Community Conversation => Transitioning => Coming out of the closet => Topic started by: Keely Mcbain on February 16, 2014, 05:17:20 AM Return to Full Version
Title: Who knows?
Post by: Keely Mcbain on February 16, 2014, 05:17:20 AM
Post by: Keely Mcbain on February 16, 2014, 05:17:20 AM
Hello
So a while ago someone mentioned that my significant other might "Already know" about me being Trans. I thought it was far-fetched at the time, considering it was a stranger online who said it. But lately I've been thinking that they might have been right.
So here's my question; Has anyone else had similar circumstance where you have had any/everyone else know before coming out?
If so what was it like when you did come out?
So a while ago someone mentioned that my significant other might "Already know" about me being Trans. I thought it was far-fetched at the time, considering it was a stranger online who said it. But lately I've been thinking that they might have been right.
So here's my question; Has anyone else had similar circumstance where you have had any/everyone else know before coming out?
If so what was it like when you did come out?
Title: Re: Who knows?
Post by: ath on February 16, 2014, 05:58:44 AM
Post by: ath on February 16, 2014, 05:58:44 AM
When I came out to my girlfriend, she told me "That makes so much sense!"
It was still a total surprise to her though.
Even if your girlfriend has had clues that she has noticed, even if they are a lot of clues, she may not have connected the dots, and even if she has it might come as a total surprise to her that you are actually trans.
Even though mine was surprised, my coming out has gone over really well. In the time since then our relationship has changed but not really in a negative way. Just in neutral/positive ways. We're both still getting used to it (I still can't believe I did it :D), but she's completely supportive.
It was still a total surprise to her though.
Even if your girlfriend has had clues that she has noticed, even if they are a lot of clues, she may not have connected the dots, and even if she has it might come as a total surprise to her that you are actually trans.
Even though mine was surprised, my coming out has gone over really well. In the time since then our relationship has changed but not really in a negative way. Just in neutral/positive ways. We're both still getting used to it (I still can't believe I did it :D), but she's completely supportive.
Title: Re: Who knows?
Post by: Emmaline on February 16, 2014, 06:37:38 AM
Post by: Emmaline on February 16, 2014, 06:37:38 AM
Lol... I got the "that makes so much sense" as her second sentence.
A few old friends said it too... then proceeded to list out experiences that proved it. Awesome!
A few old friends said it too... then proceeded to list out experiences that proved it. Awesome!
Title: Re: Who knows?
Post by: Hikari on February 16, 2014, 07:33:38 AM
Post by: Hikari on February 16, 2014, 07:33:38 AM
I thought my ex knew, but turns out she just thought I was gay...despite the fact I never flirted with men, and I only had sex with her. Apparently having an appreciation for clothes and acting femme just made her immediately think "gay". Which is insane because if that is what she thought, then why marry me lol? I had to come out to her as trans, and then come out to her as trans again because apparently the first time didn't "stick", she thought I wanted to be a drag queen the first time...
I suppose my point in all of that is, many people will think something is up and go somewhere not quite right with their thoughts. Many people also don't understand being TG isn't the same thing as crossdressing, drag, etc. So be weary of people who act knowing but, are thinking something quite different from what you are.
I suppose my point in all of that is, many people will think something is up and go somewhere not quite right with their thoughts. Many people also don't understand being TG isn't the same thing as crossdressing, drag, etc. So be weary of people who act knowing but, are thinking something quite different from what you are.
Title: Re: Who knows?
Post by: Jessica Merriman on February 16, 2014, 10:04:57 AM
Post by: Jessica Merriman on February 16, 2014, 10:04:57 AM
The person who had already figured it out before me simply said "What took you so long". :)