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Hi girls its been a while since my last post my dysphoria has been under control since dressing full time but now I am starting to feel anxious about my therapy in april ,  last year I posted that I had a doctors appt in late November for a referal to a gender therapist to start my transition but 2 months on and still 3 months to go my anxiety is through the roof it seems it will never come.

Even though I am happy in my current situation with dressing full time, painting my nails a few times a week and wearing makeup on special occations starting transition would seal that happiness in full time I have waited over 25 years to get to this stage does anyone have any tips on what I can do to ease my anxiety.

Emily.T xx

It feels like your anxiousness is completly normal to me, as it's something important and life changing. Maybe try to relax and not stress yourself out over it. Some herbal tea, meditation, whatever works for you. Just keep doing what you've been doing to feel good, 3 months will pass quickly.

I'm not sure if this will be helpful or not, but that were my thoughts anyway

Quote from: Emily.T on January 23, 2014, 09:19:25 PM
Hi girls its been a while since my last post my dysphoria has been under control since dressing full time but now I am starting to feel anxious about my therapy in april ,  last year I posted that I had a doctors appt in late November for a referal to a gender therapist to start my transition but 2 months on and still 3 months to go my anxiety is through the roof it seems it will never come.

Even though I am happy in my current situation with dressing full time, painting my nails a few times a week and wearing makeup on special occations starting transition would seal that happiness in full time I have waited over 25 years to get to this stage does anyone have any tips on what I can do to ease my anxiety.

Emily.T xx

Girl, if you are living full time, you have ALREADY started your transition. In fact you're deep into it.

HRT is not a miracle. It will do somethings but not others. The biggest part of transition is living as a woman, being yourself 24/7. If you're already there, you're already feeling the benefits.

The phrase "dressing full time" sends up a red flag here.......................

Quote from: Katie on January 24, 2014, 10:05:40 AM
The phrase "dressing full time" sends up a red flag here.......................

My curiosity is keeping me from not asking why you say this   :o

As per the post, try not to think so hard on it... You have to understand that HRT is going to take quite some time before you notice anything. Try to enjoy where you are and just be patient ~ I know its hard ~ but as of recently, I've been able to dress full time as well (when i say full time i dont mean make up and everything all the time, but whenever im not at work, i dress female in every way, and at work I'll wear work-friendly girl clothes such as skinny or tight flared jeans with flats and a cute t-shirt with no bra and no makeup) ~ this alone has reduced my anxiety greatly and its allowing for me to be more patient about the pace of my transition (while i sometimes do have freak outs about my body hair or about my muscle mass or about my facial features)

Try to kind of get more in touch with yourself - learn new things, try to figure out and understand your inner woman ~ Thats what i do whenever i start to feel like things are going too slow; I start to reflect and think about things i want to do in the future, or clothes i wanna buy, make-up techniques i want to perfect... you should try to concentrate on the idea that you are a woman with or without hormones... i dont know if that makes sense, but for example; whenever i feel down, i tell myself, or look at myself in the mirror and say: "I am a beautiful woman, and I'm going to improve with time."

However, I have to agree with suzifrommd, even when you start HRT, its going to take a WHILE and the results vary from person to person. The whole point is living confidently and happily as a woman, and take it one day at a time. You could also try a support group (hope that doesn't sound cheesy), I'm not much of a support group "talk-in-a-circle" kind of person, but when i went to a support group, it helped me IMMENSELY with my anxiety or dysphoria.

Thanks for your comments girls I will certainly give them a try and ATM I am also working on my weight so I cam be a healthy weight in April.

How about beard removal too? That's a fairly involved side project in and of itself! Try to find things to keep your mind off it and the time will pass soon enough... :)