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Title: So I think I am probably done with my therapist, she has been unreliable
Post by: Shawn Sunshine on January 14, 2014, 09:19:39 PM
Post by: Shawn Sunshine on January 14, 2014, 09:19:39 PM
:( Well since back in April of 2013 (yeah thats how long off and on I have seen her) I have been strung along ,and then strung along some more. I saw her for 2 months before she said she could not take my insurance and that my medicaid was from California (when it was actually from Texas and I know because I made sure everything was moved back)
She didn't see me again until Late September 2013, even after 2 months of phone calls and such to show her I really did have valid insurance. Anyways this whole time until now, she has offered at best generic advice on how to deal with my family,my emotions and my life in general. She has put off talking with my doctors, rescheduled me and took extended vacations,not really actually doing anything until the day of our appointments, then promising to do certain things the next week and still NOT doing them. She after all is not specialized in Gender Issues.
This is the same LCSW who told me outright in our session (a statement that blew me away and was not really conducive to good therapy) that Jesus was just a manifestation of God and only metaphorically died on the cross. I confronted her about that and asked her to please respect my beliefs and she did but only in a certain way. She was actually mad at me in a way that I was upset about it.
Anyways now she FINALLY talked to my previous Psychologist from California (who I really had wonderful sessions with) and then only after bugging her with texts and voice mails, she made me an appointment to discuss what she talked to my Doctor on the phone about (my doctor was going to approve HRT and said I did indeed have GID back in October of 2012) but of course thats not really my doctor anymore.
I have just not been getting good advice, and trying to get a letter of approval for HRT has been utterly frustrating,but sadly this is probably my only option,as insurance would not take me anywhere else (Medicare/Medicaid) so I have to keep doing the dance and go through the hoops.
But if she does not have any good news for me on Thursday or anything positive to give to my endocrinologist I am simply just going to have to pay out of pocket cash for a real Psychologist to give me some real therapy,as to be honest I have not really experienced here.
I gotta tell ya I am up to my neck in frustration and it has been far too long. It honestly seems sometimes that she may just be trying to milk my insurance for a bill. The evidence is stacking in that direction. :-\ >:(
She didn't see me again until Late September 2013, even after 2 months of phone calls and such to show her I really did have valid insurance. Anyways this whole time until now, she has offered at best generic advice on how to deal with my family,my emotions and my life in general. She has put off talking with my doctors, rescheduled me and took extended vacations,not really actually doing anything until the day of our appointments, then promising to do certain things the next week and still NOT doing them. She after all is not specialized in Gender Issues.
This is the same LCSW who told me outright in our session (a statement that blew me away and was not really conducive to good therapy) that Jesus was just a manifestation of God and only metaphorically died on the cross. I confronted her about that and asked her to please respect my beliefs and she did but only in a certain way. She was actually mad at me in a way that I was upset about it.
Anyways now she FINALLY talked to my previous Psychologist from California (who I really had wonderful sessions with) and then only after bugging her with texts and voice mails, she made me an appointment to discuss what she talked to my Doctor on the phone about (my doctor was going to approve HRT and said I did indeed have GID back in October of 2012) but of course thats not really my doctor anymore.
I have just not been getting good advice, and trying to get a letter of approval for HRT has been utterly frustrating,but sadly this is probably my only option,as insurance would not take me anywhere else (Medicare/Medicaid) so I have to keep doing the dance and go through the hoops.
But if she does not have any good news for me on Thursday or anything positive to give to my endocrinologist I am simply just going to have to pay out of pocket cash for a real Psychologist to give me some real therapy,as to be honest I have not really experienced here.
I gotta tell ya I am up to my neck in frustration and it has been far too long. It honestly seems sometimes that she may just be trying to milk my insurance for a bill. The evidence is stacking in that direction. :-\ >:(
Title: Re: So I think I am probably done with my therapist, she has been unreliable
Post by: warlockmaker on January 14, 2014, 11:27:31 PM
Post by: warlockmaker on January 14, 2014, 11:27:31 PM
Its your right and so important to find a therapist that you feel comfortable moving forward with. You will need to discuss mental changes as they develop and this person must be a caring person. This forum has a good list of them and I have used two of them on the list. I will say that both have been wonderful and I have settled for one for over a year. This person has been my guide and has made the journey wonderful and I have now been on HRT for 10 months. I continue to speak with the therapist every 2-3 weeks.
Title: Re: So I think I am probably done with my therapist, she has been unreliable
Post by: Paulagirl on January 15, 2014, 08:55:42 AM
Post by: Paulagirl on January 15, 2014, 08:55:42 AM
Please girls...If it is your intention to start HRT, tell the therapist at your very first meeting that he/she is a means to an end. You are the client, and therefore calling the shots. This is not insulting to the therapist, but helps set out your goals early.
Title: Re: So I think I am probably done with my therapist, she has been unreliable
Post by: lilacwoman on January 15, 2014, 08:59:56 AM
Post by: lilacwoman on January 15, 2014, 08:59:56 AM
this therapist is showing she does not want you for a client.
find a new therapist with direct transsexual experiences not just transgender.
find a new therapist with direct transsexual experiences not just transgender.
Title: Re: So I think I am probably done with my therapist, she has been unreliable
Post by: Allyda on January 17, 2014, 07:38:19 AM
Post by: Allyda on January 17, 2014, 07:38:19 AM
This is why I don't trust therapists especially psychologists. Some of them would rather study you while you suffer. I'm from California originally (live in Fl. now) myself, and if your therapist spoke to your previous Dr. in CA. who approved of your needing hrt that should have been all it took. I whish you the best of luck in finding a better more transgender friendly therapist. ;)
Title: Re: So I think I am probably done with my therapist, she has been unreliable
Post by: KittyKat on January 17, 2014, 12:42:53 PM
Post by: KittyKat on January 17, 2014, 12:42:53 PM
I have and will always fire my support if they're not supporting fortunately I have a good therapist and doctor on my "team" right now. As far as my psychologist and psychiatrist I don't get the option of firing the since they were basically assigned to my case....