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Title: Hello!
Post by: kerala on February 28, 2014, 08:31:44 PM
Post by: kerala on February 28, 2014, 08:31:44 PM
Hello!
I was born a Male, comfortably cross-dressed up to my 20's but stopped altogether when work got more "serious". I've had the odd gay relationship here and there but mostly girl-friends when in the UK. Then moved on to South America where society just felt far more rigidly gendered than at home (you can do/be almost anything in London) and hence became automatically and "osmotically" more masculinised by the Latin culture. I have to say, it wasn't a fully unpleasant experience.
However, a number of recent personal experiences (including returning to the UK) are causing me now to revisiting my sense of masculinity, not with any huge intent for a bodily "transition" as some are, or have done, on these boards, but more simply noticing a need and desire to tone down some of the harsher qualities I have picked up over the years and to reclaim some of the softness and ambiguity from my youth that I know still form a very real part of who I am. I'm concerned also at how much advertising and the media affects me and my concept of what I "should be" as a man and I'm investigating academically the borderland between biology, psychology and society that impacts upon this sense of personal identity. If I am not being or expressing myself fully, then why not? If I am being constrained or limited, then what is doing that?
Androgyny and gender-fluidity are terms I had not come across before visiting here, but I see these as valuable concepts to explore. Having read a few thousand of the forum postings here in the last week it is clear that the community here are at once authentic and knowledgeable if not to say high-spirited at times! I send you all a blessing for your openness and hope I can exemplify these same qualities in return.
Kerala
I was born a Male, comfortably cross-dressed up to my 20's but stopped altogether when work got more "serious". I've had the odd gay relationship here and there but mostly girl-friends when in the UK. Then moved on to South America where society just felt far more rigidly gendered than at home (you can do/be almost anything in London) and hence became automatically and "osmotically" more masculinised by the Latin culture. I have to say, it wasn't a fully unpleasant experience.
However, a number of recent personal experiences (including returning to the UK) are causing me now to revisiting my sense of masculinity, not with any huge intent for a bodily "transition" as some are, or have done, on these boards, but more simply noticing a need and desire to tone down some of the harsher qualities I have picked up over the years and to reclaim some of the softness and ambiguity from my youth that I know still form a very real part of who I am. I'm concerned also at how much advertising and the media affects me and my concept of what I "should be" as a man and I'm investigating academically the borderland between biology, psychology and society that impacts upon this sense of personal identity. If I am not being or expressing myself fully, then why not? If I am being constrained or limited, then what is doing that?
Androgyny and gender-fluidity are terms I had not come across before visiting here, but I see these as valuable concepts to explore. Having read a few thousand of the forum postings here in the last week it is clear that the community here are at once authentic and knowledgeable if not to say high-spirited at times! I send you all a blessing for your openness and hope I can exemplify these same qualities in return.
Kerala
Title: Re: Hello!
Post by: Jamie D on February 28, 2014, 08:45:46 PM
Post by: Jamie D on February 28, 2014, 08:45:46 PM
Kerala, we have a wonderfully diverse community. I am very happy you found us. :)
Title: Re: Hello!
Post by: Jessica Merriman on February 28, 2014, 08:47:50 PM
Post by: Jessica Merriman on February 28, 2014, 08:47:50 PM
A big warm welcome the the family kerala! Since you have been reading I hope you get the sense that this is a family. I have formed relationships here that will last quit a while and even have an "adopted" daughter who I try to mentor. Feel free to rant, vent, share good news (we like that), learn and just have some distracting fun. After 15 posting you can use the PM feature so if there is ever anything I can do for you don't hesitate at all. Here is a BIG HUG :icon_hug: to welcome you and make you feel right at home! :)
Title: Re: Hello!
Post by: V M on February 28, 2014, 08:51:11 PM
Post by: V M on February 28, 2014, 08:51:11 PM
Hi Kerala :icon_wave:
Welcome to Susan's :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
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Hugs
V M
Welcome to Susan's :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
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Hugs
V M
Title: Re: Hello!
Post by: kerala on February 28, 2014, 11:22:16 PM
Post by: kerala on February 28, 2014, 11:22:16 PM
Dear all,
Thank you all for your kind welcome!
Kerala
Thank you all for your kind welcome!
Kerala
Title: Re: Hello!
Post by: Miss_Bungle1991 on February 28, 2014, 11:27:20 PM
Post by: Miss_Bungle1991 on February 28, 2014, 11:27:20 PM
Hi!! Welcome to the forum! :)
Title: Re: Hello!
Post by: kerala on March 01, 2014, 07:39:41 AM
Post by: kerala on March 01, 2014, 07:39:41 AM
Thank you Laura Squirrel, everyone has been so welcoming.