Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: Alexa on February 10, 2014, 11:00:14 PM Return to Full Version
Title: What you see in the mirror
Post by: Alexa on February 10, 2014, 11:00:14 PM
Post by: Alexa on February 10, 2014, 11:00:14 PM
I'm wondering how much your mental 'state' effects what you see when you look in the mirror?
Over the last few months since really accepting myself, I've been surprised by the fact that sometimes when I take a quick look into a mirror, I see a girl looking back. The first time this happened, I was washing my hands and took a quick look up into the mirror, and was shocked when I saw a girl looking back at me. It was like my brain for a split second thought it was someone else, and gendered them as female, then realized it was me. A very strange feeling, but it felt great.
Anyway, just wondered if anyone else had this happen, even before HRT or anything?
I'm also hoping this is a sign that I'm making the right decision...
Over the last few months since really accepting myself, I've been surprised by the fact that sometimes when I take a quick look into a mirror, I see a girl looking back. The first time this happened, I was washing my hands and took a quick look up into the mirror, and was shocked when I saw a girl looking back at me. It was like my brain for a split second thought it was someone else, and gendered them as female, then realized it was me. A very strange feeling, but it felt great.
Anyway, just wondered if anyone else had this happen, even before HRT or anything?
I'm also hoping this is a sign that I'm making the right decision...
Title: Re: What you see in the mirror.
Post by: Tristan on February 10, 2014, 11:10:56 PM
Post by: Tristan on February 10, 2014, 11:10:56 PM
Yes mental state def plays a major role in what you see.
Title: Re: What you see in the mirror.
Post by: TerriT on February 10, 2014, 11:15:06 PM
Post by: TerriT on February 10, 2014, 11:15:06 PM
Q: What you see in the mirror?
A: Tragedy.
A: Tragedy.
Title: Re: What you see in the mirror.
Post by: Jessica Merriman on February 10, 2014, 11:20:53 PM
Post by: Jessica Merriman on February 10, 2014, 11:20:53 PM
Quote from: TiffanyT on February 10, 2014, 11:15:06 PMNot with an avatar like yours girl. Look at mine. Now that is a Greek Tragedy in a Godzilla meets Pacific Rim style. ;D I finally became me when I am too old to do anything with it.
Q: What you see in the mirror?
A: Tragedy.
When I look at mine I see a woman, but like most women I will never think I look good enough. I feel good and am much more relaxed and happy though.
Title: Re: What you see in the mirror.
Post by: Tristan on February 10, 2014, 11:24:15 PM
Post by: Tristan on February 10, 2014, 11:24:15 PM
With time you can learn to love yourself
Title: Re: What you see in the mirror.
Post by: Miss_Bungle1991 on February 10, 2014, 11:38:53 PM
Post by: Miss_Bungle1991 on February 10, 2014, 11:38:53 PM
What you see in the mirror?
A total dork. :D
A total dork. :D
Title: What you see in the mirror.
Post by: Emo on February 10, 2014, 11:46:03 PM
Post by: Emo on February 10, 2014, 11:46:03 PM
An androgynous person with annoying visceral fat.
Title: Re: What you see in the mirror.
Post by: Alexa on February 10, 2014, 11:47:06 PM
Post by: Alexa on February 10, 2014, 11:47:06 PM
Quote from: TiffanyT on February 10, 2014, 11:15:06 PM
A: Tragedy.
No way.
Quote from: Laura Squirrel on February 10, 2014, 11:38:53 PM
A total dork. :D
Dorks unite! ;D
Title: Re: What you see in the mirror.
Post by: Jamie D on February 10, 2014, 11:52:56 PM
Post by: Jamie D on February 10, 2014, 11:52:56 PM
Quote from: TiffanyT on February 10, 2014, 11:15:06 PM
Q: What you see in the mirror?
A: Tragedy.
Mirrors are notorious liars!
I see your avatar and picture posts and I see a young woman not unlike any of my three daughters.
I read your posts and I sense a person with a huge heart and an unlimited capacity to love.
That's no "tragedy." :)
Title: Re: What you see in the mirror.
