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Title: How do I handle this? (NSFW)
Post by: hihellothere on February 07, 2014, 01:40:46 PM
Post by: hihellothere on February 07, 2014, 01:40:46 PM
Hi so I'd like to remain anonymous but I've been out for nearly four years now and I've been with my girlfriend for 6 years.
She is freaked out by any genitalia really but mostly vagina, (really sorry if you don't like that word I don't know an unoffensive way of putting it for guys who hate that) I used to be 100% okay with this because I never liked penetration and I've suffered with terrible dysphoria and suicide for years so while having sex I never asked and she never offered. I still hate penetration but I wouldn't mind if she touched me every now and then last night I lead her hand down but she didnt seem to get the hint and moved her hand back up. I'm not surprised if I told her I know she'd consider it but I want her to enjoy touching me too and if my genitalia freaks her out it makes me really sad I would hate to have her do something she isnt comfortable doing. My main question I guess is how do I let her know I don't see it as me being female but just us being intimate in general I am a guy and I've finally gotten to that part in my life where I'm content with what's between my legs (packers and prosthetics have done wonders)
She is freaked out by any genitalia really but mostly vagina, (really sorry if you don't like that word I don't know an unoffensive way of putting it for guys who hate that) I used to be 100% okay with this because I never liked penetration and I've suffered with terrible dysphoria and suicide for years so while having sex I never asked and she never offered. I still hate penetration but I wouldn't mind if she touched me every now and then last night I lead her hand down but she didnt seem to get the hint and moved her hand back up. I'm not surprised if I told her I know she'd consider it but I want her to enjoy touching me too and if my genitalia freaks her out it makes me really sad I would hate to have her do something she isnt comfortable doing. My main question I guess is how do I let her know I don't see it as me being female but just us being intimate in general I am a guy and I've finally gotten to that part in my life where I'm content with what's between my legs (packers and prosthetics have done wonders)
Title: Re: How do I handle this? (NSFW)
Post by: Ms Grace on February 08, 2014, 01:17:19 AM
Post by: Ms Grace on February 08, 2014, 01:17:19 AM
Hi - sounds like you might need to have a good honest talk with her. Good communication, especially about sex, is so important in any intimate relationship and yet is often avoided resulting in awkward and/or unsatisfying outcomes. Sort out some boundaries before you get into foreplay, what's OK, what isn't, what is maybe/experimental. Let her know what you like, don't like and hear her out on same. Good luck!