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Title: Came out to my mom
Post by: Ryan55 on February 12, 2014, 05:22:16 PM
So i decided to come out fully to my mom today. I went to my first therapist appointment and it somehow gave me the courage to do it. It actually went really well. I was surprised. I was like half shaking/crying telling her how my whole life I wanted to be a boy, the whole nine yards lol and she sat there looking at me noding and telling me she understands and that if someone told her she couldn't do her girly things she liked cause she was in a guys body, she wouldn't be happy either. My mom is a big fan of cher, so I mentioned chaz bono and showed her some interview clips of him and cher to maybe educate her a little about it. My mom was really understanding. She told me to keep seeing the therapist, and that she doesn't want me going on hormones though because shes afraid it will hurt me. She basically said couldn't i just dress like a boy and i tried explaining to her what transitioning is, but I think that will take more for her to process. I told her my therapist is willing to have her come in and explain, but my mom said shes not ready yet, which is understandable, so i'm going to meet with my therapist more before bringing my mom in. My mom said she is open to reading articles and watching videos about being transgender which is a plus, she said she is going to go buy chaz bonos book lol. Overall I was really surprised, but she accepted me. Although she did say I would always be her daughter to her, which I guess is also understandable. So it feels like a big weight off my back.
Title: Re: Came out to my mom
Post by: mrs izzy on February 12, 2014, 06:13:16 PM
Glad most all the things ended up positive in your chat with your mom. It will take time for sure with her to come to a understanding.

Stay the course with your therapist and your inner self.

Safe passage on your path you will walk

Isabell
Title: Re: Came out to my mom
Post by: Tristan on February 12, 2014, 08:30:06 PM
Congratulations . Sounds like your mom will fully come around soon
Title: Re: Came out to my mom
Post by: Jessica Merriman on February 12, 2014, 08:35:44 PM
You go Ryan!! That was the first major hurdle all of us faced. Congrats on your courage. ;)
Title: Re: Came out to my mom
Post by: Xenguy on February 12, 2014, 08:44:17 PM
Congrats bro (: Hope all goes well for you!
Title: Re: Came out to my mom
Post by: Ryan55 on February 13, 2014, 06:51:10 AM
thanks guys, appreciate it