Post by: BeefxCake on February 11, 2014, 12:59:36 AM
Post by: BeefxCake on February 11, 2014, 12:59:36 AM
I can relate, I don't actually own a full length mirror, but theres one in my dorm bathroom (i get my own bathroom so no one can walk in on me) and for the first time in a long time i could see myself head to toe. waist up i pass very well as a guy. im fairly square shouldered but once i got in front of that mirror and i saw how female my hips and my legs were my whole phsychy of im at least somewhat male just shattered and felt disgusted.
luckily i start T in a couple weeks and this won't last forever but it was rough to have that firm, BAM your a female, just slapped in my face after this build up of a masculine appearance for myself. really sucks.
luckily i start T in a couple weeks and this won't last forever but it was rough to have that firm, BAM your a female, just slapped in my face after this build up of a masculine appearance for myself. really sucks.
Title: Re: What you see in the mirror.
Post by: big kim on February 11, 2014, 01:26:40 AM
Post by: big kim on February 11, 2014, 01:26:40 AM
An overweight ugly bitch
Title: Re: What you see in the mirror.
Post by: Yukari-sensei on February 11, 2014, 01:30:30 AM
Post by: Yukari-sensei on February 11, 2014, 01:30:30 AM
When my makeup is perfect, I see a chubby woman who is very much her mother's daughter...
Without it I just hate looking at my face in general. Waiting for HRT to smooth it out into a more feminine shape... or at least hoping it will.
Without it I just hate looking at my face in general. Waiting for HRT to smooth it out into a more feminine shape... or at least hoping it will.
Title: Re: What you see in the mirror
Post by: Alexa on February 11, 2014, 01:40:50 AM
Post by: Alexa on February 11, 2014, 01:40:50 AM
Um.. huh...
I didn't mean for this to turn into an "I think I look ugly" thread. :embarrassed:
I was more wondering if anyone else had their physical view of themselves change due to an acceptance of identity.
Maybe that doesn't make sense...
I didn't mean for this to turn into an "I think I look ugly" thread. :embarrassed:
I was more wondering if anyone else had their physical view of themselves change due to an acceptance of identity.
Maybe that doesn't make sense...
Title: Re: What you see in the mirror
Post by: Cindy on February 11, 2014, 01:57:48 AM
Post by: Cindy on February 11, 2014, 01:57:48 AM
Well I see an attractive woman and no evidence of him. My eyes reflect the pain of my past, but that is what created me. I see hope and a future.
I no longer see the torment and the agony.
Most of all I can now look into a mirror and not feel ill.
I no longer see the torment and the agony.
Most of all I can now look into a mirror and not feel ill.
Title: Re: What you see in the mirror
Post by: Ashey on February 11, 2014, 02:05:21 AM
Post by: Ashey on February 11, 2014, 02:05:21 AM
Quote from: Alexa on February 10, 2014, 11:00:14 PM
I'm wondering how much your mental 'state' effects what you see when you look in the mirror?
Over the last few months since really accepting myself, I've been surprised by the fact that sometimes when I take a quick look into a mirror, I see a girl looking back. The first time this happened, I was washing my hands and took a quick look up into the mirror, and was shocked when I saw a girl looking back at me. It was like my brain for a split second thought it was someone else, and gendered them as female, then realized it was me. A very strange feeling, but it felt great.
Anyway, just wondered if anyone else had this happen, even before HRT or anything?
I'm also hoping this is a sign that I'm making the right decision...
Oh yes, has happened to me a few times. Still does, especially going clothes shopping. But I can't tell if confidence changed my appearance or if my appearance gave me more confidence. Maybe both? But I have tried hard to see my old self in the mirror, to see a 'guy', but I can't anymore. Realistically, it's not as if a whole lot has changed. Nothing too drastic. But still, I can't see 'him' anymore. If anything, when I try to masculinize my appearance in those moments (squaring my jaw, broadening my shoulders, scowling lol, anything else I can think of) all I end up seeing is a butch female. It's very surreal and weird.
Title: Re: What you see in the mirror
Post by: Emily.T on February 11, 2014, 02:22:34 AM
Post by: Emily.T on February 11, 2014, 02:22:34 AM
I see a balding, freckly ugly person.
