Community Conversation => Transitioning => Coming out of the closet => Topic started by: Emi on February 11, 2014, 10:59:01 AM Return to Full Version
Title: Coming out to friends
Post by: Emi on February 11, 2014, 10:59:01 AM
Post by: Emi on February 11, 2014, 10:59:01 AM
Actually, I came out to 2 close friends.
The first was first thinking and telling that I was saying I'm MtF because I feel bad due to puberty but he changed his mind after that and said me that I should wait and see if I'm still thinking about transition (but wont it be too late then ? I mean, I'm adolescent, if I start now, I can seem very femme). He is the most comprehensive one I came out to but in fact I feel bad because I dont feel right in my skin, but he thinks I want to transition because I feel bad...
The second close friend I came to first said that if it's what I want, I should do it, but when we spoke again, he spoke to me like if he was about to send me in an asylum, saying that I must be totally insane to say such things and that I "just" should change a bit my behavior and be more masculine. I said him "->-bleeped-<- you" and that I wont speak again with him. It's true ; I don't want to stay friend with a such dumbass.
So now I dont know if I had better not to come out to anyone and if I had better to wait and see if it's not "just a puberty thing", like my friend said, or if I'm really MtF, and I dont know if I had better to find a therapist first.
PS : I'm a french high school student so scuse me if I dont perfectly speak english.
The first was first thinking and telling that I was saying I'm MtF because I feel bad due to puberty but he changed his mind after that and said me that I should wait and see if I'm still thinking about transition (but wont it be too late then ? I mean, I'm adolescent, if I start now, I can seem very femme). He is the most comprehensive one I came out to but in fact I feel bad because I dont feel right in my skin, but he thinks I want to transition because I feel bad...
The second close friend I came to first said that if it's what I want, I should do it, but when we spoke again, he spoke to me like if he was about to send me in an asylum, saying that I must be totally insane to say such things and that I "just" should change a bit my behavior and be more masculine. I said him "->-bleeped-<- you" and that I wont speak again with him. It's true ; I don't want to stay friend with a such dumbass.
So now I dont know if I had better not to come out to anyone and if I had better to wait and see if it's not "just a puberty thing", like my friend said, or if I'm really MtF, and I dont know if I had better to find a therapist first.
PS : I'm a french high school student so scuse me if I dont perfectly speak english.
Title: Re: Coming out to friends
Post by: FalseHybridPrincess on February 11, 2014, 03:31:50 PM
Post by: FalseHybridPrincess on February 11, 2014, 03:31:50 PM
forget about the puberty thing dear...its a bad joke...
thinking you d rather live your life as a girl , thats not puberty thats your mind...
anyways
do what feels right , if you feel the need to come out to more people then do it...most people will be sad about it but kind enough to accept you, be ready for every possible reaction.
thinking you d rather live your life as a girl , thats not puberty thats your mind...
anyways
do what feels right , if you feel the need to come out to more people then do it...most people will be sad about it but kind enough to accept you, be ready for every possible reaction.
Title: Re: Coming out to friends
Post by: Emi on February 12, 2014, 12:56:26 AM
Post by: Emi on February 12, 2014, 12:56:26 AM
Yes but my friend's reaction was so bad I dont want it to happen again :(
Title: Re: Coming out to friends
Post by: kelly_aus on February 12, 2014, 01:04:33 AM
Post by: kelly_aus on February 12, 2014, 01:04:33 AM
Quote from: LonelyFrench on February 12, 2014, 12:56:26 AM
Yes but my friend's reaction was so bad I dont want it to happen again :(
Sadly, transitioning may cost you some friends and family.
Title: Re: Coming out to friends
Post by: Emi on February 12, 2014, 01:16:08 AM
Post by: Emi on February 12, 2014, 01:16:08 AM
Yes I believe too :(
I think the worst will be with my brother who is a bit homophobic, etc :-\
I think the worst will be with my brother who is a bit homophobic, etc :-\