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Title: Wife Pleasantly Surprised Me with This Facebook Post
Post by: Sydney_NYC on February 22, 2014, 08:26:08 PM
Post by: Sydney_NYC on February 22, 2014, 08:26:08 PM
As some of you may or may not know, even though my wife has been supportive of my transitioning, she has been on the fence about whether or not she wants to stay together. (Link to Post About That) (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,159576.msg1360815.html#msg1360815)
Last night we had dinner out with one of my close lesbian friends (the same one I went to a lesbian bar with last week) who both of us have confided to her about our relationship. I was working late at a client and our friend asked us out for dinner. Since she was closer to her and I was closer to the restaurant, she picked up my wife and I went and got us a table. (They don't take reservations.) On the way, my friend kind of gave my wife a talk about her really hurting me about how she is handling this. She advised her that pushing away from me and at this point she just might as well throw in the towel on our marriage with her behavior. Something clicked in my wife and she realized how she had been emotionally cheating on me with her actions. At first she was mad at her, but she realized that she was right. When she came in, the restaurant she nearly cried and held onto me tight said she was sorry for being such an ->-bleeped-<-. She was showing me all kind of attention that I had not felt from her in a long time. (We both were comfortable since we were in a very LGBT friendly area and half the patrons were probably LGBT as well, so yes we were in the Gayborhood.) We enjoyed dinner and had a great time as another friend joined us. Afterwords, we drove home and my wife said that she was no longer interested in being with anyone else but me, and that she was no longer interested in a poly relationship with anyone. (But we both could play in the BDSM scene with others as long as there is no sexual component to it like it was prior to last summer.) She asked me to forgive her emotional infidelity. I did and we had were planning on sex, but she had not got over her period yet. However she was happy to use the Hitachi on me last night. Today she posted the following on Facebook:
The amount of positive comments we received on Facebook was astounding.
However, we do have one slightly bizarre problems. Sometimes when I smile, I remind her of her favorite aunt who passed away years ago. It kind of freaks her out a little bit, but hopefully since I'm only a little over 2 months on HRT, my face will change more enough not to remind her. She did say that she feels I've crossed the threshold now were I'm looking more feminine than masculine now and she's really loving how I'm turning out in the looks department (with the exception of the aunt thing.)
-Sydney
Last night we had dinner out with one of my close lesbian friends (the same one I went to a lesbian bar with last week) who both of us have confided to her about our relationship. I was working late at a client and our friend asked us out for dinner. Since she was closer to her and I was closer to the restaurant, she picked up my wife and I went and got us a table. (They don't take reservations.) On the way, my friend kind of gave my wife a talk about her really hurting me about how she is handling this. She advised her that pushing away from me and at this point she just might as well throw in the towel on our marriage with her behavior. Something clicked in my wife and she realized how she had been emotionally cheating on me with her actions. At first she was mad at her, but she realized that she was right. When she came in, the restaurant she nearly cried and held onto me tight said she was sorry for being such an ->-bleeped-<-. She was showing me all kind of attention that I had not felt from her in a long time. (We both were comfortable since we were in a very LGBT friendly area and half the patrons were probably LGBT as well, so yes we were in the Gayborhood.) We enjoyed dinner and had a great time as another friend joined us. Afterwords, we drove home and my wife said that she was no longer interested in being with anyone else but me, and that she was no longer interested in a poly relationship with anyone. (But we both could play in the BDSM scene with others as long as there is no sexual component to it like it was prior to last summer.) She asked me to forgive her emotional infidelity. I did and we had were planning on sex, but she had not got over her period yet. However she was happy to use the Hitachi on me last night. Today she posted the following on Facebook:
QuoteWhen I chose <old male name> as my husband, I had in mind:
1. Mental Stimulation
2. Love
3. Honesty
4. Kindness
5. Integrity
6. Compassion
7. Spiritual Compatibility
8. Physical Attraction
When <old male name> told me he wanted to become Sydney, I was shocked. I really was. Many people in my family were, too. I want everyone to know I appreciate your concern for my well being and my happiness. Thank you.
The only thing that has changed in that relationship is the last thing on the list. I can't imagine finding anyone who suits numbers 1-7 better than she does. Yes, we've had our issues just like every other couple. Yes, we've fought through them. I love Sydney. Right now, I'm choosing to stay in this marriage because I want to be here.
I don't want to have conversations concerning someone else's opinion of what my happiness should be. Anyone who knows me knows that I am not the kind to be easily influenced. I wouldn't be here if I didn't want to be here.
I would appreciate it if people would be respectful my marriage. I was married to a man, people respected him. Now he has decided to become a woman. I wish people would show the same respect for my wife.
The amount of positive comments we received on Facebook was astounding.
However, we do have one slightly bizarre problems. Sometimes when I smile, I remind her of her favorite aunt who passed away years ago. It kind of freaks her out a little bit, but hopefully since I'm only a little over 2 months on HRT, my face will change more enough not to remind her. She did say that she feels I've crossed the threshold now were I'm looking more feminine than masculine now and she's really loving how I'm turning out in the looks department (with the exception of the aunt thing.)
-Sydney
Title: Re: Wife Pleasantly Surprised Me with This Facebook Post
Post by: peky on February 22, 2014, 09:03:11 PM
Post by: peky on February 22, 2014, 09:03:11 PM
all my best wishes to you and your wife in your new journey.
G-d Bless you both !
Peky
G-d Bless you both !
Peky
Title: Re: Wife Pleasantly Surprised Me with This Facebook Post
Post by: FalseHybridPrincess on February 22, 2014, 09:05:41 PM
Post by: FalseHybridPrincess on February 22, 2014, 09:05:41 PM
That was almost epic ...oh wait must have been cause im listening to epic music right now ..lol :angel:
Its really awesome that your wife supports you like that :)
Its really awesome that your wife supports you like that :)
Title: Re: Wife Pleasantly Surprised Me with This Facebook Post
Post by: Tori on February 22, 2014, 09:48:13 PM
Post by: Tori on February 22, 2014, 09:48:13 PM
That got me crying in a good way. HORMONES! (Shakes fist)
It is an amazing adventure working through transition with someone who wedded the man. Kudos to all the people out there with the fortitude to stand by their trans folk!
It is an amazing adventure working through transition with someone who wedded the man. Kudos to all the people out there with the fortitude to stand by their trans folk!
Title: Re: Wife Pleasantly Surprised Me with This Facebook Post
Post by: Pia Bianca on February 22, 2014, 11:48:57 PM
Post by: Pia Bianca on February 22, 2014, 11:48:57 PM
Quote from: Tori on February 22, 2014, 09:48:13 PM
That got me crying in a good way.
Me too. It's just... awesome-ness happening. Sydney, I'm all happy for you!
Title: Re: Wife Pleasantly Surprised Me with This Facebook Post
Post by: Alyssa L. on February 25, 2014, 09:27:12 AM
Post by: Alyssa L. on February 25, 2014, 09:27:12 AM
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Title: Re: Wife Pleasantly Surprised Me with This Facebook Post
Post by: Aina on February 25, 2014, 11:39:37 AM
Post by: Aina on February 25, 2014, 11:39:37 AM
That is simply just awesome! Not sure what else to say.
Title: Re: Wife Pleasantly Surprised Me with This Facebook Post
Post by: JourneyingSam on February 25, 2014, 12:03:40 PM
Post by: JourneyingSam on February 25, 2014, 12:03:40 PM
Your post brought a tear of joy to my eye ... how totally lovely!
Sam x
Sam x