Title: Re: What you see in the mirror
Post by: noeleena on February 11, 2014, 02:32:26 AM
Post by: noeleena on February 11, 2014, 02:32:26 AM
Hi,
I see and know what i am with out a mirror the mirror shows what i look like and that will remain with me for the rest of my life, it does not reflect who i am as a person , well in some ways thats not quite true my looks are what others see and that is not an issue i dont pretend to be other than who i am .
im an intersexed female with male facial features so .... and like many of the women over the years have the same detail . our bodys and features are shaped by our hormones and a lot more we dont see going on in side of us so does how we look have to say how we are recived by others , so some of us dont have those finer features of other females it does not exclude us from being female or growing into women just because a certain group . ..... well some men think we should all look like sexy chic's .
so is it only the outer beauty that is highest in people's thinking of what we should be like, or do we have an inner beauty that surpass's that outer beauty , think about it .....
I know what i have and i know what others think about that, my acceptance is about what i show from my heart or inner beauty , its not based on how i look,
...noeleena...
I see and know what i am with out a mirror the mirror shows what i look like and that will remain with me for the rest of my life, it does not reflect who i am as a person , well in some ways thats not quite true my looks are what others see and that is not an issue i dont pretend to be other than who i am .
im an intersexed female with male facial features so .... and like many of the women over the years have the same detail . our bodys and features are shaped by our hormones and a lot more we dont see going on in side of us so does how we look have to say how we are recived by others , so some of us dont have those finer features of other females it does not exclude us from being female or growing into women just because a certain group . ..... well some men think we should all look like sexy chic's .
so is it only the outer beauty that is highest in people's thinking of what we should be like, or do we have an inner beauty that surpass's that outer beauty , think about it .....
I know what i have and i know what others think about that, my acceptance is about what i show from my heart or inner beauty , its not based on how i look,
...noeleena...
Title: Re: What you see in the mirror
Post by: Miss_Bungle1991 on February 11, 2014, 11:17:45 AM
Post by: Miss_Bungle1991 on February 11, 2014, 11:17:45 AM
Quote from: Alexa on February 11, 2014, 01:40:50 AM
Um.. huh...
I didn't mean for this to turn into an "I think I look ugly" thread. :embarrassed:
I was more wondering if anyone else had their physical view of themselves change due to an acceptance of identity.
Maybe that doesn't make sense...
I look okay. I just like to poke fun at myself. ;D
Title: Re: What you see in the mirror
Post by: Edge on February 11, 2014, 12:31:31 PM
Post by: Edge on February 11, 2014, 12:31:31 PM
I see a stranger who is not me. Sometimes, I see hints of me in that person, but mostly, they just look like someone I don't know and it's surreal.
Title: Re: What you see in the mirror
Post by: FalseHybridPrincess on February 11, 2014, 03:26:36 PM
Post by: FalseHybridPrincess on February 11, 2014, 03:26:36 PM
I used to see a complete stranger on the mirror...
now there are times that I see myself too...just sometimes...
I wonder if my mind is playing tricks or me or if im really changing.
now there are times that I see myself too...just sometimes...
I wonder if my mind is playing tricks or me or if im really changing.
Title: Re: What you see in the mirror
Post by: Calder Smith on February 11, 2014, 03:34:43 PM
Post by: Calder Smith on February 11, 2014, 03:34:43 PM
I see total ugliness in the mirror.
Title: Re: What you see in the mirror
Post by: ConfusedHumanUK on February 11, 2014, 04:03:06 PM
Post by: ConfusedHumanUK on February 11, 2014, 04:03:06 PM
I've tried asking myself this question and I cant answer it. I've never been able to. I've always looked at myself in the mirror and feel a bit silly.
I cant tell if what I feel is hatred, or disgust. I'd guess somewhere in-between but I really don't know. I don't get any kind of sinking feeling as I guess it's always been a case of 'meh thats me'.
I cant tell if what I feel is hatred, or disgust. I'd guess somewhere in-between but I really don't know. I don't get any kind of sinking feeling as I guess it's always been a case of 'meh thats me'.