less time on the male one, and finding I have less tolerance for some of the stuff I see on there. 

I never had facebook under any other name or gender than I am.  I don't have trans stuff on there as its just not needed. I have family, a few old myspace friends and real life friends on it.  I don't use it that much, but its a nice way to keep up with my nieces and such.

seeing this post I'll think I'll get another account and see what happens

I never had a facebook account.  In the future, I may create one with my new name and the right gender, but I'm not sure.  I'm not crazy about the lack of privacy on the site.  It depends on how I feel when I get to that point. 

Facebook used to be evil and not allow gender or name changes. I always thought that was why people had multiple accounts.

Quote from: kariann330 on January 04, 2014, 10:39:37 PM
So this is gonna be one of those super short questions.

If you already created a new Facebook account, when did you decide to close the old one, and if you haven't, does visiting the old profile ever cause that 50/50 mix of depression and dysphoria to hit?

I created a female account as soon as I started HRT and deleted the old one. I'm one of those rare ones who finally quit Facebook a few weeks ago for many reasons but do know what you're talking about- when I look at my "male" pictures, it feels a little weird. Although I don't hide them from anyone and still display some pictures of good times I had while stuck as "male"- it is what it is and your past will not go away.

I have one for Kelly and one for the male self. Kellys page just has the friends that I have came out and some transgendered veterans.Since I am still discovering my self I use both but I tend to stay on as Kelly a lot longer. Once I start Hrt and go full time then i will come out and close down the old one.

I'm beginning to warm up to the idea of just changing my name, pics, and gender on my current FB profile. The only downside is that I would need to wait until I've come out to everyone that knows me, or at least the ones that I see on a regular basis. Though, I suppose one could just change everything all at once as a way of coming out, eh? :D Probably not the best idea I've ever had lol

I decided to migrate to a new account because the URL of my original account had my old name and I already changed it once so I wouldn't be able to change it again.

I created a new account last fall and came out en masse to everyone this summer with a link to my new profile. When all but 2 accepted were re-friended I deleted my old account (about two weeks).

I do post some transition related stuff (milestones, funny episodes) on my new account, but use a custom list for people who know.

Quote from: learningtolive on January 05, 2014, 12:04:36 PM
In the future, I may create one with my new name and the right gender, but I'm not sure.  I'm not crazy about the lack of privacy on the site.  It depends on how I feel when I get to that point.

Me too. Just deleted my account this weekend, and while I may go back once I'm more comfortable with myself, I'm definitely not in any hurry. Deleting the account I've had for seven years feels like turning over a new leaf.

I got a male account I haven't actually posted a status update in since August 2012 and never really used anyways. And I have my female account which I use far more than I ever used my male account. Early on I used to talk more about being trans but in the last few months I've been trying to move away from posting trans related stuff. It's not that I'm ashamed I just want to concentrate more on living my life then my condition. :)

I choose to put my name and gender on my original fb page, that way family and friends can stay in touch. i do not have much trans info there just grandkids pics and stuff like that. it also helps for the folks that i have not seen for a bit to know whats up in my life. i tried to let everyone know but i am sure i have missed some
jerri

What's funny about having two accounts are the different Zoosk ads after using each :).

Wait you get Zoosk ads?!?! All of the ads i get are for gun stores and the local state mental facility.

You read the ads?????

I transitioned in public. On Facebook, I posted an explanation and then proceeded to just do my thing. Got lots of love and support that way and it made me feel accepted and validated.

I'm completely open about the fact that I'm trans and everyone knows it, though it's the world's least-big deal to all my friends and loved ones. I'm active in trans-advocacy and discuss trans issues with the public as it's something not a lot of them understand so I have the privilege of educating those who wish to broaden their lives and outlooks.

Quote from: Joules on January 05, 2014, 08:55:02 PM
Lol Kat, not usually, no, but when it has a picture of shoes, I start to drool.  Would you like to here about the cute suede mules I saw the other day?

I normally don't read them either, but when i see a 14.5in barrel on a Bravo Company lower....it's like finally finding that one pair of heels you have been dying to find....and why the state facility comes up i have no clue...i only drive past it on my way to my father in laws property.

I started my Connie account long after I'd already had my David account, and I friended them. I shutdown the David one about a month after I went full-time, announcing via a FB note my transition so my FB friends could find my proper account.

I'm personally blind to the ads, I only see annoying motion taking up valuable screen space. I couldn't tell you of a single ads actual subject.

I have a boy mode Facebook for family and old friends and a girl mode Facebook to respond with comments on trans related issues in the news.

I just created my girl account recently...
I'll probably maintain both of them indefinitely. My past doesn't scare me.

Eventually my male-presenting account will transition into a female-presenting one that isn't mostly about trans issues. Maybe they'll merge completely, who knows. I will link them eventually, and friends can be on either or both.

The hardest part is being unable to keep them both open at the same time (which is mainly a problem at work where private browsing is disabled). I wish FB allowed multiple joined accounts the way Google does.

Quote from: Joules on January 05, 2014, 08:55:02 PM
Lol Kat, not usually, no, but when it has a picture of shoes, I start to drool.  Would you like to here about the cute suede mules I saw the other day?

I use an adblocker, so the Internet is way more usable!  I once went to Pandora without it enabled and it gave me this horrible shoe ad that was a bunch of tiled images with a bright pink background.  Never again.

You get ads? I haven't seen an advert on the Internet for about 10 years. I changed the name and gender on my original Facebook page rather than start a new one. I had already come out to close friends and family so the only people it was news for were my "Facebook friends".

Rosie