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I'm really freaking out.  I've NEVER had a date for valentines day.  and well I love this girl so much I was sure she would dump me.  or something would go wrong. Only now,  I need to plan the second half of the day and I have never done this.  And I was so sure I would be hurt again, that I didn't plan.  HELP!

Oh Money doen't matter I'm could go upto about $300 for food and entertainment.  I jsut have NO fluffing idea how to get a place last minute or.  what do people normaly do!?  I always sat at home and got drunk.  playin games with all the others.  I literaly don't know what to do and I'm feaking out.

Dinner at a nice restaurant followed by a trip to a comedy club or a jazz bar or something like that might work. Congrats on the date btw.

Ask her what she'd like to do. I've only been in a relationship over Valentines Day once, and that was a long time ago. We had a nice time, planned it out together. Personally Valentines is massively overrated but if one's partner has expectations about it there's not much you can do about that. If you don't know what her expectations are you're going to have to fish for clues or as outright. Oh, and, congrats!  :laugh:

well, If you know how to cook have way decent, you can always go for the filet minion , lobster, shrimp and champagne quiet dinner for two with a movie video.

First thing baby is relax! One thing life has taught me is spontaneous things without a lot of planning are much more enjoyable. Otherwise you feel like you have to keep a schedule or something. Instead of a lot of planning meet up and see what sounds best for dinner. Your craving for a certain food may change before you get there. Then walk or drive around and see what catches your attention. It could be a play, movie, a club or whatever. Keep it loose and go with the flow. Have fun instead of worrying about the logistics of it. YOU are the reason she is going out, not the itinerary. Have a great time baby! Let us know how it went. :)

Quote from: Jennifer.L on February 13, 2014, 12:53:18 PM
and well I love this girl so much I was sure she would dump me.  or something would go wrong.

No, dear. You're a valuable human being. She is lucky to have your company on a special day. Of course you're going to plan a special date for her (the fact that you're there will make it special if nothing else will), but that is just ONE OF THE MANY REASONS why she is lucky to be dating you.

As for what to do with her, I can only say what's right for me, which would be along the lines of what Ms Grace said.

I'm all about togetherness. I'd plan the date together. Ask her what she wants to do.

I could cook lobster.  Well if I have instructions....   Ok how does this sound?  I live in a beach town, and there is a margaritaville, and a Hilton both with good restaurants in them.  how romantic would it be to spend the evening at a nice restaurant then spend the night at a really nice hotel?

She says she wants us to surprise each other.  But I.... Ok she shot that down, the hotel.  BUt ok must go see if I can find something nice I can make.  see if thats doable.

I'm more of a personal intimate person so I would be the type to cook and stay away from the crowds. Filet mingon like stephaniec mentioned with a nice bottle of Chianti and soft candle light at you home would be perfect. You could even cut and shape the filets into hearts if you wanted to be creative. Then after that go out. Besides trying to get a reservation at a trendy or intimate restaurant this close to valentines may be a little tricky.

Ok that doesnt sound half bad.  How do you handle,  well you start cooking and what does your date do while you cook?  or um?  I've had less that 20 dates in my whole life.  hmmmm.

I would try to find a classy restaurant and make a reservation if possible. Or cook her a dinner?? Awesome home meal followed by a night on the town? (if you're in a city) just spending time together..Go for a nice walk somewhere scenic. if all else GO DANCING!! that's always fun. Also you could go ice skating as well or maybe karaoke? lol idk last minute stuff is tough. I'd just keep it simple but thoughtful if I was in your situation.

Funny, I am cooking filet mignon for Valentines. I thought I was being unique.

Mmmmmm... lobster!

It is not a date! It is a special day for both of you. Set the mood. Dim the lights. Play some Barry White.

Let her drink some wine while you cook. You can talk and cook can't you?

Quote from: Tori on February 13, 2014, 02:25:54 PM
Funny, I am cooking filet mignon for Valentines. I thought I was being unique.

Mmmmmm... lobster!

It is not a date! It is a special day for both of you. Set the mood. Dim the lights. Play some Barry White.

Let her drink some wine while you cook. You can talk and cook can't you?

Barry White or Led Zeppelin

I am more of a Zep gal, but I mentioned Barry White to make a point.

A home cooked meal.

Lobster Dinner, 2 tails each, Backed
Red Potatoes Baked
Aseragus Baked.

Nice white wine

Yellow flowers.


What do you girls think?

http://www.bhg.com/recipes/how-to/cook-with-fruits-and-vegetables/how-to-cook-asparagus/
http://www.lobsterhelp.com/baking-lobster-tails.html
http://allrecipes.com/recipe/roasted-new-red-potatoes/

All 3 are in the oven at 450 degrees.  so its jsut a matter of preparing then then putting them in, so they all finish at the same time!

sounds perfect

Ok now i am getting hungry. Wish you luck on your special dinner.

Isabell

That sounds like a perfect valentine's day dinner. Now all you need is a romantic movie to cuddle up to after you eat. :) Oh! and popcorn or something yummy to munch on.  :)

Quote from: Jennifer.L on February 13, 2014, 04:30:55 PM
A home cooked meal.

Lobster Dinner, 2 tails each, Backed
Red Potatoes Baked
Aseragus Baked.

Nice white wine

Yellow flowers.


What do you girls think?

Get yourself a small jar or can of Hollandaise Sauce for the asparagus.  I like Aunt Penny brand.  I usually find it at the store near the mustard, ketchup, and mayonnaise.  You just need to warm it up.

Flowers, nice touch.

I have a "Surf & Turf" planned - steaks and lobster tails.

My GF and I are just going to go buy the necessary ingredients to make an awesome steak dinner for two. Probably will be lots of bacon - we are addicted to it but have not had a bacon bender in a while. Not sure what we're going to have with said steak, but we'll just look at what there is at the store and figure it out.

We're also probably going to watch a movie or something like that - either in a theater or just at our apartment.

lobster.... mmmm yummy. If I rub your feet will you cook for me lol!!!

This is me trying to get a Valentine's Day date. (http://imgur.com/cQPkJYg) Wanna trade problems?  :D

Make her something. One year, I bought a bouquet of red roses, chopped them up, used the stems as a frame, and super glued or strung the rose petals (and rose flowers that just had their stems chopped off, onto the frame. Then I glued the frame to another frame that I had pasted a Photoshopped image of a beautiful field of red flowers that matched the roses and used a program to write a poem on it. Then I took the creation, put it in a big box, and wrapped a red ribbon around it. She loved it and kept it on her wall during our entire relationship and treated it like gold. Nothing says I care then taking the time to make something heartfelt.

Another time, for fun, I liked this girl so I made her medal. She worked really hard at her job but wasn't recognized, just criticizred. So I got two balls of yarn and strung them around a round piece of medal until all you could see or feel was the the pink and yellow (her fave colors) yarn. Then I cut letters (like actual letters i, e, t, y) out of a magazine and super glued them onto the medal saying employee of the century. It just showed that someone acknowledged and admired her hard work.